He's is acting crazy after he went though a breakup! How can I help him?
Q. So I have this friend..I dated him about 2 years ago..he just recently went through a bad bad break up and is being really rude and just crazy.. It's scaring me..I like him a lot..and I wanna help him but he's going crazy..like calling his ex a ...
A. 26 May 2011: breakups are really hard on some people. when my bf moved away and we decided not to keep up a relationship, I was devastated because I loved him. So I went into a tailspin of drinking and drugs, and I said some nasty things to him and also did ... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend spreading sexual rumers about me.
Q. I've recently dumped my Ex boyfriend. I was with him for 3 months and come to relise he's a bit of a bully and that something I don't want. He's been spreading rumers that he's fin*gered me. Everyone is pretty shocked and a lot of people have lost ...
A. 22 March 2011: wait, let me get this straight... you're in between 18 and 21 years old, and you're afraid people have lost respect for you because your ex boyfriend allegedly fingered you? huh? are you living in the 1950's? seriously, anyone who ... (read in full...)
Why did my ex acknowledge me after all this time?
Q. Hi! I would appreciate your help because this is puzzling me. I split with my ex a couple of years ago- he finished it. It was a very messy breakup and he called me terrible names and told people things about me that weren't true, like I was ...
A. 21 March 2011: he sounds awful. but maybe time has changed him and he's matured emotionally since you broke up. Perhaps he just felt like it was time to be friendly and bury the hatchet after all this time. I wouldn't read too much into it and let it go. He ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to still be in love with someone a year after it ended?
Q. Is it normal for people to still be completely and utterly in love with someone a year after it ended? There's been no contact, I haven't seen him and yet I still think about him every second of every day and still can't help but beam when I talk ...
A. 30 December 2009: it has taken me 6 months, and i'm still depressed over my loss of my ex. it's totally normal to feel that way, but try to focus on your life and get involved in hobbies and meet new people. that seems to help... (read in full...)
I march to the beat of a dfferent drum...I just don't know where I fit in anymore?
Q. I've always done my own thing in life- marched to the beat of my own drum so to speak. I just feel like the odd one out at times because I have different interests than people my age. I never liked to go to parties or clubs- it’s too crowded, I ...
A. 30 December 2009: You sound like me, so hooray for you! Instead of focusing on the negative aspect of being different, appreciate the fact that you are perhaps more enlightened than the average person. You have a good head on your shoulders, you're smart, curious, ... (read in full...)
We've been a couple three days, I want to break it off already
Q. How do you break up with an extremely sensitive guy who claims he is IN love with you, and its like nothing he has ever felt before, bearing in mind we only started going out 3 days ago? I honestly thought I liked him, I knew he liked me a lot more...
A. 12 December 2009: you need to be honest with him. sit him down and say exactly what you said here. the longer you wait the worse the breakup will be. this guy has come on too strong and needy and that can be really bad. he's not in love but infatuated with you, ... (read in full...)
Why is she doing this now after being so cold towards me?
Q. I was very close to my friend and still have feelings for her. We had had a short romance earlier in the year that sort of turned to friendship. A few months ago, I told her I still had feelings for her and she let me down softly. She said she ...
A. 22 November 2009: you did the right thing by cutting off contact. often with exes, they'll act like jerks after the breakup for whatever reason, but if contact is cut, it's most likely they'll contact again, either just to check up or because they still have ... (read in full...)
Broke up my first serious relationship. Talk to him or distract myself?
Q. I just broke up with my boyfriend of two years yesterday. We're both 25 years old. This is my first serious relationship and as such my first heartbreak. The reason of our breakup is because he lied to me again and again and I couldn't find it in my ...
A. 30 May 2009: distract yourself as much as possible. schedule your days so you are always on the go. play sports, go jogging, hang out with friends, find hobbies that will keep you busy and that you have to focus on. trust me, it makes it much easier.
the r... (read in full...)
Please help me understand her...
Q. This girl and I are fairly close... well, really close. We have never been boyfriend and girlfriend, but we have kissed and we exchange "I love you"s a lot. The things I don't understand: 1. She said she loves me and likes me, but she doesn't...
A. 30 May 2009: she's playing you like a fiddle darling and you're letting her get the upper hand. Here's what you need to do, take my advice, it will work I swear:
i'd start acting like a jerk to her, not mean, but just cocky like you don't care what she's do... (read in full...)
Why don't guys go out with girls with low self-esteem?
Q. why don,t shallow good looking guys like fat girls why are we not good enough to be seen with .i feel so inferior that i won,t ever get a boyfriend becasue my weight and lack of social skills.good looking guys always have girlfriends how is this ...
A. 10 May 2009: i think guys like girls with a good attitude, who are fun and happy and well-adjusted...unless they have a problem themselves. would you want to be with a guy that hated himself and was 'poor me' all the time? i doubt it. unless you like to fix ... (read in full...)
