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28 May 2009: why wait? thats what everyone is asking. in this world virgins have become an endangered species and are fast becoming extinct. waiting for marriage is now outdated. i wonder why. in the begining sex was a celebration of love between two people who ...
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He chose to spend our 1 year 10 month anniversary with his college friends!
Q. Ok I know this sounds a bit stupid but yesterday was our year and ten months anniversarie but he kept telling me last week that he was gonna surprise me wit breaking Dawn tickets and so I was just thinking it comes out Friday it's our day Friday ...
A. 20 November 2011: Honey u are overeacting. My husband spent our first wedding anniversary with his mother... Imagine that. I spent the day at home, alone crying my eyes out. And he only came home with an "I'm sorry but mom needed my help and i lost track of time... (read in full...)
I don't feel like I fit in the college dating crowd because I'm petite
Q. Last year, I was graduating highschool and was under the impression that guys may be slightly more open minded when it came to girls who were not big breasted and tall. But I got even more intimidated because I feel like a college girl in a jr ...
A. 14 June 2011: the first thing you need to stop doing is comparing yourself to everyone else. This will keep you from totally being yourself as youll be thrashing yyour self esteem in the process. There are guys who like small women and i'm sure ther are a few on ... (read in full...)
Falling for a married man but I don't want to be a homewrecker! Help!
Q. Right, well, im falling for a married guy! so a few months ago i moved from england to holland on my own to start a fresh. I started a new job a month ago and met "jack", i wasn't really interested at first, i wasn't attracted to him. but i work ...
A. 14 June 2011: i agree with drew. The more time you spend with him the stronger the connection s going to be. Try your best to keep busy @ work and only talk to him when uts absolutely neccessary. Distance yourself from him and avoid social chit chat. Try to make ... (read in full...)
I know nothing about sex! Help
Q. hi. i'm 15. the problem is that i know actually nothing about sex. i know very little about girl's body, no clear idea about sexual intercourse. i'm not easy with girls at all. it seems that most of my friends masturbate, but i don't, in fact i ...
A. 10 November 2009: you are only 15 and you have your whole life ahead of you to learn about sex. when the time comes you'll know but for now just be content with being innocent. xx... (read in full...)
What's wrong with me? Why do guys always put me in the "friend zone"?
Q. Okay so I feel ridiculous for saying this out loud because Men do not validate you and your life but I feel like something must be wrong with me. I don't think I'm that cute or pretty (I mean I might have an ok face but I don't really like my body) ...
A. 17 September 2009: i think the only problem you've got is your self image. if you dont like your own body it affects your self confidence and self worth. guys tend to pick up on that. i'm not sayin be cocky or egotistical. learn to love yourself in the body that God ... (read in full...)
I don't believe in love or dating. What's your opinion?
Q. All my friends are dating and I get the feeling they don't want me around. But for some reason I don't beleve in love or dating or anything like that. I know it might sound pitiful but I've never dated and I don't know where to start. My problem is ...
A. 19 June 2009: At your age its perfectly normal not to be intrested in dating and stuff. your friends are probably just dating to fit in. you dont have to date if you dont want to. the time wil come and you will find someone as smart and mature as you are. i bet ... (read in full...)
Should I stay in a marriage that makes me unhappy for the sake of the kids???
Q. So i have been married for 7 years now and, I am finding that everyday i am falling more and more out of love with my spouse. we have 2 beautiful boys together and hate the idea that they may see us not getting along or fighting. My biggest fear is ...
A. 12 June 2009: if u want out i suggest you do just that- for the sake of your kids. i grew up with parents that could'nt stand each other. they were always at each other's throats, fighting all the time. it was hell for me i wished they'd just get divorced and be ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when he calls me "mine"
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over six months and I was just wondering what it means when he calls me "mine". I don't really mind I find it cute/sexy but, I was wondering why you would call your girlfriend that.we will be with ...
A. 9 June 2009: i think he still cant blv that he's got a gr8 girl lyk u in his life. dont read too much into it just enjoy the attention. xx... (read in full...)
Should I just get it over with?
Q. I’m 16 and I still haven't had my first kiss. All my friends tease me about it and I’m just not that type of girl to go on dates and kiss. Plus I want my first kiss to be special and with someone I really like. And I also am a virgin. Sometimes I ...
A. 5 June 2009: if you arent ready for it then dont. your friends wont be the ones to live with the consequences. you might regret doing it soon or not having the right partner. if they dont respect your choices then tough- their problem not yours. after all its ... (read in full...)
His ex wants back into his life
Q. l have been dating my boyfrend for 6 months now. his ex came back a month ago and she wants to reconcile with him. all his relatives know her and is in support of them getting back together. they are putting pressure on him to break up with me and ...
