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I'm Jelly, (Though that isn't my real name, obviously.)
I'm 13 so i guess I'm one of the younger people on this site.
I don't have a boyfriend but I am in love with someone and he knows but he is in love with someone else... it's all a bit confusing.
Unfortunately, i dislike young* children as they annoy me ememsly. I have many faults including my spelling so don't hesitate to correct me.
My favorite things are fencing, all sciences (though, especially genetics) chocolate, music and books. I can read all day, and sometimes do. I have some very close friends who know me really well and a little circle of people my age who I hang out with at shcool. I am very very musical - its what keeps me going when times get tough.
I was abused when I was younger and it really mucked me up, up to the point where I was contemplating suicide. I have hurt myself quite a few times but normally just pinching and scratching myself until I bleed. I did slice at my wrists though which was not clever but it did help calm me down.
Thanks for listening, and I try to answer any questions that I think I can help with
Feel free to PM me if you want
Bye.
Jelly
xxx
*For young, read: 7 and below. My cousins cry if I walk away from them too quickly for pete's sake! |
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Onwards, ever onwards..
Jelly
xxx... (read in full...)
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Jelly
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A. 25 September 2008: Poor Blossom.
It is horrible, truely horrible that you are feeling this way.
You have to tell your parents, honey, if you want this to work out. They aren't nice friends and you deserve better.
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It's a simple ennough request. "Lets not get tied down with sprogs until we can afford it and are sure we're ready."
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I would recomend that you get engaged for a long time and live together to make sure you are ready.
Jelly
xxx... (read in full...)
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