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writes:I just found out my wife is having an affair with her boss - I have the evidence. She does not know that I know, how can I stop it?He is married with kids, my wife and I have 3 childrenhelp?
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reader, viewfromthecity +, writes (11 July 2009):
decide if you can life with an unfaithful woman. if you can, and many do, then there is nothing to do.
otherwise, leave her and if you want to get a little revenge, tell his wofe...but don't look back.
two cheaters...they deserve each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): my wife had an affair with her boss and they had sex too..i found out after some time..before her boss..it was some other guy !!
and despite that..we are together.
even after she cheated on me..fucked up my trust..yet we r still together..she likes me..doesnt love me..yet we are together..
guess why
cos i love her..and i love her more than she is capable of loving her ex's.
love makes u forgive..deep in my heart..i know she has betrayed my trust..she has betrayed me..i am no god to forgive..but one day..the two motherfuckers will be ruined..thats my revenge
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reader, rocknroll +, writes (26 May 2009):
I would confront the boss and give him an ultimatum. Stop, or you break his jaw and reveal it to his wife.
First, I would find out if your wife believes it was mutual, or she was pressured in order to get advancement in the company.
This is a heart break situation, my heart goes out to it. I hope things can turn around and the two of you can fix whatever caused this to happen.
Best of wishes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): I'm sorry for your situation!
You have to confront her with your knowledge of the affair.
It seems as though these days, especially, lots of people are able to forgive unfaithfulness. If you are able to that, then she will have to work really hard to regain your trust. And you will have to work really hard to keep an open mind and believe that it was a one time thing...that will never happen again.
Inorder to do that, and repair your relationship, I would suggest a third party to help with the healing process. Seek professional help.
If she is not willing to take the steps to heal the relationship, you will have to face the fact and prepare to move on.
I heard something the other day that made sense to me. Children would rather come from a broken marriage than live in one! Staying together for the sake of the children doesn't work.
I wish you the best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): the boss is not going to tell his wife about his affair with your wife.
so maybe you need to take the bull by the horns and TELL HIS WIFE. that way all concerned will know and there is a better likelihood that this will be resolved. if you keep hiding her affair then you are also condoning her affair. another person is being deceived here and the boss' wife can ensure that her hb stays away from your wife.
either way the affair has to be exposed. the sooner the better but i think the boss' wife is the key tho this affair. this boss may not give a hoot about you but when faced with telling the truth to the wife he may just play ball.
as for your wife she must understand her actions have consequences. she may f*ck around and not care a hoot about you but she is also messing with someones marriage. your wife must get what is coming to her. you are not her doormat, she made her bed with her boss, she must now pay the price. no mercy or else she wouldn't learn her lesson. your wife will try to blame you so please be prepared for the shit coming. but you need to be strong and face her headstrong. in the end YOU must decide whether you want to put up with her shit any longer. please do not settle for the boss' sloppy seconds even though she is your wife!
sorry i am hard but i am realistic. too many men have been cuckold and they amazingly take back their lieing cheating women. these women do not care about the pain, humiliation, heartache they are causing. they just f*ck around and expect their partners to welcome them back after they mess around. don't end up being a cuckold statistic!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): First you must confront her with the evidence so she has to admit it, then find out why she did it. People cheat for all different reasons but ultimatly it's because they're are not happy with something in the marriage, you need to find out what that is and see if it can be fixed, if she still loves you i'm sure it can. Good luck
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 May 2009):
 Cheating in a marriage is devastating for everyone else. I'm sorry.
What can you do? Well, you NEED to sit her down and talk. But really before that you need to think about What YOU want. If "saving" the marriage is what you want then you will have to consider WHAT you expect from her in order to move forward. Forgiveness is not easy, regaining the trust you have lost is even harder. You might consider some basic marriage counseling.
Make sure the kids aren't home so you two can talk with out interruptions.
If she wants to stay married to you, she will do WHATEVER it takes. She will have remorse, she will be open and honest about everything.
Is she doesn't want to end the affair you can either "put on blinders" or divorce her. Telling the Boss' wife is not an option I would go with. She should hear that from HER husband.
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reader, audie  +, writes (26 May 2009):
 confront her then talk about it and look for a way foward.xx
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reader, mitta  +, writes (26 May 2009):
The only way you can make this stop and try to reconcile with your wife is to tell her you know about it.
But confronting her wont guarantee her finishing the affair and coming back to you, she may choose to leave you. But you have to confront her and then you can better deal with the situation. If she chooses to work at your marriage with you it will be very difficult. You will have to work the trust back up from scratch and you will both go through alot of emotional pain.
What do you really want? you will never get your wife back the way she was before you knew about the affair. She has destroyed your trust. She may have been unhappy with your relationship for a while and that has led her to look elsewhere (not that this is acceptable), so your relationship may have to change dramatically, perhaps more than you would like it to. Can you ever trust her again after this? i know there are children involved and this makes things even more difficult, but the children may be better off being brought up with seperated parents than ones that arent happy together.
This is a terrible situation to be in and i really feel you pain, but you have to talk to her about it and start the long road to either reconciliation... or divorce.
Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2009): You need to talk to her. The sooner the better. before you get angry or do anything stupid you need to hear her out.
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