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writes:ive ben with this guy for almost two years now and whenever we havearguments he threatens to leave and when i tell him to go ahead he turns everything around on me saying im the one looking for ways to leave him.then recently we had a fight oversomething stupid and he called me bitch whore and accused me of being unfaithful because i had a case of bv one time.He accuses meof being unfaithful a lot and seems to make stories in his head about what i supposedly get upto .ive tried to talk and reason withhim so many times but it doesnt help.my biggest prob s that i love him.he even tried to pepper spray me once in a fit of anger and hes acusing meof isolating him from his family when infact im the one fearfulof even letting pple call me at home Reply to this Question
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reader, audie  +, writes (15 May 2009):
 you need to get as far away from this guy as possible. you need to do it fast. move out before he hurts you which i fear could happen at any moment. you are still young and have plenty of time to find someone else, someone who'll treat you right.xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): He is insecure but to proud to acknowledge it. This is why he is so controling. HIs words and actions sound abusive. Could be early signs of much worse. People who always think their mate is cheating may also be expressing self guilt of thier own infedelities and thinking you must be doing the same things he has or is doing. You just need to end this whole thing as fast as possible. You say you love him but this is not at all healthy for you. It's like a heavy person with heart problems saying "I love fried foods and donuts what should I do"? The answer would be, "stop eating them or they will be the end of you". Same answer for you. If you don't end this it is only because you are also as immature and insecure as he is. Take some pride in who you are. Think of your future, would you marry a guy like this? Do you really want your kids around this kind of dad? You know what you have to do, you don't need anyone to tell you. End it!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (15 May 2009):
 I'm 100% with Gina on this one. The man is unstable and controling. YOU need to get out of this relationship or I fear it will escalate into serious violence.
Pepperspray a girlfriend? SICK.
Like Gina said, WHAT are you getting out of this?
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reader, love850 +, writes (15 May 2009):
I agree with Gina. Who really does use pepper spray on their girlfriend?? I think if he doesn't seek counseling this relationship will just become more physically and mentally abusive.This is not healthy at all for you. I understand that you might love him but love is not suppose to feel this way, and if he truly loved you he would not treat you like this! Your even scared to receive a phone call at your house! If you don't get out of this relationship now things will get worser. Then in the end you can only blame yourself for staying!
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