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*ootyboot
writes:i decided after four months of being in a friends with benefits relationship to end it because i was getting attached and he wasn't. we had a great time but i couldn't continue on. so i told him over text that i got the feeling he didn't care anymore and sorry it had to end this way. he never responded, like i don't even exist. how can someone be that cruel? at least i deserve the decency of a response, don't you think?!!i feel sick to my stomach because this person i cared about doesn't even have the courtesy to acknowledge what i said. i know it's for the best i ended it, but sheesh, how can someone be that cold?!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2009): I absolutely agree with you! At least you now know what sort of man he is. He's probably sulking somewhere feeling dejected, but he definitely has no manners.
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reader, Mikados are lush!  +, writes (25 April 2009):
 Thats possibly to do with what Uncle Phil was saying, fwb is sex. I'm not even sure if most the time friendship comes into it. So if you're stopping the benefits, he's outta here kinda thing. Still agree with you though, its out of order to treat you the way he has
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reader, bootyboot +, writes (25 April 2009):
bootyboot is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni think if you are friends, at least the person could treat you as such. for him to not even respond is plain rude and mean. it's like i'm not even worth the thought, like i'm garbage. i don't understand it. i know we weren't supposed to have feelings for each other, but this isn't even friendly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2009): He's probably somewhat annoyed that he's lost his once-a-week bonk or however often it was. Basically he's rather rude not to respond, but I always thought this 'friends with benefits' system was one where there were no feelings for each other, just friendship and sex on tap. (or do you say 'sex on faucet' over there?) Perhaps he felt you were overstepping the mark by getting too attached.
The only thing I can suggest is that in future you keep sex out of any relationship unless there's love and commitment involved.
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reader, Mikados are lush! +, writes (25 April 2009):
Thats tight!
Probably the reason why women cant deal with fwb situations as well as guys is because we always get attached, most of the time men dont! He really didn't want anything serious, and it sounds like he was honest about that. But to cut you off like that is very insensitive. Unless he is hurt? Did he definately have no feelings?
Not a lot you can do really. You cant make someone respond. Small comfort I know but it sounds like you had a lucky escape, and good for you for knowing what you want and not letting it go so far that you are walked all over.
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