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writes:A group of friends including my girlfriend went out for a night. As people went home, she was left with one of her male friends. He confessed his love for her, but she told him that she's in love with me. She was sharing a bed with another female friend that night but he ended up "sleepwalking" into their bed. 6 years ago they did have one night of passion together. She's going to go on a holiday with friends for a week that will include him. I'm not the jealous type, but this has me quite angry. I trust her - she did tell me all this. What do I do?
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reader, Cheeks  +, writes (28 December 2010):
 Well, I don't think she would have mentioned that at all if she was up to something. Maybe she needed you to straighten him out before she got stuck with him for a week without you around. If that were me and I had to deal with this dude the whole trip I would like my BF to let him know "it's a waste of time, don't even try, leave me alone and not ruin my trip. Help get him off my back you know. I bet this guy isn't Mr. GQ and she's just embarrassed for ever talking to him let alone sleeping with him. Because here it is, 6 years later and he's still acting like a puppy-dog. Who knows, she may have been his only one. Either way, the dudes a dork, give her a hand. I hope she hasn't left yet & there's still time to pry him off her leg so she can enjoy her trip in peace. otherwise this could get really ugly for the poor shmuck. But wait...On a side note, maybe she is trying to stir your "jealous side" a little. Not enough jealousy from a man my be seen as not enough interest in her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2010): 6 years is a long time to carry a torch but she told you everything is she let him know where she stood, it's obviously going to put you on edge but in such situations trust must be implicit, she has done nothing wrong, she's with you. Don't give him a reason to jump in because as soon as you act all clingy he'll be right in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2010): He wasn't "sleepwalking", he was hoping to get laid.
She knows better than to be alone with him, ever, for obvious reasons. First off, it makes you uncomfortable, secondly, she doesn't want his attentions and being alone with him will make him think that she does harbor those desires, and thirdly she has a guy who is fixated on her after six years...which means that he may not be the most emotionally stable sort of guy.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (27 December 2010):
 Keep trusting her. She turned him down, and if he makes any advances now, it will cost him her friendship. I doubt he's willing to risk that. As long as the two of them aren't sharing a room I don't really see a problem. She chose you! Be happy and confident in that.
One question. When he "sleepwalked" into their room, did he climb in bed with them or something? If he tried something after she rejected him then he is definitely not one to trust. But, just because you don't trust HIM, that doesn't mean you shouldn't trust your GF.
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