My neighbour is the perfect girl -- what do I do?
Q. Hey, so i just moved into a new place and right next door is a perfect woman for me. She's beautiful smart and can cook (what else does a man wants right?) She just got out of a relationship and I want to be the next and final guy she will be ...
A. 18 May 2011: I don't know, maybe you should approach the situation with a "you know I'm right" kind of attitude towards the topic. But nothing real solid dealing with the future or near future especially. Maybe phrase it like, "You know we're made for eachother, ... (read in full...)
My neighbour is the perfect girl -- what do I do?
Q. Hey, so i just moved into a new place and right next door is a perfect woman for me. She's beautiful smart and can cook (what else does a man wants right?) She just got out of a relationship and I want to be the next and final guy she will be ...
A. 30 April 2011: So now what? Well now it's time to just let things go the way nature takes it. You said you like her, she knows how you feel, now then leave it at that. Pressure may just scare her off. Don't become overly involved in her life then she'll feel ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but he misses his old family life, what should I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfreind for 10 months. Every month or so he seems to get really distant and I have encouraged him to talk to me each time he feels down, as I know in the past 2 years he has had a hard time with his wife leaving him. Each ...
A. 30 April 2011: Hi. I'm glad to hear from you again. Not so glad to hear you're still feeling uneasy about your relationship. Perhaps you would benefit from collecting a larger social cirle. If he's going out with "single" friends then you should too. Nothing grab... (read in full...)
My neighbour is the perfect girl -- what do I do?
Q. Hey, so i just moved into a new place and right next door is a perfect woman for me. She's beautiful smart and can cook (what else does a man wants right?) She just got out of a relationship and I want to be the next and final guy she will be ...
A. 17 April 2011: Go for it.
If she turns you down or things get weird, oh well I say.
I mean, what's the worst that could really happen? You wind up with a neighbor you try to avoid? Well, that's how 4 out of 5 people in feel anyway, happens everyday so ... (read in full...)
Questions about cheating and ex-wives and other things.
Q. Maybe you can help me interpret these remarks made by my Ex-wife. It has bothered me and I know I should just leave it alone but still, I would like to know. When your Ex tells you that their new Man is the best ever (cheating partner turned new BF) ...
A. 9 February 2011: Hey, just wondering how things are going for you? I hope better than when you last posted here. So if you're still around I would love to hear from you. Maybe that you and your children and thier mother have found some balance in life and are doing ... (read in full...)
After cheating and splitting up from partner, will any other woman have trust in him?
Q. I would like to know how hard it is for a man that has cheated on his wife/gf and split up with her to find another partner? Will any woman trust him? How soon should he tell the potential partner his story? How much detail should he giving her and ...
A. 6 February 2011: You really do sound like a decent person Scarb. I really think it would be the best if you just divorce your wife. However you chose to go about ending your marriage, you shouldn't allow yourself to do anything you'll feel you must lie about in the ... (read in full...)
After cheating and splitting up from partner, will any other woman have trust in him?
Q. I would like to know how hard it is for a man that has cheated on his wife/gf and split up with her to find another partner? Will any woman trust him? How soon should he tell the potential partner his story? How much detail should he giving her and ...
A. 3 February 2011: I don't think you can be trusted. You're still with your wife and you said yourself you're scared of the breakup or being alone. I know you're sure of yourself when you say you would never cheat on the right girl but how often do people find the ... (read in full...)
Shes afraid of germs and doesn't want anything to do with sex
Q. my girlfriend is 45,and I am 70. she's never been marry and has no kids. i'm a grandfather and been married twice. we have been seeing each other for 21/2 years. we both stay at our own homes. the problem is that wshe won't let me kiss her on the ...
A. 15 January 2011: I think if she loved you she would kiss you, germs and all. Is there any chance she'll profit from sticking it out with you and by living longer? Don't marry her. She's after something of yours. otherwise she would show you affection! Be careful and ... (read in full...)
Can u sleep with someone and have no feelings for them and still be in love with your wife?
Q. Im lost...I've been married to my husband for over 8 years ( and we have 2 kids tog) and i found out 2 weeks ago from a womans husband that my husband had been sleeping with his wife for the pass 5 months while he was in kuwait..hes home now and ...
