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writes:This guy I am with now, who I have been with for like 2 years has asked me if I am ready for sex.I said yes and he told me to talk to my mum and dad about it first because he don't want to be on the bad side of my parents.He is really close to my family. He buys my mum and dad and sisters prezzies on their birthdays and on christmas and I do the same with his mum and dad and sister.Should I talk to my mum and dad about this?? What should I say??
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reader, babewithbrains +, writes (22 November 2008):
 Are you British? From your flag I predict so, so please, please wait until you're 16 - it's just safer, it's very easy to split a condom or forget your pill if something bad happens, so if you're over 16 you can do so much more to protect yourself and your bf. Ask them about sex, how they lost it etc.Jellyxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): your bf sound really nice!! if you are both under 16 then your bf won't get told off but if one is under 16 and the other is over 16 the older one cud get into trouble. b careful and talk to your sister.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): sorry everyone BUT isn't the age of consent above 15 in virtually all US states - please don't do anything illegal
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): Yes talk to your parents. It sounds as though you both have a close relationship with your parents, that the outcome will be a healthy one. I wish you luck and hope it all works out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2008): First of all I want to say, You have a good guy there. It's very unusual for a teenage boy to think so responsably. And secondly...You must have a feeling about how your parents will react.
If you do approach them and they "flip-out" about it, it could possibly change their feelings towards your boyfriend. If, on the other hand you think they'd be cool about it and calmly discuss the pros and cons of teenage sex, and you can respect their feelings (remember, they've experienced more in life than you have) then...I think it's great that you and he both respect them so much...another admirable and responsible trait!
Whatever you decide...good luck.
By the way, I too feel it wouldn't hurt to wait a little longer to have sex. It could cause more problems for you both!!!
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (21 November 2008):
i personally think that even though he is very respectful of your wishes and obviously your parents, i dont think your parents will see it in the same way.
after all he is a teenage boy with hormones raging all around him and parents can be very protective of their daughters. maybe you should both sit down and talk with your parents. it is important that you talk to them more then him. also if you are under the age of consent, then you shouldn't even have sex. you may think you are ready, but you probably are not mature enough to handle the emotional side of what sex brings. dont rush into it! it could ruin alot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx for all the comments, do you think i should wait or tell my parents. I have already told my boyfriend that i want to loose my virginity to him and he wants to do the same with me.
I think my mum and dad know about us being ready but i just want to be sure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2008): That's very responsible of him, not something you often find in teenage boys! What's the age of consent where you live? If you're above it then I don't think talking to your parents is necessary. Also if you think they will point blanc refuse to let you then I would wait a little while longer before you do it. If you think they'll be fine but want clarification, then go for it and ask them =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2008): I think it is your responsibility to talk to your parents about you sex life, not your boyfriend's.
If I were your dad, and some boy your age started talking to me about wanting to have sex with you, I don't think I would handle it very well.
Your boyfriend probably means well, but he is overstepping some major boundaries of respect for your parents to do this.
You should also consider holding off having sex even though you have been together 2 years. You may be very happy together now, but the chances of you being together in a few years are incredibly slim to none. I don't want to sound negative, but that's just the way it works...
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reader, babes11393  +, writes (21 November 2008):
I think you should consult your parents on this if your boyfriend is that close of a relationship, with your family and wants you to consult with them i think its best. Any boyfriend who doesn't just jump into things is a respectful boyfriend and honest.
Yes you should!
you should say: Mom, Dad, You know ive been with him for 2 years now and he consulted me if i was ready for sex and i said yes and he said to get your point of view cause he doesn't want to start a conflict considering he's close to you guys what is your prespective and your point of view on the subject of us taking it one step futher?
I think if you address your parents in a smart respectful peaceful attitude you should have no problem even if your parents say i dont think its right yet. just agree cause fighting for them to say yes isn't going to make the issue any better..
Hope all works out.
Good Luck (:
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