A. 2 June 2009: i think you should ask him upfront what he intends to do about his ex. if he chooses you then dont let his relatives get to you. eventually they'l get used to the idea that you're the woman in his life not her. just make sure you arent going to get ... (read in full...)
I want to keep our friendship but I'm afraid he might confess his feelings for me
Q. I have a friend, and i think he likes me, he really is a nice guy, perfect gentleman and everything, it's just that i am not attracted to him at all. i mean he would be a great boyfriend but i don't see myself with him. and i'm afraid that he might ...
A. 29 May 2009: i think it would be best if he let his feelings out, that way u can tell him where you stand and he'll stop harbouring false hope. yes it myt be awkward for a little while but it'll soon be forgotten. imagine what he's going through not knowing ... (read in full...)
What are the chances a girl keeps her virginity until marriage?
Q. I'm just wondering how many girls keep their virginity until 20 + or until they get married ? I really have no idea about that so thanks for your answer by the way....
A. 28 May 2009: waiting for marriage is a personal choice that sadly most young men and women are opting not to keep. its quite unfortunate that premarital sex is now considered fashionable by way too many people. no one can ever tell you an exact number of girls ... (read in full...)
Sister rivalry!
Q. I am the younger sister (19) and I am finding it really hard to live/get alone with my sister at the moment. There seems to be a tense horrible rivalry and jealousy between us. She has admitted that she has always between jealous of me, ever sinc...
A. 27 May 2009: sibling rivalry is the longest most widespread war in history. its really hard to get along but deep down u love each other. if u wana spend some fight free time look for something you both enjoy doing. if there isnt which is highly unlikely suggest ... (read in full...)
My wife is having an affair with her boss!
Q. I just found out my wife is having an affair with her boss - I have the evidence. She does not know that I know, how can I stop it? He is married with kids, my wife and I have 3 children help?...
A. 26 May 2009: confront her then talk about it and look for a way foward.xx... (read in full...)
He makes me feel so lustful but I don't want to lose my virginity!
Q. I have a lovely boyfriend ... hes my first proper boyfriend and everything is going well but he makes me feel very lustful. I don't want to have sex yet and he doesn't pressure me into it but sometimes when we are caught up in the moment I feel like ...
A. 19 May 2009: i'm goin thru the exact same thing have been for a while. good news is u dont have to break up with him if he's not putting pressure on you. try and spend more time in public places than u do alone.go to the park restraunts etc. make sure you talk ... (read in full...)
He always accuses me of being unfaithful
Q. ive ben with this guy for almost two years now and whenever we havearguments he threatens to leave and when i tell him to go ahead he turns everything around on me saying im the one looking for ways to leave him.then recently we had a fight ...
A. 15 May 2009: you need to get as far away from this guy as possible. you need to do it fast. move out before he hurts you which i fear could happen at any moment. you are still young and have plenty of time to find someone else, someone who'll treat you right.xx... (read in full...)
I want to sing but have a confidence issue
Q. Hey guys, I'm sorry that this isn't much of a relationship issue, but i couldn't think of anyone else to ask... Right, my issue is, i want to do something different with my life, i want to sing! And i don't mean in the local forum etc, i mean b...
A. 13 May 2009: do wat i do- just say what the hell and go for it. you'll feel better for it. if that's wat u really wanna do then why not, this is a good a time as any dont you think. sing your heart out just pretend you'r alone in the shower or picture your ... (read in full...)
Should I wait or should I give in?
Q. I am a high school student. i am 16 and my boyfriend is also 16. i have been with him since oct.23.08. it's been about 6 months.I truly do believe i am in love with him. I also belive he is too. he says it. he shows it. and i fall for it. he can be ...
A. 13 May 2009: if you trully believe you r ready then by all means but i would advise you hold off on sex a little longer. sounds like he really respects you and thats a good thing just make sure that he still does after you have sex. more importantly you need to ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to fake my own death to see if she still loves me?
Q. Well basically my ex havn't been going out for ages, but I'm going out for her best mate (2 months) and she's always trying to get her to dump me but the girl i'm with doesn't want to dump me so i'm thinking. Is it wrong to fake my own death to prov...
A. 17 April 2009: just go up to her and tell her how u feel, see if she feels the same. faking your own death is a big HELL NO from me.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is not the love of my life!
Q. Hi my name is Soda, I have a boyfriend of 7 months,I hate that he is so freaking controling. I mean I am the biggest flirt but still, wtf? Like, I thought he was the most amazing guy on the planet. What the hell was I thinking? I have lost the spar...