A. 31 December 2010: I think it's unlikely that he didn't develope feelings for her over the course of the 5 months but I do think its possble that he never stopped loving you. She was around when you werent so she filled a missing space for him during that time but now ... (read in full...)
My selfish girlfriend
Q. What do you if you are on a relationship with a selfish woman? She thinks everything revolves around her. I love her dearly but I have been holding back on getting engaged because of this issue? Is it possible that with time and cpmmunication she ...
A. 28 December 2010: Of course it's possible. IF you have the patience and she cares at all then there's hope. Maybe she doesn't have a clue in the world she's that way. Diplomaticly point out the selfish things she does and show her the kind things you and others do ... (read in full...)
One of her friends is in love with her!
Q. A group of friends including my girlfriend went out for a night. As people went home, she was left with one of her male friends. He confessed his love for her, but she told him that she's in love with me. She was sharing a bed with another female ...
A. 28 December 2010: Well, I don't think she would have mentioned that at all if she was up to something. Maybe she needed you to straighten him out before she got stuck with him for a week without you around. If that were me and I had to deal with this dude the whole ... (read in full...)
Please don't judge, need advice. I'm crazy for him. He has 5 kids by 3 women and his wife is pregnant. At wit's end
Q. I need help. I've been in a relationship with this man for over a year now. He's married. In the begnning I idnt know he was married. His family lied to me he lied to me. I got pregnant and we now have I child together. She is 5 months old. He and ...
A. 25 December 2010: Merry Christmas first of all. Second, I'm very sorry you have gotten yourself in this position. I just want to point out that his children with his wife are as old as 14. So they have been going strong for well over a decade now, they survived the ... (read in full...)
Opinions on ex's spending holidays together "for the kids"?
Q. What are some opinions ex's spending holidays together "for the kids". Does anyone else think it may send the wrong message to the kids that there is hope of a reconciliation between their parents? Especially when one of them has to leave their new ...
A. 26 November 2010: Competitive much? You sound locked in silent battle over this man with her. Or...or is it just in your head? I think you shouldnt bitch about chrismas morning if he should want to be with them. Choose your battles wisely. Youre going to suffer a few ... (read in full...)
I need some advice on how to handle this guilt I'm feeling.
Q. I need some advice on how to handle this guilt I'm feeling. I'm overwhelmed with guilt for breaking up my boyfriend's family and hurting his children and ex wife. Our affair was brief, only a little over a weeks time before he stated he couldn't do ...
A. 18 November 2010: Hey dont let the moral hostility get you down. Make it worth the sacrifice for someone and just live the rest of your life in a way you can be proud of. Stop focusing on negative things. Aim for neutral, not loved start small so you arent setting ... (read in full...)
I still suck my thumb!
Q. I'm 19. It's pathetic but I still suck my thumb...a lot. The only time I won't is when my boyfriend helps me sleep, tells me stories or sings. But, when I feel too embarassed to ask or he's too tired and goes to sleep first, I do it and I get ...
A. 12 November 2010: I heard somewhere that on average it takes a person about 18 day of doing something repeatedly to form a habit. Sucking your thumb is a habit just like biting your nails like someone already mentioned. And that nail polish that is suppose to detour ... (read in full...)
My dad blames me for everything, I've had enough!
Q. Im sick and tired of my dad blaming me for everything. Im one of 3 daughters (the middle child) and every time me and one of my sisters have an argument no matter who started it I get the blame and 'banned' from his house. Last month, my older ...
A. 9 November 2010: Are him and your mother still together? I'm only asking because the first thing that popped into my head after reading this was maybe you remind him of your mom, more than your sister(S) and if he's bitter about anything in regards to her, you could ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for shorter girls to feel this way?
Q. I'm just under 5 foot, 18 years old and a bit curvier... I've never had a boyfriend despite being quite outgoing and flirty. I'm not desperate just concerned that because of my height guys just look at me as a cute little sister or a friend. Don't ...
A. 22 October 2010: Yeah, some guys call little chicks like us "spinners". I don't even want to know where that come from or what its meant to imply but theres a name for us. I'm 5'1 or 5'4 with heels and my boyfriend is huge compared to me but I think one of the ... (read in full...)
