My mum is depressed and having trouble at work, and I'm not sure how to help her
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles, Just need some advice on how to help my mum. She suffered with depression, had medication and seemed to get out of it. Just recently she seemed to have slipped back into the depression. She's having trouble at work as they'...
A. 29 March 2014: Thanks. She came in late last night and she chatted. I tried to offer help if I could but I don't understand her job!
Gave her a cuddle anyway :)... (read in full...)
I'm nervous about meeting my boyfriend's family
Q. Hello, I have a question! I've been dating this guy for a while, and it's come up in conversation that it's time for me to meet his parents. He's already met mine, but I'm feeling very nervous about meeting his. He has explained to me that his y...
A. 21 March 2014: Sounds like he's just warning you about his brother because he cares about you and doesn't want you to freak out.
People with Aspergers Syndrome can take lots of time to get used to new people and are pretty blunt and basic with thier replies due ... (read in full...)
In a Long term relationship but tempted by others. How do I cope with my curiosity over this temptation?
Q. Dear aunts/uncles I have just started college in a different city and I moved from my rented apartment which I share with my bf of six years. I love him dearly and taking on my new course was a challenge, as I had to leave everthing I knew...
A. 18 September 2013: I you do cheat, but just "not talk about it" he will be thinking about it all the time! How would you feel if your boyfriend said you don't satisfy him and he's interested in having sex with other women while he is away. But don't worry, he won't ta... (read in full...)
She's frustrated because we don't have enough together time; I'm frustrated because I don't get time with my friends.
Q. My girlfriend and I have nearly opposite schedules at the moment and haven't had much time together. On Saturday she flipped out on me because I played a game with some friends while she napped. I was waiting for her to wake up so we could spen...
A. 17 September 2013: No, she shouldn't be upset with you for playing while she is sleeping. Can you not play your game while she dowa something else? Me and my boyfriend are in the same room, but I'll be on the playtation and he'll be on his laptop or whatever. We dont ... (read in full...)
I told him to call me when he finds himself.
Q. Please help me. I'm on the verge of an extreme breakdown. I posted here a weekago, but things got even crazier. It started by my boyfriend sending a pic to his ex, and calling her beautiful, etc, I did the same after I got upset about it. I ...
A. 17 September 2013: I dont see any good coming from this relationship! He seems very obsessive. I suggest you leave him and find someone you can fully trust.
It will be hard at first, but I hope you fond the strength. X... (read in full...)
He says I'm smothering him and I didn't realize I was!!
Q. Ive been in a very intense relationship for 4 months. Recently my bf started pulling away. We've had very sporadic contact for the last 4 weeks and haven't seen each other at all. He didn't tell me what was going on until this past Monday. ...
A. 16 September 2013: It's only been one day, and as you said yourself, he doesn't have internet access and is busy!... (read in full...)
How can I help my girlfriend sexually without pressuring her?
Q. Hello! I have a beautiful girlfriend who lives 200 odd miles away, and, with that said, we only get to see each other every 2-3 months. While I feel incredibly lucky to have her, she has some rather serious intimacy and self esteem issues. S...
A. 15 September 2013: Hi,
With intimacy issues, you've only really known each other for 3 weeks.
Was she hurt in the past and this is what has caused the intimacy issues? If so, it will probably take a while for her to get over them.
I don't have any ideas for you to... (read in full...)
My mother thinks I should use birth control but I disagree
Q. Well my mom saw my bf just yesterday but she has frequently heard about him and i that we dating. Today on the radio they were talking about how parents should oversee how their children behave. she brought the issue of taking birth control pills. ...
A. 15 September 2013: I think you should listen to your mum :)
It's much better to have a "back-up" option JUST in case. For example, the condom could split. No contraceptive is 100% effective (as "fi_the_tree" said).
I have personally been on the pill (microgy... (read in full...)
He says I'm smothering him and I didn't realize I was!!