FWB situation I need help with
Q. i decided after four months of being in a friends with benefits relationship to end it because i was getting attached and he wasn't. we had a great time but i couldn't continue on. so i told him over text that i got the feeling he didn't care ...
A. 25 April 2009: i think if you are friends, at least the person could treat you as such. for him to not even respond is plain rude and mean. it's like i'm not even worth the thought, like i'm garbage. i don't understand it. i know we weren't supposed to have ... (read in full...)
Can I get a sneak preview of what sex would be like with her?
Q. I have a good relationship with this woman. We started off as acquaintances and have become friends. I want our relationship to develop into something more. I want sex. She has not said that she does not but we have not done it yet. While I wait for ...
A. 20 April 2009: sneak preview? this ain't the movie theater man. this is real life, and i think she might be confused or creeped out by your request for a "sneak preview." i think you'll just have to wait for the feature film if you get my drift.... (read in full...)
I'm feeling really stressed out at the moment...
Q. Hi, I'm looking for any advice from anyone out there. I don't have a huge problem but I am really really really stressed out at the moment and I feel completely lost. I am almost finished my degree in college and I have exams in the next few weeks, ...
A. 20 April 2009: i've been there, and i'm back again, so i know what you are going through. being dumped really sucks, and it's even worse that he's moved on so quickly. but trust me, in the long run it is better that you focus on your school and get your degree ... (read in full...)
Would you say we are together again?
Q. I just want some opinions on my current situation. I've been with my boyfriend for about 4 months. We hit it off instantly. About a month ago, he breaks up with me because he wanted to focus on himself and his work. He was very stressed and ...
A. 20 April 2009: if he is treating you the exact same way as before, then it sounds like he just needed a quick break to sort out his feelings. i would not pressure him with more relationship talk, just go with the flow as you say because he might freak if you push ... (read in full...)
Help! Three is a crowd!
Q. I want to stay all night with my bf and I know he wants it too but his cousin lives with him, how can I get him to tell him to leave and stay with a friend? He is also afraid that my family will catch us but I know that they won't....
A. 20 April 2009: yeah, i would feel weird about the cousin being there, even if it's in a different room. i never have my guy over because i have roommates, so we always go to his place because he lives alone. i think you the motel or hotel idea is a good one.... (read in full...)
Do I wait for him to contact me or do I call him to arrange something?
Q. I went out with this guy on Friday night and we got along really well, the date went on for 5 hours (no kiss at the end, just a hug - I wasn't too comfortable just yet). At the end he asked me on a second date for Saturday night but I already had ...
A. 20 April 2009: yeah, i would just drop him a line saying you had a great time and hope to see him again soon, possibly next weekend. then let him do the planning. i think if you are overeager, he might not dig that. you know how men are, they like the chase and ... (read in full...)
We just broke up. She was my life! Help me!
Q. Me and my girlfriend just broke up. We are 15 people say thats too young but i dont think so. She said we are very different and she has exams soon and it will be too difficult. I dont know what to do, she was my life. ...
A. 20 April 2009: yeah, don't be too serious about relationships at this point in your life. it is like one out of a million couples that dated in high school who get married later on in life.
don't sweat it kid, there are other gals out there and you will meet... (read in full...)
Abusive boyfriend!
Q. Here I go again.. me and my abusive boyfriend of 4 years are done. I've given him opportunity's to change from being a cheater more than once and putting his hands on me.. the recent incident was Friday because he got upset for how I was speaking ...
A. 20 April 2009: wow, leave this creep. he cheats on you and hits you in front of your kid. he sounds like a winner. you need to get away from him because the violence will escalate and who knows, he could kill you.
i know it's tough, but you need to start your... (read in full...)
I think he only wants to meet me for sex... but I'm NOT ready!
Q. Hey, I need help asap. A guy I have known for about 6 years now, we are very good friends has asked me to meet him, I am really scared because I think he wants to have sex and I'm not ready, specially not with him, he's told me he just wants to ...
A. 20 April 2009: if you are not ready then DO NOT HAVE SEX!!!! Don't let him pressure you. If he is a good guy and you tell him you are not ready, then he will respect your wishes. If he tells you if you loved him or cared for him, then you would have sex with ... (read in full...)
What is a sexy outfit to wear for a striptease/lapdance?
Q. What is a sexy outfit to wear for a striptease/lapdance? I was thinking a miniskirt, a mesh shrug top that ties in the middle, a black thong and some stockings? ...
A. 20 April 2009: who says don't striptease for your partner, that is the dumbest response i've ever heard! cliched or not, men like it, that's a fact.
so on that note, i think start off with more coverage, a cute skirt and top, maybe school girl style, and then... (read in full...)
