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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:My husband is always lying, years ago he lied about our finances, lied about credit cards, lied about not having the mail box keys, making me go crazy looking for it, meanwhile he is secretly going to get mail. What is this...after confronting all this he states didn't want to disappoint me. Now I have no trust, girlfriend told me he was buying a mikey at liquor store, I asked him, he denies ounce again, and I find an empty mikey under the seat of his car. He denies that it was his, says he picked it up from parking lot, all of a sudden he feels the need to clean up parking lots. I found some condums missing where we keep them, again says I am loosing it, now I am positive there were some missing. How do I cope with this, went to a party and noticed his eyes wondering, and noticied one of his friends giving him much attention. She did not know me, met me for the first time and felt very confertable with my husband. Now confronting him on this he says he can't even take me out without drama. Now do I go with my gut feeling, I know I will never get the truth from him, or do I try to get some proof. Not sure how, he is very sneaky, and really can't afford an investigator. On the outside everyone thinks I am the luckiest women to have this man, he does everything around the house and never says no to what I want or want to do. Need some feedback on what you think? Reply to this Question
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reader, Cheeks  +, writes (13 September 2010):
 Sounds like a stereotypical dipshit by your summary of him. Mentally, he's thrown right in there with the kind of men who gamble away life savings or run off with the babysitter. Seriously though, he can't be too smart if you take into account how pointless some of his lies are. If he were, he might evaluate each situation on it's own to decide if he needs to lie or not, right? Instead, he just lies by default, which is stupid. So it's probably the only way he knows how to communicate with women or how to handle situations involving one. That or simply "deny, deny, deny" which to me, is the same thing as lying. But if he gives you most everything you ever ask for, except the truth, ask yourself if letting him do his thing behind your back worth the freedom you have in other ways? But if it's just eating you alive, not knowing what's really going on, or the frustration to be taken for a fool is too much, then I suggest you throw in the towel. Because I don't see him ever changing. Good Luck.
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