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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I recently had a response from match.com. And shes been interested in me for 2 weeks before we started talking. This is before i got back together with my girlfriend of 5 months. Before her mom was diagnosed with cancer. She has no kids and never been married. it seems like we hit it off though. She called me tonight for the first time we talked for about a half hour. But one issue is what do i tell my girlfriend of 5 months?I promised to be there for her through thick and thin. But the gf that i have right now what if she pulls another stunt on me and i got nobody to fall back on then? I am afraid that she will do that to me again even if she felt bad about it. The woman that im dating has 2 daughters they're almost teens. And she had divorce a like a few years ago because her husband was a drunk. And she didnt want that because of her daughters. So, whats ur advice cuz i really need it.thanks
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reader, bluecow  +, writes (21 December 2011):
 Why do you need someone to fall back on?
You know, its perfectly OK to be single!!
Anyhoo, with regards to choosing between your love interests that really is up to you.
You need to examine why things went wrong with your girlfriend in the past, and whether anything has changed with regards to that relationship. If the problems are still unresolved then you need to ask yourself whether they can be (are you and she willing to put the time and effort into working them through). I'm guessing she knows nothing about your chat with a woman from a dating site? why?
The other woman is an unknown entity, you barely know her and whilst you find her attractive you have no idea who she really is or whether your really compatible.
The decision here is more about whether you stay with your current girlfriend, the other woman is more incidental.
What is not acceptable is stringing either of them along. You need to decide soon so that everyone knows where they stand.
Your current girlfriend is going through some big big emotional termoil at the moment with her mothers illness. So I would suggest that whatever you choose you do offer to be a support for her in this regards.
The woman from the dating site. As I have said you really dont know her, so you cant make your decision on such flaky ground. You need to decide if your love your girlfriend enough to remain with her or nor. The other woman could turn out to be your soul mate, your best friend or a complete nutcase... you just dont know so she shouldnt really figure in the decision. What isnt fair, is letting her believe your a free and single man when clearly your not.
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