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writes:Long story short, I've done a series of things that made me look bad in front of my crush. I don't mean things that have to do with being rude, immoral, nasty or unkind, etc. I just haven't had much dating experience and made mistakes that made the guy I like not care for me one bit. I'm having a hard time getting over it because I feel humiliated and like I blew it with an amazing guy. I know many of you may say "There's other fish in the sea" but I need to digest this feeling of rejection before I can move on. How can I feel better?Have you ever humiliated yourself in front of a person you romantically cared for? Please share any stories so I can feel less alone in all this...
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (6 March 2017):
 What is it that you did? We're strangers on the internet, no one's going to know who you are. If you tell us, it might be easier to help you out
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (6 March 2017):
 Nobody's perfect. We all make mistakes. The important thing is that we learn a lesson from our mistakes and don't repeat them - which I am sure you have.
Forgive yourself, then hold your head high and move on.
HUGS.
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reader, Campari Milano +, writes (6 March 2017):
To be brutally honest, I don't understand what you mean by 'mistakes'. I have made a total prat of myself in front of nearly every guy I have ever liked! If they like you back, it doesn't matter. In fact, usually that's a talking point and becomes 'your story'! You have to be able to own your foolishness and learn to laugh at yourself.
If he doesn't like you, it's not because of your 'mistakes' or lack of dating experience. He just isn't the one for you.
Sorry. Good luck xxx
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 March 2017):
 OP, EVERYONE has done something stupid or embarrassing at LEAST one time in their life.
If this guy was OH SO amazing he wouldn't judge you for ONE ridiculous blunder.
I don't think it was JUST that one "thing" you did that made him NOT go for you. He probably just didn't fancy you as much as you fancies him. IT happens.
Instead of BEATING yourself up over this, look elsewhere for a romantic connection. And you did say it, there are PLENTY of other fish in the sea. "Fish" who have no idea about this "blunder" of yours. And one day, TRUST me, you will look back and laugh at it.
Living with regret is USELESS and POINTLESS.
Instead, learn from it. What you did in front of him that you are SO embarrassed about? Don't do THAT again.
Do better in the future.
DO NOT let ONE "blunder" define you.
As for the guy? Think, HIS loss and MOVE on.
Chin up.
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