Does wearing a bra to bed, help your boobs grow?
Q. Ok so usually I wear a bra to sleep. I hear that if u do your breasts won't grow. Mine are not the biggest so I'm wondering if that's true and if not, what are some ways that I can help them grow? Love, A...
A. 21 September 2010: No. But many of my friends, in school, myself included, religously wore a bra to bed only to realize it was only making sleep uncomfortable, not enlarging our breast size. Believe me, in 10 years you'll be laughing at yourself if you did. Because ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with what I heard through the grapevine?
Q. My husband and I were separated but now we are trying to get back together. We have children together and we have been together more than 10 years. I found out that while we were separated that my husband told a woman he slept with that she was ...
A. 21 September 2010: Maybe they said thet to eachother, maybe not but maybe you only heard about it because someone is jealous you two are trying to get back together. You said she knew he was married so I would assume that word got out because she wanted it to. But you ... (read in full...)
My husband cheated and got the girl pregnant
Q. I am a woman that has been married for 3 years just found out that my husband may have a son. I will not leave him but we are both trying to deal with the problem i personally think it was a trap for him because he was being stupid its not ok he ...
A. 20 September 2010: I'm not quite sure what you're asking for but I'm sorry you're involved in such a crappy situation. But it's a bit disturbing how you referred to his kid & his responsiblity for him as "dealing with the problem". Thats a hell of cold hearted thing ... (read in full...)
My ex has tracked me down after all these years, but she is married! What should I do?
Q. Hi, I had a wonderful/fantastic relationship with an ex (Sophie),we even talked about marriage. We were always 100% honest with each other.Anyway we split some time ago as I was working abroad and she couldnt handle a LDR. She recently tracked ...
A. 15 September 2010: If you and she are this close and in tune with each other after all these years tyhe where you can still tell when she has pain in her eyes, theres nothing wrong with being there for her as a friend as you were before. About admitting the real ... (read in full...)
I am having trouble trusting my husband, he lies to much!
Q. My husband is always lying, years ago he lied about our finances, lied about credit cards, lied about not having the mail box keys, making me go crazy looking for it, meanwhile he is secretly going to get mail. What is this...after confronting all ...
A. 13 September 2010: Sounds like a stereotypical dipshit by your summary of him. Mentally, he's thrown right in there with the kind of men who gamble away life savings or run off with the babysitter. Seriously though, he can't be too smart if you take into account how ... (read in full...)
He left me for his old g/f he found on facebook, so why is he acting this way now?
Q. Ive been with my husband for 8 yrs... All of a sudden he found an old GF on Facebook... He talked to her 2 weeks and decided to ddrop everything for her, he says things are going good for them and they get along good.. house and all. It has been a ...
A. 11 September 2010: I'm so sorry he did that to you. He's an incredible asshole for leaving you like that but he's an evil asshole for stringing you along. Don't let him touch you,he should have lost that privilege when he walked out. And when he's baiting you in like ... (read in full...)
Women was very bold right in front of my eyes toward my husband
Q. My husband is a constant lier, we went to a collegue of his wedding, and there was a divorced women constantly talking right at him. It was as if we were not there, this collegue, I have heard her name mentioned numerous times in our home but very ...
A. 9 September 2010: Maybe this girl is just a bitch? Were you the only woman around to piss off? Maybe that's why she was flirting with your husband. I know truck loads of catty bitches that act like that automaticly with other women around. Playing stupid games like ... (read in full...)
Is there some solution that won't rip apart lives and destroy families?
Q. This question requires a lot of backstory...I think I'm honestly mostly just asking it for the benefit of having written it all down somewhere, but I'm asking it none the less. I tend to be verbose when I write…I hope this isn't too long. I'm ...
A. 8 September 2010: This girl could turn out to be 10X worse than your wife. Right now it's just lust. Believe me. You could be throwing everything away for a few months of bliss that may turn into years of pure misery. She's perfect you think, of course she is. You ... (read in full...)
My married lover says he is staying only for his children
Q. My married lover is not happy in his marriage because he said that his wife isn't affectionate or loving towards him and that he is staying in the marriage because he loves his 2 children and doesn't want them to suffer from a broken marriage, but ...
