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writes:I’m 16 and I still haven't had my first kiss. All my friends tease me about it and I’m just not that type of girl to go on dates and kiss. Plus I want my first kiss to be special and with someone I really like. And I also am a virgin. Sometimes I just feel left out from the crowd because I’m so PURE...I really just want to have sex and makeout with someone just to do it.. So I can be in the conversations with my friends..Should I wait it out until I'm older or just get it over with and just do it. Reply to this Question
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reader, shaniquas3 +, writes (15 July 2009):
shaniquas3 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you guys so much especially devils angel you all helped me so much i still havent did anything...and i took the pledge to wait till marriage and have sex so thank you all:)
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reader, Devil's Angel  +, writes (13 June 2009):
I was in a situation like yours once. I was 16 and all of my close friends lost their virginity at 13 or 14. I felt left out because they would always chat about how they got totally drunk or stoned at the weekend and had sex with a stranger in the park or somethiing, and if im being honest sometimes i felt jealous that they could get someone and i obviously couldnt because i was still a virgin. But i also felt proud of myself because i knew i wasnt a slag, i wasnt going to get a sti because i slept with a stranger unprotected. In the end, i lost my virginity to my boyfriend, we have been together over a year and i am so glad i waited for him, he made it special and i cant imagine how i would have felt if i had gone with just anyone, i would have felt ashamed and degraded. Dont worry about your friends teasing you, they are jealous because you have morals and they dont but also, they know you will do it with someone meaningful, eventually, when you are happy and comfortable. Please, use your heat, not your head in this case.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (8 June 2009):
 Hunny trust me i am 20 years old i';ve still never been kissed or slept with anyone
most of my mates have and i don't let it bother me
i do sometimes feel pressured not because they say anything but just because...
if they are any true mates they would be there for you and not tease you because it's not helping you.
why rush these things.
when it's right you'll know it's right and you'll not regret it.
but rushing into these thigs because your "mates" do it isn't really clever.
just take your time enjoy life.
if it happens it happens if not well not the end of the world right :)
your friends are probably jealous because maybe in some ways tehy actually regret whom they kissed an slept with where as you are taking your time to find someone special.
like me..
hope this helps.
need anything pop me a message :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): I wouldn't suggest that you have sex with someone or make out with them just because you want to be able to join in with the conversations your friends are having. When I was your age I had sex with someone just because I felt like I wanted to get it over with and it is something I now regret. I am in a loving relationship now and wish that I'd waited. I know it is something you probably hear all the time but you really should wait until you meet someone who loves and respects you and who you feel completely comfortable with as it is a completely different and magical experience to just sleeping with someone for the hell of it. If your friends think you are being boring then who cares? They will wish they waited to in a few years, trust me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): No!! Don't just get it over with. I'm 16 too and haven't had my first kiss, yet I want it to be really special with someone I really like, as I want it to be one that I remember. And I'd have to make sure its with someone who respects me too - I hope you find the right person! :)
And also - you said yourself that you're not that kind of person. Stay true to who you are - there's no point in guys liking you if you're not behaving like yourself
Not necessarily wait until you're a certain age, but wait until you've found the right person and you're ready :)
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reader, audie  +, writes (5 June 2009):
 if you arent ready for it then dont. your friends wont be the ones to live with the consequences. you might regret doing it soon or not having the right partner. if they dont respect your choices then tough- their problem not yours. after all its your life and the best way to live it is for yourself. i agree with old guy, half the stuff they tell you myt not be true.xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): Ignore your "friends." They're probably making stuff up anyway. Be true to yourself. Wait until you're sure it's right. It might be uncomfortable now, but you'll SO thank yourself later.
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