Q. Ive been in a very intense relationship for 4 months. Recently my bf started pulling away. We've had very sporadic contact for the last 4 weeks and haven't seen each other at all. He didn't tell me what was going on until this past Monday. ...
A. 15 September 2013: Yes, I agree with peachcobbler! :)... (read in full...)
I feel like this guy somewhat ruined this relationship for me and that she might still be attached to him in some way. Explain this female mind to me!
Q. Ok I really need your guys' insight as to what's going on. So my girlfriend and I have been dating for around a month and a half now, but we've been good friends since freshman year (I'm a senior). Everything's been great, except ever since we ...
A. 14 September 2013: She will come to trust you eventually if you give her time.... (read in full...)
He says I'm smothering him and I didn't realize I was!!
Q. Ive been in a very intense relationship for 4 months. Recently my bf started pulling away. We've had very sporadic contact for the last 4 weeks and haven't seen each other at all. He didn't tell me what was going on until this past Monday. ...
A. 14 September 2013: No, do not contact him!
Just give him the space he needs, as other posters have suggested, and enjoy spending some me time!!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex lover made me cringe when I had to see her again.
Q. I really need other people's opinion on this situation. My boyfriend and I live in his room sharing a flat with his flatmate. I knew that a girl who he had sex with 5 months ago, was coming to our small city. She needed a place to stay for one nigh...
A. 14 September 2013: You answered the question about why your boyfriend said that yourself... he is kind. He feels bad because on some level he is trying to please this girl. She has said she wants to stop with him but because he is uncomfortable, he said no. He is ... (read in full...)
Male classmate from high school will be travelling to see me. Should I pay for food, metro fares, etc.?
Q. Who pays? A guy I knew in High School (about 15 years ago) is flying into town to visit me in a couple of months. We were never involved romantically, and I'd say we were only acquaintances back then. We've been flirting a little online, and th...
A. 14 September 2013: If he cant afford it he shouldn't be visiting! You pay for you, and he can pay for himself, as you've said it's only going to be platonic. ... (read in full...)
Did she cheat on me?......Can I trust her?......please help me
Q. Ok, about 6 months ago I started talking to this girl, she's an international student from China, and after around two weeks of talking we decided to meet each other. Now I did find it strange that she let me sleep in her bed the first night. And we ...
A. 14 September 2013: I would not trust this girl. Seems she's using you for a nice home set up when she needs it, but still living the single life when you're not around. The texts/messages she sent are definately flirty, no innocence there. She knows exactly what she's ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex's girlfriend telling me I'm evil and ugly?!
Q. It's been 3 yrs!! since my separation my ex a cheater!! I am in a good place emotionally and it seems that my ex's current girlfriend is on facebook under a fake account and messaging me calling me ugly and how my ex is happy and at peace. Funny ...
A. 14 September 2013: Report and block her on facebook and dont bother with her, but like "Honeypie" said, get screenshots of the abuse, too.
to be honest, she's probably bored and lonely and jealous of you and where you are in your life! ... (read in full...)
How to become less needy in my relationship?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months. I've dated a lot of guys but actually falling for a guy is rare for me. But I definitely fell for with my current boyfriend, hard. And it scares me. A long time ago I was in a sexually and emotiona...
A. 14 September 2013: Hi, So you not have any friends of your own to hang out with? From personal experiance I can say its easiest to be distracted. Do you have a hobby? Any uni work to throw yourself into? if you go out and make new friends it should help you build m... (read in full...)
I just moved in with my girlfriend and there is already conflict!
Q. Hi, Me and my gf, we moved in together 3 weeks ago. I got a new, very time-consuming job a week ago and her classes (she's a student) started at the same time. So we both come home tired, and I have to go to bed at 10 P.M. to wake up for work. ...
A. 14 September 2013: This girl sounds like something is stressing her out and she's taking it out on you.. for a more positive look, I'd suggest speaking to her and asking her what is upsetting her.
If she's still taking everything out on you for no reason, you expl... (read in full...)
