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reader, candycutiex97  +, writes (30 March 2009):
You are a very smart girl for not doing it. I would say dump him before somthing bad happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2009): Thanks for being such a smart girl and strong too, you dodged a bullet girl......you learned something about boys and that is the good thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni had broke up with him a few days later he didnt even cared so i knew he was using me.and never got the chance to
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): if in doubt there is no doubt. don't do it unless you're certain. good luck & god bless.
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reader, audie  +, writes (2 March 2009):
 I think he's definately using u and i'd advise you to get out of the relationship as soon as possible. its very unhealthy to be in a relationship where u arent comfortable. there's no need to rush into havin sex or any of that other stuff your "boyfriend" wants u to do. you still young and you deserve some1 with a lot more respect.xx
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reader, Milhan  +, writes (2 March 2009):
Yip he is using you. How long have you been with him for? Dont do anything you are not comfortable with - you will just regret it. He doesnt sound like he respects you and your feelings. Dont feel pressured to have sex with him because he wants it. You have your whole life ahead of you :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): You are absolutely too young to be doing this with this guy you call your boyfriend.
He is way too sexually agressive with you, and yes he only has sex on his mind and doesn't care about you.
Personally, he sounds like a real creep and I would get away from him as fast as you can, for all the reasons these other aunts have given you. Get away from him before you get hurt even more....he is a jerk.....a real BIG one, honey.
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reader, littlemissalf123 +, writes (2 March 2009):
 Yes he's using you. Not only for sex but to fulfill his perverted desires. 'm not sure what your religious background or views are, or whether you have one at all. But perversion, is perversion. Don't let that boy defile (corrupt) your body. I mean having his friend there? If I were you I would break it off and not be ANYWHERE alone with him from this day further. Who knows what he or his friend are capable or willing to do to you in order to have some freaky stuff done to there bodies.
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reader, rateyourlove0727  +, writes (2 March 2009):
No dear i would say Do Not Do It! You and your boyfriend are still young, and obviously these are part of his experimenting with sex with you. You know in you that it is wrong to give in to his sexual favors, that is why you are having second thoughts and writing here. It means you are doing the right thing rejecting it! Talk to him and let him know how you feel about the situation, and if he loves you, he would respect your feelings and wait until you would say yes in the future... Just trust your instincts and do what is right for a long-term relationship. As you grow older, you would understand that sex is all about patience and true love (just like every women like you wants...)
Let me know how it goes...Cheers!
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reader, Plexi  +, writes (2 March 2009):
 you should never do anything you don't absolutely WANT TO DO. don't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. just because he is your boyfriend doesn't give him the right to demand sex or sexual favors from you. if he loves you he will respect your wishes and not pressure you into things. he wants you to go down on him in front of his friend to humiliate you and make himself look and feel like a stud? is that love and respect?
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reader, Wonder79 +, writes (2 March 2009):
No boy should ever force you into doing something you're not ready for. And if he thinks showing up with a condom ready to jump you or having his friends there while you give him oral is okay, then he's got his priorities with you very screwed up.
Save your virginity for someone who deserves it. This boy seems very immature and almost seems like he's trying to humiliate you in retaliation for not having sex with him when he demanded it.
Don't have oral sex with him in front of his friends. And don't let him force or coerce you into doing something that makes you uncomfortable. He should earn the right to make love to you, in any form. Not make demands on you.
I hope this feedback helps you. :)
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