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writes:How do you break up with an extremely sensitive guy who claims he is IN love with you, and its like nothing he has ever felt before, bearing in mind we only started going out 3 days ago?I honestly thought I liked him, I knew he liked me a lot more than I like him, but now it just doesn't feel right he wants a serious relationship and I can't give him that when I don't feel the same way he does. I know I need to end this, but it is so hard he is the best guy friend I have and I can't stand that I have to hurt him. Reply to this Question
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reader, bootyboot  +, writes (12 December 2009):
you need to be honest with him. sit him down and say exactly what you said here. the longer you wait the worse the breakup will be. this guy has come on too strong and needy and that can be really bad. he's not in love but infatuated with you, but he doesn't realize it.
just tell him the truth and then keep your distance. if you stay friends it will be really hard for him to let go. give him space and then maybe in time you can be friends again once he's moved on.
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reader, JustMex +, writes (11 December 2009):
 He may really think it's love, unless he's after sex, but it's just infatuation. It can feel a lot like love. I'm thinking, perhaps it's over sensitiveness and clinginess that's putting you off? I can see why if that is the reason! Sooner rather than later would be better, both for him and you. Sit him down and tell him you've realised that you like him as only a friend, you're sorry for hurting him and that you hope that you two can still be friends. If that is what you want. Also, try to understand if he says he can't be friends, because being friends with someone you have feelings for can be really hard, so respect his decision if he thinks he can't be friends with you. Good luck, he'll be a little hurt, but it's only 3 days in, I think soon enough he'll be fine again. :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2009): I am in the same position as you, but I have let this drag on for a year and a half. I'm having a very difficult time trying to break things off with him. You should do it sooner then later because it won't hurt him as much as it would a year later. Good luck!
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