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anonymous
writes: i have really low. Selfesteem now and i dnt know why before i was pretty sure of myself and i dnt think am da most gorgeous gurl but am pretty i know it but i dnt feel like it... Im 5"11 and i dnt think guys like that am a dark skinned spanish i can pass for a black girl.... I weight 170 and wen i look in the mirror i see 300 pounds i stay home all day and sleep i dnt go out no more... I cry everyday idk what happen to me.... I lost interest in everything!!!! What can i do??? To help myslf somebody please:( i dnt like this!!!!!
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (10 March 2009):
 You need to stop thinking that guys dont like you for your height, weight, skin colour etc as this is just not true! Every guy you meet will have a different "type" when it comes to women, there is no one type of woman that is more attractive than another seen as everyone has different taste.
You are clearly tall, I bet you have amazing long legs and a million other great things about your body. You need to stop feeling down about your body - this is what you are born with and there is not much you can do about it! What men do like is a woman that feels comfortable in her own skin, someone that doesnt moan about their body and someone that is happy with the way they look. If you are feeling down about your body all the time this will put men off - not the way you look!
If you are really unhappy about your weight then try to lose some! For your height your not overweight but you might feel better if you loose about 14 pounds, this will make a huge difference and you should be a dress size smaller. Join a gym - you will be able to see results within 1 to 2 months (maybe not weight loss but you will tone up loads!). If you cannot afford a gym then go out running in a local park, go swimming, walk more...there are loads of free things you can do to get more active! These will all make a difference and you will feel happier as exercise releases happy hormones in the brain.
I hate it when people talk about how much they hate their bodies, but dont do anything about it! If you are that unhappy then channel this feeling into motivation to get out of the house, exercise more and eat better!
After all this, if you still feel like you have lost interest in everything and have no motivation at all then you may be showing symptoms of depression. The crying and the lack of interest in life are two major signs that you may have depression. I suggest you go to your doctor and they may be able to help you more with your problem.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, audie  +, writes (10 March 2009):
 it's all in your head love. you need to stop tellin yourself what guys think of you coz u've never been in their heads. i'm sure you're pretty all u need to do is believe it. get out more and try doing some of the things that you used to enjoy and just try having a little fun. talk to someone and try finding out what caused this wave of depression.
good luck!
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reader, bttrcpbrklyn1314 +, writes (10 March 2009):
 Hey girl,
If you can't seem to find the reason to your lack of self-esteem you should talk to a counselor or you should go see a doctor. Im sure you're beautiful but if you don't see it no one will since u stay home all the time. embrace your beauty. try getting involved. when i first started college in a new city i was overwhelmed by the beautiful hispanic girls. but i became involved in the biology department and honor society which gave me the confidence i desparately needed.
get out there and show case what you have to offer the world! Good Luck!
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reader, anoymitity  +, writes (10 March 2009):
"God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference. "
^^Words to live by^^
There is another old says "You can not allow someone else to like you if you dont like yourself"
Im sorry to just throw random quotes at you, but you really must understand that there are only a few things you can change about yourself and if you dont like those things then its fine to change them. If your not happy with your weight, excercise as much as you can, but you must learn to accept your things like your complection and be happy. One thing I have learned is that the things we see as "bad" or "ugly" on ourselves, someone else may see it as "unique" and "beautiful".
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