He says he cares for me deeply ....
Q. DeAr CuPiD I met this guy in Belize in January and coincidentally he lived not to far from me back home. After vacation was over we started hanging out back home and we've been having the most incredible time together. We both just got out of ...
A. 21 March 2017: Sounds like he's hedging his bets. But that isn't necessarily a bad thing if you are both just out of relationships.
If you are truly concerned, ask him. If he cares for you, or loves you, he won't be freaked out. if he gets weird, he wasn't in it i... (read in full...)
Personal cleanliness? There has got to be a nice way to approach this! What would you do??
Q. I started seeing this guy about two months ago. We pretty much only hang out about two three nights a week when he'll come stay the night or weekend. We've known each other for a while now, we've taken our kids on play dates before etc. He's a...
A. 21 March 2017: Either tell him he needs to wash or it's over; or just ditch him. You haven't mentioned anythng he's bringing to the relationship.
Always remember the expression, 'It is better to have loved and lost, than live with a psycho all your life!'
That ... (read in full...)
We broke up. I know I still care for him. should I talk to him about my feelings?
Q. I was in a long term relationship with this guy for almost two years and we just kept bickering, small petty arguments and I'm not afraid to stand up for myself. It turned out he was messaging one of my friends and it turned out she wasn't very nic...
A. 21 March 2017: I know it's hard, but stay away. You need to figure out how to deal with things without him before you can ever try to be friends.Good luck. Be strong!... (read in full...)
Do you think I have the right be upset since technically he is still married?
Q. I moved to a new town and got a job as a server at a local restaurant. One of my co workers is very cute and a lot of the girls like him. They are always going out as groups and hanging out with each other outside of work. We became really ...
A. 21 March 2017: It was a KISS!
Yes, he should have been honest about his situation, and you are in danger of being the rebound girl.
I would say, continue to see him if you can just have fun. Otherwise, expect a broken heart. This will not end well for you unle... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he doesn't care about things!
Q. My boyfriend lives with me and I mean, we've had our arguments, but I find that he pays no attention to me. He goes to work, the gym, then he comes home and plays video games until we go to bed and pays more attention to the dog even. I've asked him ...
A. 21 March 2017: He is either suffering from depression, or he's only with you because it's easy and he can't be bothered to change his life.
THis is more about what you want than his behaviour. If you are unhappy and trying to communicate that to him, and you aren... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't know about my secret eating disorder.
Q. Long story short, I have struggled with bulimia and anorexia for 10 years. I do not struggle with purging anymore, but restrict my calorie intake everyday and continue to have issues with food. Me and my bf have known each other for 3 and ...
A. 6 March 2017: You absolutely have to tell him. immediately!!!! Don't imagine, for a second, that he won't be hurt and disappointed that you have kept this from him for so long. If he hasn't already figured it out, it will be a shock. However, you might be ... (read in full...)
Could this girl be interested in me?
Q. I stop at this petrol station sometimes. The past two, three times there's been a nice young girl there, and as at the times I go there it's not that busy, we have a chat. Somehow we got on to the topic of massages. I said that my massages may be ...
A. 6 March 2017: You are creepy. She doesn't want a massage from you. If a girl is interested, you know. They make it clear. Stop offering people massages in petrol stations. Please.... (read in full...)
The red-blooded male in me says to give her more experience, the gentleman in me says to wait a few years!
Q. Sex question- a girl I've met online is very inexperianced and wants me to teach her about the physicality of sex. What's the problem?- there's a 12 year age gap and while she's above the age of consent and therefore it would be legal, the ethic...
A. 6 March 2017: WHAT THE F**K IS WRONG WITH YOU????!!!!!
OH, WAIT, I get it, you are a horny bloke who has a teenager throwing themself at you!
Do you know why you are on this site asking strangers for advice? Because you already know it's wrong. Otherwis... (read in full...)
Hard for me to sort out my feelings
Q. I'm in a difficult situation. I went out with my ex on and off for 15 months. He is very stubborn, and we hardly saw or spoke to each other. I have been friends with someone that he knows for a while. They aren't very close friends, but have known ...