A. 6 September 2010: I would guess he's saying what he thinks you want to hear to keep you available for sex. And his wife probably isn't as distant or uninterested (bitchy) with him as he's lead you to believe. Otherwise I would think he would be able to sneak away ... (read in full...)
Will he make life difficult for me if I end it?
Q. Hello I have been with my second Husband for two and a half years. We met four months after my first Husband and i split. My first Husband and I had been together fourteen years with two beautiful children and had no major problems until we grew ...
A. 5 September 2010: I'm not sure what your question is but it's obvious that this man is a selfish asshole. Why did you marry him?! I would not allow him to freeload off of me anymore if I were you. I would break it off with him completely, divorce him! Collect support ... (read in full...)
My partner keeps doing favours for his ex wife!
Q. I have been with my partner over 2 years. He has got 2 kids already. They r lovely boys and we get on very well. It's his ex wife who I can't stand. She still works for my partner, she hardly do anything and still gets paid very good money. When she ...
A. 26 August 2010: Grow up already. You're not thinking of anyone but yourself by demanding unreasonable things of him simply out of jealousy. Stop pretending like there is some greater cause other than your own rivalry & envy of her power over "your" man. And I hope ... (read in full...)
Husband's co worker is obsessed with him, is he cheating with her?
Q. My husbands co worker (girl) has been telling me things such as they are planning a weekend together and sexually explicit details between him and her. But he denies that he has ever touched her and we have been dealing with face book remarks and ...
A. 22 August 2010: Yes, don't be blinded by hope like Soon103 said. What it sounds like to me is she's angry he hasn't left you
to be with her yet & he's too much of a coward to come clean. If I were in your shoes right now I wouldn't focus on the details of the situ... (read in full...)
How can I keep my sanity and go in the right direction?
Q. What can you do ,if you can't find the cause of your painful problems in life? How can you fix anything,if dont know why is it broken? I have too many pain,and I dont seem to find a solution for any of them and not even the cause. I;m doing my b...
A. 15 August 2010: I can relate to having overwhelming feelings of life being out of control. If you see a major issue in every area of your life then start with fixing yourself. If you felt better about yourself you'll feel more confident to tackle the issues in your ... (read in full...)
Questions about cheating and ex-wives and other things.
Q. Maybe you can help me interpret these remarks made by my Ex-wife. It has bothered me and I know I should just leave it alone but still, I would like to know. When your Ex tells you that their new Man is the best ever (cheating partner turned new BF) ...
A. 12 August 2010: You probably weren't looking for a response from me when you invited more discussion about this. But I was obviously in a hostile mood during my last response and after reading it + your followup, I would like to revise my comment. Instead of ... (read in full...)
Questions about cheating and ex-wives and other things.
Q. Maybe you can help me interpret these remarks made by my Ex-wife. It has bothered me and I know I should just leave it alone but still, I would like to know. When your Ex tells you that their new Man is the best ever (cheating partner turned new BF) ...
A. 12 August 2010: You probably weren't looking for a response from me when you invited more discussion about this. But I was obviously in a hostile mood during my last response and after reading it + your followup, I would like to revise my cooment. Instead of ... (read in full...)
How to diffuse a wife who screams and yells when she is mad???
Q. What is the best way to deal with a wife who starts yelling, slamming doors, saying nasty mean things every time we argue? My wife never used to be this way, but in the last couple of years her temper is just escalating. I guess she feels it is ...
A. 1 August 2010: Good answer Inlove. You can tell who's a kid & who isn't. =) ... (read in full...)
Eating disorder thoughts are slowly becoming worse.. What should I do?
Q. I am 17 years old and I'm terrified about the thoughts that have been entering my mind lately. When I was 6, my parents got a divorce. My dad dated off and on, then finally got 'serious' with a woman when I was 13. She was a complete psycho; sadly, ...
A. 1 August 2010: You know your not fat- you aware it's in your head. Don't let the comments from an isecure woman from your past cause destructive behaviors in you today. If you want to lose a few pounds thats cool, but lose them naturally through excercise. Don't ... (read in full...)