A. 15 April 2009: he myt threaten to kill himself but i doubt he will. you need to get out of that relationship coz its not good for either of u. if your heart's not in it then dont do it.... (read in full...)
He says we don't need to constantly have our tongues down each others throats to show affection!
Q. I'm really worried the sparks going from our relationship. Me and my boyfriend never really properly kiss anymore, it's just a few pecks here and there, is this a sign that he's going off me? He said it was because he didn't see the point in ...
A. 15 April 2009: he could be right kissing isn't the only way to show affection. i'm not a big fan myself so i dont think there's reason to worry but if it bothers you then talk to him about it thats the only way to put your fears to bed. xx... (read in full...)
She has a really pretty face but she's fat!
Q. I kind of like this girl in school. The thing is she's the nicest girl I've met and she's got a stunningly pretty face but she is a bit on the big side. She is pretty but fat. I feel I shouldn't go out with her beausde I'm one of the best foot...
A. 9 April 2009: i agree telling her she's fat is a big NO! u'll only hurt her feelings. if you really like her then go for it, if the inner person is good enough then body size and people's opinions shouldnt count. you seem to have genuine feelings for her not that ... (read in full...)
Rumours at work
Q. I work at a big place and haven't been here long and many rumors have started to spread about me that are untrue and hurtful. I have turned down many men here already and I feel they get angry and spread rumors to get me in trouble or make me look ...
A. 9 April 2009: if its not true then pay no attention to it. confronting those people would be reducing yourself to their level. be the bigger person- let it go and let them be petty and childish on their own. soon other people will realise that its just rumours. x... (read in full...)
Will I ever be able to get over the fact I had an abortion?
Q. Well I also have another question. And thank you all who answer! I was pregnant about a month ago. I wanted to keep my baby but everyone around me kinda brainwashed me into thinking it was best to get an abortion. My mom told me it was too hard and ...
A. 3 April 2009: its only natural that u feel that way. wat u need to do now is start on a journey towards forgiving your self and lettng go of the guilt. the deed is done and you cant undo it. you can however try to move on. get proffessional counselling if you ... (read in full...)
First kiss dilemma...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating since January 17th and we want to kiss but we're both too nervous to. What should I do and can you get kicked out of the library for kissing? (we're only 17)...
A. 24 March 2009: if you r too shy to initiate the kiss u could put a piece of candy or chocolate between your teeth and dare him to take it with his lips. i do it with my bf and its fun.... (read in full...)
Can't get a job and feel worthless!
Q. Hi. I lost my job to the recession and credit crunch in September and I have been unable to land another job. I've applied for hundreds of jobs. I've had one interview and the rest never bother getting back to me. I even tried to get a job at a ...
A. 23 March 2009: don't even think like that. its not yuor fault that there's a recession. ther are so many people going through the same thing. the important thing is that you r trying and if you keep at it i know God will smile down on you and something will come... (read in full...)
I still can't get my ex out of my head!
Q. Me and my ex boyfriend split up 3 years ago and I still cannot get over him. I've been with other men, but in the back of my mind it's always him. We still talk, and lately he's told me he still has feelings for me, but then after telling me he ig...
A. 23 March 2009: if you still want him in your life then let him know and take it from there. but if you feel you really want him out of your system you need to let him go. avoid all contact coz seeing him and talking to him will always make it painful. it wont be ... (read in full...)
Life is too short for...
Q. I've realised something which has taken me around 18 years to figure out...I'm writing this article as theremay be some people out there who still haven't figured this out! 'Life is too short' is the best expression ever, it can help you to make des...
A. 17 March 2009: :)
life is too short to spend worrying about what people think about you. they dont know your story so keep it real and just be yourself. Besides chances are they're worried about what you think of them. ... (read in full...)
Morals
Q. A bird with inadequate wings that uses another bird's wings to fly is taking a great risk. A bird that decides that anothers wings are unsuitable and ditches them whilst in flight is a dangerous bird! A bird that uses anothers wings and takes ...
A. 17 March 2009: i like it. really gets you thinking.... (read in full...)
Possible for 2 people who have feelings for each other to just be friends?
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for about a year now. and all of a sudden, the guy i dated before him starts talking to me again and admits he still has feelings for me. i have to admit, we never got our closure, so there's a part of me that's always ...
A. 13 March 2009: yes it is possible. you just need to talk about it and set bounderies on the amount of time you spend together and the things you do during that time. it'l be kinda hard at first but u get used to the fact that u're just frenz and it gets easier. i ... (read in full...)
I have very low self esteem and don't like what I see when I look in the mirror
Q. i have really low. Selfesteem now and i dnt know why before i was pretty sure of myself and i dnt think am da most gorgeous gurl but am pretty i know it but i dnt feel like it... Im 5"11 and i dnt think guys like that am a dark skinned spanish i ...
