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writes:Hi my name is Soda, I have a boyfriend of 7 months,I hate that he is so freaking controling. I mean I am the biggest flirt but still, wtf? Like, I thought he was the most amazing guy on the planet. What the hell was I thinking? I have lost the spark, it's gone, I like another guyu, but my current boyfriend says he will kill himself if we break-up. I'm going to break-up with him, next week, but,I have no clue what to do next, like, yes he is kind, smart, but too controling, my family hates him. I just have no feelings toward him anymore, only regret I ever said yes to dating him, what do I do? I don't want him to kill himself, I no longer "love" him but, I care about him. What do I do, HELP!!!! ASAP!!!
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reader, audie  +, writes (15 April 2009):
 he myt threaten to kill himself but i doubt he will. you need to get out of that relationship coz its not good for either of u. if your heart's not in it then dont do it.
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reader, -NothingLasts4ever-  +, writes (15 April 2009):
 You need to tell him the truth. If you lie to him and keep it going and he finds out, he'll be even more upset.You can't pretend you still love him when you don't. That's not fair on you. He should understand you have a life too and if you're not happy, he shouldn't force you. He wouldn't kill himself anyway, just be upset for a few days.Don't let it get you down too much. It's better than living a lie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): Trust me, he won't kill himself. He might be a bit upset for a while but he'll get over it. Just tell him what you've said here, that you don't love him and the spark has gone, but you'd like to remain on friendly terms. It really is that simple.Saying he'll kill himself is emotional blackmail, and that in itself is a form of controlling behaviour. If he threatens that again, just tell him not to be so stupid and immature and to get on with his life with someone who loves him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2009): Tell him straight that you dnt want to be with him because you care him that he deserves to be with someone who loves him. Also tell him that it isnt fair to make you stay with him irregardless what he says he will do.Look you have to live your life, leave him, be king but firm and most of all give yourself time to get over it, dont make the same mistake again.Not usre what helplines are availible in the states but get him anumber and tell him to talk to them.Hope this helps
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