Do you think once he sees my bump he might change his mind and stay with me?
Q. Hi I am 35 and my bf is 46. I was married before but not children. He does not have either but said that want a family and kids. We have been dating for 7 months and by accident I got pregnant. He was furious and wants me to terminate it. I ...
A. 1 August 2010: If you don't want to have another abortion- don't. But your attitude on your situation is a bit disturbing. You're appear fixated on this man, a man who made it clear to you he isn't interested in becoming a family with you & will never be. A man ... (read in full...)
How to diffuse a wife who screams and yells when she is mad???
Q. What is the best way to deal with a wife who starts yelling, slamming doors, saying nasty mean things every time we argue? My wife never used to be this way, but in the last couple of years her temper is just escalating. I guess she feels it is ...
A. 31 July 2010: I don't really have an answer but I'm a yeller too when I get into fights with my man. And he's not the type to yell back either so it definitely makes me look like the insane screaming banshee, not him. I would say that while she's in that sort of ... (read in full...)
Husband won't stop chatting with another woman.
Q. This was my question in April 2009 My husband has a job that is very boring and he is allowed to chat on his cell phone. A month ago he complained that I don't talk to him enough so he has to talk to "Rebecca". At the time, a month ago, we es...
A. 30 July 2010: I've been through this type of ordeal before & in my experience I always suspected it was about rebellion & disrespect & control. I was younger than my man & this woman he would talk to several times a day, dozens of times a week, hundreds of times ... (read in full...)
Will I get hurt having an affair with a married man?
Q. A few months ago I met a man online just chatting he told me right off that he was married and that he and his wife love each other yet they do allow each other to do whatever they wish . Anyway we clicked and we met up we just had our sceond ...
A. 27 July 2010: Don't do it! He's using you! Of course you're going to get hurt! He told right from the start that he's devoted to his WIFE & won't leave her. He's such a "sweet & caring guy"- yeah right. How sweet & caring is he going to be to you when she finds ... (read in full...)
Is this forgivable and would you forgive?
Q. I just got out of counselling over an issue that I am having a very hard time forgiving myself for. I want to see if what I did would be forgiven, generally, particularly with an explaination and proper apology. In breif, I made an akward move on ...
A. 26 July 2010: I'm sorry you've felt turmoil over this so strongly because it's not a rare thing for guys to do & it happens to chicks all the time. If it weren't for your guilt that's plagued you over this I would be inclined to say you're being kind of silly. ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but he misses his old family life, what should I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfreind for 10 months. Every month or so he seems to get really distant and I have encouraged him to talk to me each time he feels down, as I know in the past 2 years he has had a hard time with his wife leaving him. Each ...
A. 21 July 2010: Man, that's a bummer but at least he's acknowledged how you feel & has made an effort to comfort you (although you're still lacking him physlically being there with you). It's a good sign he say's he's "turned the corner". But if I were in your ... (read in full...)
Questions about cheating and ex-wives and other things.
Q. Maybe you can help me interpret these remarks made by my Ex-wife. It has bothered me and I know I should just leave it alone but still, I would like to know. When your Ex tells you that their new Man is the best ever (cheating partner turned new BF) ...
A. 13 July 2010: She sounds like a manipulative, self-centered, heartless bitch. Let her go, don't listen to her BS, find a nice woman who's honest & won't play such immature, selfish games with peoples hearts. I hope you live in a state where cheatings illegal- ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but he misses his old family life, what should I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfreind for 10 months. Every month or so he seems to get really distant and I have encouraged him to talk to me each time he feels down, as I know in the past 2 years he has had a hard time with his wife leaving him. Each ...
A. 13 July 2010: Hey, I was just checking in to see how things have been going for you? Was it all resolved? I hope things have worked out & you're feeling better. =)... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but he misses his old family life, what should I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfreind for 10 months. Every month or so he seems to get really distant and I have encouraged him to talk to me each time he feels down, as I know in the past 2 years he has had a hard time with his wife leaving him. Each ...
A. 7 May 2010: I'm sorry for the situation you two are in. But if you both truly love eachother then this is just a phase.
Idealy he'll find some of his strength through you to heal begin building a new (hopefully much better) life with you & his daughter part... (read in full...)
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