A. 10 March 2009: it's all in your head love. you need to stop tellin yourself what guys think of you coz u've never been in their heads. i'm sure you're pretty all u need to do is believe it. get out more and try doing some of the things that you used to enjoy and ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to change for my boyfriend
Q. im having problems with my boyfriend. im trying so hard to change for him and he still doesn't see it. when ever i try to talk to him he takes my words in a wrong way and he thinks im complaining to him. i want to make things good again because i ...
A. 10 March 2009: if he doesnt apreciate who u really are then you need to take a step back and really think about this. you need to find some1 who does coz that relationship isnt healthy. its not going to get better coz watever u do he's neva going to accept you- ... (read in full...)
Weird to think sex is yuk?
Q. This will sound really stupid, so if you ant to answer more important questions first like teen pregnancy ones go ahead. I am 13. I had my first kiss at 12. I have not done anything with a boy past a short make out session. I have friends that have ...
A. 6 March 2009: at your age i think you should be aplauded and i dont think you're wierd at all. you r still young and sex ought to be the last thing on your mind. it will come to you(the intrest in sex) as u grow older. till then enjoy being young and innocent. ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex still want to remain friends with me?
Q. My ex boyfriend is desperate to be friends with me. We went out for well over 4 years and we still care for each other. We haven't really talked at all for 2 months, just formally so I could give back his stuff and exchange letters for closure for ...
A. 2 March 2009: 4 years is a long time so i understand if its hard for your ex to just walk away. i see no reason why u guys shouldnt be friends unless there r still unresolved feelings or you had a messy break up. i still talk to my ex 3 years after we ended ... (read in full...)
Any tips on asking a girl out?
Q. Hey there I have my year 12 formal and there is this girl who I'd like to ask but I dnt know how to ask her can anyone give me any helpful tips like what should I say if anyone can help that be awsome Thnx ...
A. 2 March 2009: just go up to her and start a general conversation and build it till u talkin abt the dance then ask her. show a little confidence. do it quickly tho before someone else asks her- u myt nt be the only 1 with your eye on her. good luck.... (read in full...)
Being used just for sex?
Q. My boyfriend wants me to have sex with him came to me a condom and ready to go amd i said no because i'm a virgin now he said next week he want's me to suck his penis.but he want's he's friend there to.is he using me just for sex?should i do it?...
A. 2 March 2009: I think he's definately using u and i'd advise you to get out of the relationship as soon as possible. its very unhealthy to be in a relationship where u arent comfortable. there's no need to rush into havin sex or any of that other stuff your ... (read in full...)
I'm very concerned about my sister (16) dating a 19 year old!
Q. Hello, I am a thirty six year old male and am concerned, having just found out that my little sister, who is 16 is dating a 19 year old man. The worse part is that she seems to be the one going after him and my parents seem to be ok with it, ...
A. 23 February 2009: i think its sweet that you are worried but you really dont have to be. trust me 19 aint so bad she could have done a lot worse. imagine if she'd hooked up with a thrty or even forty year old man. let her grow up thats the only way to go. you just be ... (read in full...)
How can I show her how I really feel about her?
Q. Hello, Im in a relationship i love the girl and she loves me.she told me like a night ago that i can talk the talk but i still got to learn how to walk the walk. what does she mean by i need to learn to walk the walk?? She also told me that is ...
A. 17 February 2009: most guys think that we (girls) wana hear that they love us. HELL NO! we wana c it. call her ten times a day jus to say hie, or txt in the middle of the nyt coz u r thinkin of her. buy her a gift or a rose fo no reason at all. its about the little ... (read in full...)
I've just had sex with my TEACHER!
Q. I've had sex with my teacher last week and I don't know what to do. I can't look him in the eyes any more, I feel ashamed and bad. Can somebody give me an advice what to do?...
A. 16 February 2009: your teacher is the adult in this situation and should have known better. he should have avoided such a situation. did u have a crush on him to begin with. you are still very young and controlled by hormones. talk to an adult about this coz i dont ... (read in full...)
I wanna have sex, but I'm just too scared. Is that normal?
Q. Eventually I wanna try to have sex but I'm still so young. I would have sex now, but I'm terrified of the condom breaking and I'm too scared to ask my mom for birth control so some of the stress of sex can rub off. I don't know how to handle th...
A. 16 February 2009: you are still too young and clearly not ready for sex. you need to mature and be in a mature healthy relationship. i think you should wait till you get married (less complications). i'm waiting and i'm glad i made that decision. dont rush cause all ... (read in full...)
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