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*estephe3
writes:I've recently been noticing that one of my teachers has been acting differently. Here's some of the things he's been doing: When he walks around to check in our assignments, he stops either next to my desk and takes extra time filling in his grading book thing, or stops and turns around, to face in my direction, by the kid who sits in front of me and glances at me sometimes (which I find really awkward). He genuinely looks in my direction while speaking to the class every day. If I have to ask him a question, he'll cross his arms and hardly make eye contact with me. As I handed him a quiz one day, he, (I'm hoping), accidentally touched my hand. When I'm talking in the hall with one of my friends, he'll walk by and look at me. I really don't know what's going on with him, but it's starting to make me feel uncomfortable. But at least one of my friends is in my class, and is starting to notice these things too. Thanks to anyone if they have any advice. I'd appreciate it.
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reader, sestephe3 +, writes (10 March 2009):
sestephe3 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for the feedback! I'm going to consider doing some of these things. And today actually, as we were taking a quiz, he was walking around the room & just sat down, behind me, on a countertop until I was finished. I didn't want to look back at him & I have no clue what or why he decided to sit there. But it's becoming really strange.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (9 March 2009):
 Please listen very carefully to my following advice.
You need to talk to your parents with your friend and tell them everything you have just told us. Regardless of whether they think you might be making a big deal out of nothing, explain to them how uncomfortable it makes you.
Next, you need to go to the principal or your counselor with your parents and friend, and tell them what is going on.
Even if this is nothing, even if you are just reading him wrong, you need to make the appropriate adults aware of your feelings. If it turns out he is having indecent thoughts about you, the school officials will talk to him and hopefully scare the living piss out of him, which will keep him from doing anything else towards you.
Make these reports, so that if anything does happen, the burden is on the school, not you. Do not shrug this off. I'm not saying to freak out about this, but you need to make people aware of this inappropriate behavior.
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reader, flowerxchild +, writes (9 March 2009):
 I do understand how you must feel. I think we all know what it's like to get a vibe from someone. Sometimes that person seems to be purposefully sending signals your way. Of course others aren't going to notice AS much, because it isn't being directed towards them. I don't think it sounds like it is in your imagination, I just think your being cautious, and that is a GOOD thing. There are so many girls and woman that do not listen to their intuition, and end up in very risky or even dangerous situations because of it. Don't ever deny your intuition. Others may think you sound silly, but protecting yourself, is a lot more important.
It's kind of like, having that gut feeling that somebody is lying. You don't have any proof, but yet you can see all of the signs in front of you. If you chose to ignore it just because you didn't have the main evidence, that to me would be silly.
I suggest, being observant.. but at the same time, make sure he doesn't know. Ask some others you know, who are in class with you, or who have had classes.. if they have ever noticed, or gotten that vibe. But around him, try to act as un-interested as possible. See what his reaction is, if you choose to act put off by him. If he reacts in a negative way, then that would be a signal in my mind that he is obviously angry, and upset for a reason. If he just goes his seperate way, then maybe this means he has got the clue, that you are uncomfortable with his behavior.
So far, he's only made you uncomfortable with his body language, and eye contact. If he goes any further then this, or you just become too uncomfortable.. Talk to somebody. A pastor, a counselor, your mother, a friend... somebody you TRUST. I also suggest going ahead and talking to your mother about it. This obviously has been weighing on your conscience or else you wouldn't be here.
As for his reputation, we don't know his name, now do we?
Listen to your intuition. Worry about your safety first.
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reader, Artistry +, writes (9 March 2009):
 Hi there, Since your friend is noticing your teachers change of behavior, it seems it's reality. Because we can sometimes imagine things as well. I would, if I were you, let him keep acting as he has been. I would mention it to my mother casually, do not make too much about it. He is looking and staring not touching and feeling. Try to ignore him, and do your classwork. Do not stare back at him. hopefully he will stop, if he doesn't, go up to him in class while all the students are around and tell him that it makes you uncomfortable for him to do what you perceive and your friend as well has noticed. Important that you let him know someone else has noticed, ask him to please stop staring at you, you would greatly appreciate it. Older people know that young people are immpressionable, easy to sway, and they do try tricks. Go about your business, do your claswork, and hopefully he will find someone his age to be obsessed with, if that is his problem. Stay in touch, let your mom know. Take care, good luck.
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reader, bootyboot +, writes (9 March 2009):
hmm, i'll be honest, it sounds like you are making a big deal out of nothing. but if he ever approaches you or says/does anything inappropriate you tell your parents right away. be careful not to rush to any judgements ok? you need to be sure this guy is acting inappropriate before you go telling everyone and ruin his reputation for something he didn't do. if he makes you uncomfortable, maybe tell a school counselor how you feel so they can get to the bottom of this!
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reader, MusicalMistress +, writes (9 March 2009):
 I understand. I have this problem. My teacher do most of those things to me. A bunch of people around school are saying that he likes me. Of cousre i am in total denial. But anyway, maybe it is just a Cowinky-Dink that all these things are happening next/to you. Maybe.... Possablly....he has a tiny crush on you. But i don't know. I'm not him. You could pray and ask God why such things are happening to you. That's what i did. I've had a few signs. But anyway sweetie, don't take to much thought to it, or it will drive you insane! I hope i helped somewhat. Taylor
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