A. 6 March 2017: I can't pretend to know what it's like to have Asbergers, but I do truly think that honesty relieves a lot of stress. All three of you should just be honest with each other.
If this other guy makes you happy, go for it. Tell your ex and he will just... (read in full...)
I know I can't get involved but how do I deal with my feelings?
Q. I started a job 3 months ago the same time as a male colleague who is a few years older than me. Over time we have chatted and I have found myself attracted to him. I get from his body language that he likes me too. He gazes at me when he talks or ...
A. 6 March 2017: You have 3 choices: 1)Cold showers/find someone else to f**k! 2)Work somewhere else! 3) Go for it! Have a big pile of dirty sex with a married man. A married man with 3 children. See how good it feels. Or you could take it from one who... (read in full...)
Why is he withholding sex?
Q. Withholding sex? I have been seeing a guy I met for the past 4-5 months. The first few months were quite casual and we'd only see each other maybe once a week. The last couple we've been doing more together, going on trips out of town etc. At the...
A. 6 March 2017: GAY!!!!!!
Or maybe he is just using you as a comforter?
If he is inviting you to stay at his place, and he's not having sex with you, he isn't that interested. We would all love to believe that 'maybe he just really wants to get to know you firs... (read in full...)
Our relationship is going fine. But our sex life is declining. What could be the reason for this decline?
Q. Does sex life tend to decline after a few years? My girlfriend was virgin when she met me. She used to love sex, was extremely naughty and used to want it more than me. Now few years later she isn't really up for it. She says it not me, she does...
A. 6 March 2017: Are you absolutely sure your relationship is fine?????
I don't mean to be horrid, but it sounds like she isn't interested in you anymore.
Every woman loves foreplay if you do it well! But it sounds like she just wants it all over and done with asa... (read in full...)
Am I being correct in offering to pay or could I be offending him?
Q. Hi, I have a question and would appreciate your help. I'm not an American and dating an American guy for the first time, we both are professionals in our early 40s. It has been a month and it's going amazing. We are going to take our first getaway ...
A. 6 March 2017: You definitely are over-thinking this.
You are offering to pay your share. You are working it out between you. Liberal is a good thing. Most decent men want to treat their dates, but they love it when women offer to pay, half or all the bill.
The f... (read in full...)
This is my first breakup and I'm scared and sad! Any advice?
Q. I broke up with boyfriend last night. I don't think he took it seriously though. I have been thinking about breaking up for awhile, but I was afraid or scared and when I knew in my heart we are not meant for each other I would think about the good ...
A. 6 March 2017: When you say you want 'things to be OK', what do you mean? when a relationship breaks up, it is so very rarely OK. I'm sorry but it's true. Especially if one of the parties doesn't want it! Unfortunately, it's just a part of life. You may have bee... (read in full...)
Is a friends with benefits relationship sustainable?
Q. After 12 years of marriage, I lost my wife to an unexpected heart attack 9 months ago. It has been hard and I'm not sure what I want to do. I recently ran into a lady I worked with at one time while shopping and she offered her condolences. I'v...
A. 6 March 2017: The key phrase is 'It would have to be with someone she felt wasn't just using her' That is exactly what friends with benefits is: friends using each other for sex. You aren't doing friends with benefits. You are going to dinner, and shopping, an... (read in full...)
She has no idea her ex cheated on her often! Should I tell her?
Q. I'm in a very very sticky situation. I have 2 very close friends. 1 who is male the other is female. Both of the 2 used to date for over 4 years, they had just recently broke up about 9 months ago and I was always very close with the male. He was ...
A. 6 March 2017: She doesn't need to know, and she doesn't need to hear it from you.
These things have a habit of coming out, so if the two of them are hanging out in the same group of friends, he should tell her.
You could encourage him to tell her, so she does... (read in full...)
Why did she react the way she did to my words? She is the one who lied to me, earlier.
