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writes:I have a lovely boyfriend ... hes my first proper boyfriend and everything is going well but he makes me feel very lustful. I don't want to have sex yet and he doesn't pressure me into it but sometimes when we are caught up in the moment I feel like I want to do it but I don't. I'm worried that I will get so lustful and caught up in the moment that I will end up losing my virginity before I am ready to do that. Should I break up with him to prevent this from happening...even though he is so nice :( Reply to this Question
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reader, miamiheat31  +, writes (24 May 2009):
I would really appreciate it if you could contact me to ask you a private question as I am in the same boat as you.
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reader, sammi star +, writes (19 May 2009):
 It's only natural to feel the way you do. There's plenty you can do to satisfy both yourself and your boyfriend without loosing your virginity. Well done on waiting until you're ready, not easy is it?! You don't need to finish with him over this, he's obviously a lovely guy and more than willing to wait until you feel ready. Good luck x
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reader, audie  +, writes (19 May 2009):
 i'm goin thru the exact same thing have been for a while. good news is u dont have to break up with him if he's not putting pressure on you. try and spend more time in public places than u do alone.go to the park restraunts etc. make sure you talk about it and help him understand your position. its not easy but if u arent ready try not to go past kissing if u do find yourself alone with him. if he cares he'll wait till u're ready
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2009): Only you can really be the judge of that, Miss. All a matter of self-control, really. Guys have to practice that all the time, for fear of being branded a sex-attacker/ rapist etc!
If you're considering a break-up, then that may be your best choice as, in the cold light of day, he's clearly not 'The one'.
Good luck.
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reader, Dreamlover  +, writes (19 May 2009):
 NO NO NO, totally not, what you need to do is talk to him and let him know how you feel. Ask him how he feels.
If there are two of you who would like to wait then it makes it easier when those moments arrive.
Trust me you will have many more moments but if you both help each other you both can make it.
There is no need to break up with him, communicate with him.
Good Luck
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