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writes:im 25 years old and i feel like my life is going nowhere. Ever since I was 18 I have been trying to become a model and have been turned down every time. Unfortunately I am very short and this is my downfall. I am also a singer and have taken part in a few auditions but have never got anywhere. The thing is, I feel like my life is going to waste. I feel like my talents are just wasted. I have a good group of friends, a loving boyfriend, a mediocre job in an office and a flat but Im not happy. I cant feel motivated at work because I feel that I shouldnt be there and I should be doing something fun and interesting. Why cant I just accept that this is how it is going to be and just be happy with what ive got? I live in a small town and there are not much opportunities for people of my age. Some of my friends are settling down and having kids but that thought scares me as I feel I have so much more to give before I do that. But how? Everywhere I turn I get door shut in my face.
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reader, lexilou +, writes (29 July 2008):
 Ok so if your short you are probably not going to be a catwalk model but there are lots of other modelling opportunities out there. Contact some different agencies that specialise in other areas. As for singing, if you are that good set up a band or get some backing tracks done and go out on the pub circuits. It may not lead to fame and fortune but its a start and you will be doing something new and excting.
Look at what you have got going for you there are so many people less fortunate than yourself. We all have days when we want more out of life and we either accept our lot or do something about it x
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reader, Curiousbynature  +, writes (29 July 2008):
I think you should focus on the positives in your life. You are living your life right now. Just be happy you are healthy and you have people that love you. If great things are meant to happen to you, they will. Just dont be too impatient.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2008): Don't let anyone tell you that it's too late and to give up your passions. Age requirements for things like that are going up everyday. The 25's and 30 somethings of today are not like yesterday. Only GOD knows what's in store for you and there are plenty of entertainers who got a late start. Robin Thicke is one. You have to try until YOU feel it's time to give it up. People told Kate Moss that she was too short, and she broke through that ceiling. Maybe you can too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2008): Everybody has to work to get somewhere. Don't feel like the world owes you and face up to the fact that if you are going to get where you want to go, you have to work hard and accept that people are going to slam doors in your face. Sorry dear but if you're 25 now I doubt any million-dollar modelling deals are going to come your way. Maybe it is time you accept that modelling and singing will not make promising careers and look in other directions. What other hobbies do you have? Maybe try focusing on those? I'm not saying give up modelling or singing, but accept that you're not going to be Madonna or Kate Moss. Good luck dear I know it's a hard reality check but maybe your unhappiness is a sign that you should find a new life path. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2008): i am a musician and know how hard it is to be successful!
in NY (where i live), there's a never ending number of talented musicians trying to make it big, and i am no exception.
all these years of struggling for a career have made me realize that the people who are living the dream are the ones that didn't give up even when the times were bad.
it sounds to me that you need a fresh start somewhere where you can get back in the game.
Move to a bigger city (or go work there) and surrond yourself with different people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2008): I understand how you feel but instead of focusing in what you don't have you should be grateful for what you have at this time. You said you have friends, a boyfriend who loves you and also have a job. Be grateful and plan how you can put your talents to work. First at all we have to be realistic you said you wanted to be a model, you know very well that becoming a model is a hard journey there is so much competence out there you have to know your physical limitations and accept that for a person that is not that tall there are few opportunities, that world is sad and difficult if you are short do yourself a favor and stop pursuing that career. Now you said you sing keep trying because that is another hard and long road if you really want people to take you seriously. You don't have to give up your dreams you just have to stop being hard on you because the first person that rejects you is yourself, accept yourself the way that you are, a talented girl with so much energy and spirit that does not want to settle down for now and does not want to have kids, that is okay.I am pretty sure you must have another interests in your life focus on those you might be surprised to discover the potential that you have even though so many doors have been shut in your face. Keep trying just acknowledging that nothing is easy in this life and we all have to work to achieve what we want.Look at the mirror and give yourself a big hug and stop being so hard on you!Hugs,
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