Q. Hi everyone This isn't so important just something that really confuses me. My ex-girlfriend broke up with me 2 years ago. The relationship had become long distance, she had changed, she insulted me a lot, I was not happy at all. so when one da...
A. 6 March 2017: You know that she didn't want to sever ties with you immediately in case it didn't work out with the new bloke. You sound like a sensitive soul, so she was probably planning to come running back to you if it didn't work out. I'm sorry but it's true... (read in full...)
Could I be his back up option?
Q. I joined a dating site a month ago and got chatting with a guy. a couple of week ago he told me he had decided to see how it would go with someone he had already met so he was honest and didnt want to string me along. He said hes still on the site ...
A. 6 March 2017: If you want to keep chatting to this guy, do. But remember that you are just friends. If he decides he wants more, you have your answer. Don't be anyone's second choice!!!
Get on with your own life and try not to care what he is doing, or who he's... (read in full...)
Boyfriend no longer even tries to have sex with me because its painful
Q. I'm having an issue with my boyfriend of about a year now. We haven't had sex in about a month and he says it's because I'm sensitive down there since it hurts when we have sex. He said he's just tired of that happening so he doesn't want to even ...
A. 6 March 2017: OK, so the first thing is to find out why it hurts. Is it that you may have a urinary tract infection, or a yeast infection, or any other type of problem? Or could it be something as simple as lack of foreplay/lubrication? Seriously, does he make ... (read in full...)
Nightmare drug neighbour
Q. Hey everyone quite a dilema here. sorry its so long. im a single mum of 2 kids no dad on the scene . I bought a house years ago . Most of the houses around me are rented including the ones behind me ( these are attached aka back to back ) the house ...
A. 6 March 2017: I am really sorry, but if this man is as aggressive as you make him out to be, there is nothing you can do except keep complaining to the police, or move house.
You don't need to complain anonymously. If you explain your concerns the police will... (read in full...)
I made a fool out of myself, how can I feel better about this?
Q. Long story short, I've done a series of things that made me look bad in front of my crush. I don't mean things that have to do with being rude, immoral, nasty or unkind, etc. I just haven't had much dating experience and made mistakes that made the ...
A. 6 March 2017: To be brutally honest, I don't understand what you mean by 'mistakes'. I have made a total prat of myself in front of nearly every guy I have ever liked! If they like you back, it doesn't matter. In fact, usually that's a talking point and becomes ... (read in full...)
Terminally ill friend offered me her husband
Q. My best friend is suffering from a terminal illness and said something to me that I'm not sure what to about. I'm divorced and haven't had good luck with men and she has been happily married for 10 years. She and her husband are truly great people ...
A. 6 March 2017: I truly think that your friend is just worried about the man she loves and her best friend being grief-stricken and lonely. She wants you to support each other. She is clearly intelligent enough to know that shared experiences, even grief, often br... (read in full...)
My boyfriend charged me for work he did for me. Should he have after everything I have done for him?
Q. I have been dating a guy for almost a year. He is going to massage school and has jobs here and there. He lives with a family member. I have helped him lots of times with homework. I recently bought a new car and gave him my old car, because he ...
A. 6 March 2017: ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!!!
You say you are dating him, but it's been a year! He is either your boyfriend,or he isn't. From what you've said, he should not have charged you for the work. If he loves you, he would want to help you out.
I have to say thst ... (read in full...)
I just want to know if this is all due to him being bipolar or if I really am just stupid enough to not see that he was just using me all along.
Q. My boyfriend (now ex) is bipolar. I have been with him for more then a year now and I do love him, but also know it's past time to throw in the towel. So I just want to make it clear that this is not a question of if I should get back with him. I ...
A. 6 March 2017: First of all, I am so sorry you are having to go through this. However, you are absolutely right. There is no happy ending. This relationship is over!!!It has to be, for your sake. I have experience with mental health issues. This doesn't sound li... (read in full...)
My co-worker was pushing invitations to her church, was my response rude?
Q. My co worker that I'm friendly with would always invite me to her church and church related activities. She got really pushy and told me not to disappoint God...that it is for my own good.I never had any interest until one day I decided to just see ...