Opinions needed please... Should I just wait to see where things go? Or is this just a lost cause?
Q. There's this guy that I've known for around 2 months now. For around the first few weeks we got along reeeally good and flirted a lot. We have like exactly the same personality. Then for a few weeks after that he started distancing himself and not ...
A. 20 April 2009: sounds like he was probably very hurt by his ex and wants to take things very slowly. i would just take it easy with him and give him some time to get over it. guys are very sensitive creatures, if they're hurt they don't forget it very easily and ... (read in full...)
I can't avoid him, I can't have him and I can't let anybody have him other than me...
Q. Dear agony aunt, I am 26 years old... and I can't think like it. My best friend is a guy(D). We love each other and it's quite deep and we are physically intimate. We can't marry cuz we both belong to different religions. So the heart of the ...
A. 20 April 2009: if you definitely can't have him, then i think you have to let him go. if you take a break from him and quietly dissapear for a bit, you will find out his true intentions. either he will dump Y and come for you, or you'll lose touch and then move ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my 'friend with benefits' and its killing me
Q. a year ago while i had a boyfriend i hooked up with this guy he happened to be my friends ex boyfriend and one of my other friends had a crush on him and all of the parents in our area knew about it so for these reasons the affair ended. but by this ...
A. 20 April 2009: i'm going through a similar deal, and it is really wretched. i really like to be around my FWB, i don't think it's love but i think about him constantly and i'm so sad when he's away.
it is just awful, i've lost 10 lbs from stress since i star... (read in full...)
STD but never have sex?
Q. I am 16, never had sex or anything like that, but all of a sudden there are these red dots on the tip of my penis and it burns when i pee. If i didn't know any better I'd say it was an STI but like in said, i've never had any sexual activity....
A. 9 March 2009: i would get it checked out, it is possible to pick up STD's and not have sex before. it could be something else, but you should have your doc look at it. it might be serious and if you wait too long, there might not be any fixing it. sorry to ... (read in full...)
A temporary break?
Q. I have been in a long distance relationship for the past couple of years. She has been the love of my life since 6th grade. We had a crush on each other for back in 8th grade but we drifted apart. Again, when I was in college, we started meeting, ...
A. 9 March 2009: hmmm, it sounds like she is not respectful of your time, and maybe the Long distance is just too much work for her. i think you should take a break, see what happens. if she doesn't contact you again, then you know she is ready to move on.
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In the loop with 2 guys
Q. Hi, I was dating a guy for 6 months and he told me he wasnt ready for a steady relationship. Since then i moved on and met someone else who is 20years older. Been dating him for 3 months. He is very nice to me and he is looking for something ve...
A. 9 March 2009: ok, here goes:
forget what your friends and family say about the older guy, ask yourself, does his age truly bother you? if yes, then let this one go. you can't change your age difference, and imagine being with this guy when you're 40, he'll be... (read in full...)
Have I lost my sex appeal?
Q. so i have been wondering for the past maybe 7 months of my almost 2 year relationship that my girlfriend, now fiancee has been wanting increasingly less sexual things, not just sex, but everything of a sexual nature, even just making out or fooling ...
A. 9 March 2009: wow, a two year relationship and she's already limiting the sex? and you haven't even made out in 4 months?!!!
sorry, bro, unless something in her life is really really stressing her out, or she's become very depressed, something is up.
eit... (read in full...)
Should I start initiating contact with her or leave it be and let her contact me again in a week or two?
Q. I began dating my now ex-girlfriend in December of 2007. In June of 2008 we decided to move her in with me because we were very much in love and we were driving 40 miles 2 or 3 times a week to see one another. She was having a hard time finding a ...
A. 9 March 2009: this was a long one.
here's my thought, and this is from the female perspective..i think you should let this girl go. it doesn't sound so much like she wants you back but more wishful thinking on your part. she probably wants her stuff back bec... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to make love but I'm not ready yet.
Q. Im 13 and my girlfriend is 14 and she says lets make love i said i want to wait what should i do? a=Do it b=wait Please help...
A. 9 March 2009: 14?!!! Noooooo, choose option b, wait it out!!!
I was in pig tails and still playing hopscotch at that age, not wondering what kind of condoms to get!
slow down there partner, you are too young for this. Enjoy your innocence while you can, bec... (read in full...)
He refuses to go down on me
Q. I am just wondering why my boyfriend won't go down on me anymore. We haveo nly been together about 4 months and I keep myself well groomed. THe most it ever gets to down there is a little stubbly which he has commented he likes because it "tickles" ...
A. 9 March 2009: i agree, it sounds like he might have had a one time bad experience with a taste/smell and is afraid to go back.
you need to communicate with him, just don't be angry with him or yell when you tell him because that does no good. ust ask him simp... (read in full...)
My guy is very stressed about his life..how to help him?