A. 6 March 2017: You probably did if come across a bit brash, but with good reason. There is nothing worse than people trying to force their beleifs on you; espescially when 'it's for your own good'!
You have apologised and explained. You realise that you may have... (read in full...)
I feel I’m losing my “big brother" and it’s painful! What should I do?
Q. Hey guys, Rach here. I'm a 19-year-old girl and this question is about my big brother-type person. We're really not siblings, just friends, but I consider him my big brother. I'll make this as brief as possible (tho tbh the story is pretty long) -- ...
A. 26 February 2017: Have you actually read what you've written?
Try it! In fact, read it out loud and pretend someone is saying that to you.
What is all this siblinghood s**t? Maybe there are past personal traumas that you have experienced, and if so, I am truly so... (read in full...)
Why am I jealous of this one girl who now means nothing to him?
Q. So basically I have been with my BF 10 months today and things have been beyond perfect, few fights, no girl issues just pure love as we live about 2 hours away from Eachother (depending on traffic) he comes To see me every week and stays ove...
A. 26 February 2017: If you truly love him, you have to trust him, or I guarantee you will lose him.
There is only so many times you will say to a partner, 'there's nothing going on!' before you can't take it anymore. Just keep reminding yourself that jealousy is ugly... (read in full...)
Chaotic childhood. Do I leave it ? do I dig further to find out more about my mother?
Q. My upbringing was somewhat chaotic. my father 19 when he had me and my mother a drug addict. Me and my twin sister were removed from her care at 1 years old and spent sometime in a foster home until a relative fostered us. we were given a little ...
A. 26 February 2017: Only you can make this deciscion. But if you find out all the facts, you have to be prepared for 2 things:
1: Once you know, you cannot un-know! Answers usually lead to more questions. Is that a rabbit-hole you want to go down?
2: If you find out... (read in full...)
I care my girl is letting herself go. How can I help?
Q. Me and my gf been together 4 years. Over the years she has let herself go. I have been encouraging her to keep in shape for over a year. She has been lazy and eats junk all the time. I like to see her happy so if she likes eating, i don't say much. ...
A. 26 February 2017: Excercise is important, but MORE important is what you put in!
Do you cook healthy meals? It's really hard, but once you start eating smaller portions, and carbs, it does get easier to have them for a treat.
I appreciate you are not in a position... (read in full...)
I don't understand the attitude of my hook-up
Q. My hook up and I kept trying to make plans to, well you know, hook up, but he kept cancelling on me because something came up that he had to take care of. Anyway he apologized for being confusing lately (which idk what that really meant) but I...
A. 26 February 2017: WOW! That's really classy! You are f**king a guy, and then asking the internet about his feelings!!!!
Hook-ups are Hookups because it's just about sex. So you are getting exactly what it says on the tin. If he talked to you in a horrid way, you shou... (read in full...)
Should I pay attention to his behavioral patterns
Q. When I was in undergrad 7 years ago I was partnered with one of my classmates (Tom) to do a class project. at the time I was in an unhealthy relationship and every time I went tto class I got attention from Tom. Both me and tom were attracted to ...
A. 26 February 2017: The answer to this is clear: proportionally, how much do you like this guy vs how much are you prepared to get your heart broken! You are a grown woman! You haven't evn been on a date with this guy! You haven't even had sex with him! He might b... (read in full...)
I'm worried that my bf will randomly break up with me. How can face my insecurity and fear of this happening to me?
Q. I have a sort of silly worry to ask advice about. One of my good friends recently got broken up with. She met her BF in July and everything seemed to be going pretty well for them. I didn't think he was super considerate of her and she went out...
A. 26 February 2017: Relationships work, or they fail!
Nothing lasts forever.
All you can do is your best. If he breaks up with you, so be it.
But nothing is less attractive than being desperate, oe terrified they will leave you!
It's a delicate balance of needi... (read in full...)
I feel betrayed and violated that he's been snooping on me on my phone! There's no reason for him to do this!
Q. I'm so angry as I write this post and a little confused. I was talking to my boyfriend of 9 years the other day and he asked me about something that happened to one of my friends that I could of swore I never told him, I brushed it off thinking...
A. 26 February 2017: You are not overreacting at all!!!! No one has the right to go through anyones phone! When you are in a long-term relationship, there comes a point where you do know each others passwords and PINs, because that trust is there. To violate that tru... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if she's into me romantically, or just friendly. How do I behave when we meet? What things do I mention? Don't want to scare her away.
Q. I'm a freshman in college. I enrolled into an English class last minute, I was assigned an older professor, mid thirties. I get to the class and it's a young woman about 24 years old, the professor. I was supposed have dropped out. The minute I saw...
A. 26 February 2017: She might not be YOUR professor, but she is still a professor at your college, correct?
The only way this goes is badly. You know whatever we all say won't make a blind bit of difference.
You are actually asking advice on how to hit on your pro... (read in full...)
I don't want to hurt my girlfriend but after 3 years I am not sure that I want to be with her
Q. How can i break up with my girlfriend? Im not sure if i even want to. We have been together for three years. We have been having problems recently. She told me she was not sure where we were going, that we were stuck in the same old patterns doing ...
A. 26 February 2017: DO NOT BOOK A HOLIDAY TO CUBA. This is classic, 'I need space' (Because I want to see who else I can get) (oh, it didn't work out, but I can just go back to where I was because I hedged my bets) 'You're the one I really want, lets go on holiday!' ... (read in full...)
Why do I allow him to treat me like trash, throw me out and then let him back into my life?
Q. Hi, I would appreciate some outside perspective on the situation I'm currently dealing with. I started dating someone last year that I had known for about 10 years though granted we were mostly only acquaintances during that time with limited int...
A. 26 February 2017: Just keep reminding yourself that once you cut him loose, he will find some other fool to be the new you.
Have you ever heard the expression 'It's better to have loved and lost, than live with a psychopath all your life!'
This applies to you, if ... (read in full...)
Should I end this relationship or work with it? He's become my best friend, but the excitement and passion have faded
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years now but i am 18 and just starting to feel like i want to have other boyfriends and get to know other guys. I do really love my boyfriend but hes kind of more my bestfriend now. I defintely dont have ...
A. 26 February 2017: I know you love him and don't want to hurt him, but it's over!
Unfortunately, that's just the way it goes. Maybe, eventually you'l be friends, probably you won't.
You cannot string it out and let him come on holiday with your family! Sun and alco... (read in full...)
How does one overcome loneliness? I feel like I have no one to talk to nor anyone I can confide in
Q. feel like I'm alone !! I feel like I have no one to talk to or confide in!! family members aren't an option I don't want to tell them what's really on my mind. my boyfriend well he is not to interested and even then some of my feelings aren't ...
A. 26 February 2017: I am a female with predominantly male colleagues and friends. I find that when you truly need to talk, they will listen, but you have to make it extremely clear that you need this from them! You don't actually say, specifically, what you need to ... (read in full...)
How do I stop falling in love with my best friend?
Q. I'm in love with my best friend at college. He's not your average stud bit of a stoner, very clever and it nerdy but probably THE funniest guy I have ever met, I could be having a really shit time and I'd talk to him for like 2 minutes and he puts a ...
A. 26 February 2017: Firstly, casual one night stands are one thing, but do not try for them!ESpecially as a means to get over someone else, you only end up feeling more s**t! Try and imagine what it looks like from the outside. There is nothing less attractive to a guy... (read in full...)
Is it over the top to want my first date ever to be nice and memorable?
Q. I've never actually been on a date before despite being my early 20s. I'm OK looking and friendly so I've been asked out, I just haven't wanted to as I am a busy girl. Anyway, I've joined an online dating site for fun and got a fair few offers ...
A. 26 February 2017: Try not looking at meeting someone for the first time as your first date!
You are just meeting them!
If it goes well discuss what you might like to do on your first date, while you're having coffee!
I STRESS if it goes WELL! Don't come on too ... (read in full...)
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