Q. Hello pips Sorry for the long story. just need to let it out here is the story. me and my ex got back together like 2 months ago, he is the one who actually initiated the get together thing, however i knew that he had a girlfriend, the intenti...
A. 9 March 2009: ok, this is a very convoluted story.
first of all, if this guy is going to be irresponsible and father a child but not take care of it, then that is a shame. he should have been more careful! people, use protection if you do not have the mean... (read in full...)
It was just getting good what is his deal?
Q. Things were progressing so well with this new guy. We met online. Emailed back and forth for a while, talked on the phone and have been on four dates. Our dates have been great and he called me several days in advance to plan the first three and he ...
A. 9 March 2009: can i respond to another post here. ok, i think it is nonsense that if you sleep iwth a guy on the first date, he never calls back.
yes it does happen, but i slept with my latest and greatest on the first date and we've been dating for mont... (read in full...)
He's hiding porn in the ceiling, should I just leave him?
Q. My husband lies about porn, he hides them in the ceiling and an unfinished room wall. I've caught him several times and he lies to my face. Then just pretends everything is OK. To top it off he has every excuse not to have sex We are 43 years old...
A. 9 March 2009: Wow!!! the poor guy! ok lady, and mind you i am a woman, but i am telling you the truth here..men need to masturbate! Just because he masturbates does not mean he is cheating on you!!! it amazes me that women actually think this. every man m... (read in full...)
Why is my teacher starting to act differently?
Q. I've recently been noticing that one of my teachers has been acting differently. Here's some of the things he's been doing: When he walks around to check in our assignments, he stops either next to my desk and takes extra time filling in his ...
A. 9 March 2009: hmm, i'll be honest, it sounds like you are making a big deal out of nothing. but if he ever approaches you or says/does anything inappropriate you tell your parents right away. be careful not to rush to any judgements ok? you need to be sure ... (read in full...)
Is the awkwardness because we just don't know eachother enough?
Q. Hey, I'm having difficulties with something that I think is a bit stupid! Well, I've been going out with this guy for about a month and a half ....and everything was okay, but I feel a little bit awkward from time to time,probably because it is my ...
A. 9 March 2009: i think if you think too much about being awkward and not having anything to say sometimes, then it makes it more awkward. just go with the silence. smile at him and quietly hold his hand to reassure him that everything's fine, you've just got ... (read in full...)
I've never felt this way about anyone before..I'm really hurt
Q. Please help me. I really need someone's help. I feel very depressed and frustrated. How do I get over someone I think stole my heart. I'm just hurt. How do I overcome this "rejection" and go on with my life? I think about him constantly. He's been ...
A. 9 March 2009: really girl, take it easy on the 14 yr olds, she was trying to help. anyway, just focus on yourself right now, find something to distract yourself from this guy. you need to just take it easy, don't think of this guy as the last one on earth! y... (read in full...)
What does he really want?
Q. So I've had this Friend with benefits thing with a guy for almost 4 months and I'm confused by what he really wants. I'm a single, never married 29 yr old mother to one 4 yr old. He's 33 yr old recently divorced father of 3 young kids (ages 1, 4 and ...
A. 9 March 2009: if he is taking you out all the time and treating you like a gf, but without then title, then i think personally that you are his gf, he just doesn't want to admit it for fear of responsibility and such. men seem more likely to do this behavior ... (read in full...)
I'm having such a difficult dating..need some advice!
Q. This is a long post and I don't have a specific question really - I am just unsure of what to do. I have never had a boyfriend or dated; I rarely am approached by guys. I'm a great person but I just don't have the "it" that attracts men. ...
A. 9 March 2009: Keep on focusing on making your own life good, dear.
Now I know it sucks when your friends all have boyfriends and you're always the single girl..hello, me until I was 25, and finally I landed one! Sure I got asked out a lot and went on some dat... (read in full...)
I'm really unsure of his intentions
Q. I have been friends with benefits with my ex for maybe two months now. He used to be one of my best friends, we dated for 7 months. After we broke up he went out with my best friend. Both of them kept this from me till it blew up in their faces when ...
A. 9 March 2009: first of all, he's got two strikes against him: 1) he broke up with you, and 2) he dated your best friend. Now that is a no-no, and I would be so furious with this guy that I would never talk to him again. He ruined two relationships for you!
N... (read in full...)
What should I do in this situation?
Q. Ok i apologise if this question is a bit complicated but i'm confused about things, and need a bit of help. A few weeks ago, me and my bf (we'll call him J) split up, and i was devastated. The weekend after i dealt with things in a bad way by going ...
A. 9 March 2009: I especially don't care for guy B, he sounds like trouble. Special birthday present, that's creepy especially since you guys only made out once.
Guy P, I would be wary of if he goes to work drunk, because that is not normal. I would make sure that... (read in full...)
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