Since the baby is in our room, sex has gone downhill and I'm worried about him contacting another woman!
Q. i met my partner 3 years ago , he lived with his daughter and i lived with my two teenagers. although we werent living together we both decided we wanted a baby . after trying for a while i feel pregnant but even though the pregnancy was planned he ...
A. 14 September 2013: Why can he not give you kisses or cuddles? Was he usually touchy feely or is this new behaviour?
Babies do change the dynamics of a relationship, but I have to agree with "iamheretohelpyou"'s comment regarding not planning very well to start with... (read in full...)
Why is he waiting for me to end things?
Q. Hello, I have been seeing this man for two years. We are not in a relationship. There have been many arguments about being together but we never do get commited. Recently we had another problem, and he expressed that he has been waiting for me to ...
A. 13 September 2013: You need to decide if you want to finish the relationship or not. If you want to finish the relationship you need to both cut contact. Sounds like you both don't really want to be together as you said you're always arguing. if he is waiting for you ... (read in full...)
Is it too late to tell him about my miscarriage?
Q. when i was 14 i lost my virginity to my then boyfriend Johnny, the following year he dumped me in november a week later i found out i was pregnant around 5 weeks gone, NOONE knew i told noone i was soo scared and was not ready to be a mother i ...
A. 13 September 2013: Can't you confide in your mother now? Or your husband?
I'm sure if it's bothering you, your husband will pick up on this. If you can't talk to them then as everyone else has suggested make an appointment with a therapist.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend wants to move in with a guy
Q. Hi all, I am 28 and my girlfriend is 26. She is a traveling nurse so she moves pretty frequently. We have only been dating about 2 months and only official for one month. The way her job works is that she will work in a city for 3 months then go...
A. 13 September 2013: Hey,
It's understandable for you to feel this way. The best thing to do is to just tell your girlfriend how you feel. That you trust her, but just the roommate being a male makes you uncomfortable. Especially as it's just those two.
From her view... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is racist! to his own race!
Q. Hi. Today my boyfriend made a comment that really rubbed me the wrong way. We both had a conversation about what our lives would be like if we broke up. And I said I would date of any race because love has no color. However, my boyfriend and I are ...
A. 13 September 2013: Hi!
Maybe he wouldn't date someone the same race as you because he loves you too much and wouldn't want to be reminded of you??
Just a positive spin!!
Hopefully this helps a little. ... (read in full...)
I feel like this guy somewhat ruined this relationship for me and that she might still be attached to him in some way. Explain this female mind to me!
Q. Ok I really need your guys' insight as to what's going on. So my girlfriend and I have been dating for around a month and a half now, but we've been good friends since freshman year (I'm a senior). Everything's been great, except ever since we ...
A. 13 September 2013: If you can't stand it when she stops before you bring her to climax then do what CMMP suggested and just stop after a make out session. That way you can show you don't want any more from her until she is ready. You must let her know you're not ... (read in full...)
I feel like this guy somewhat ruined this relationship for me and that she might still be attached to him in some way. Explain this female mind to me!
Q. Ok I really need your guys' insight as to what's going on. So my girlfriend and I have been dating for around a month and a half now, but we've been good friends since freshman year (I'm a senior). Everything's been great, except ever since we ...
A. 12 September 2013: Hi! I am a female here to assist! Sounds to me like she is worried about not being good enough in bed with you as you've had a lot of experience and she hasn't. She also seems worried she'll be used for sex like jn her previous relationship. ... (read in full...)
How can I stop the leaking after sex?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now, but there is this thing thats been annoying me for some time now… Whenever my boyfriend cums in me after sex, it never like stays in me? whenever I stand up I can feel it leak out, especial...
A. 12 September 2013: I'm pretty sure it's just normal! Gravity!!
But if you both want to prevent then use a condom to stop any leaks.
sorry I can't provide you with any more than that! Xx... (read in full...)
Since the baby is in our room, sex has gone downhill and I'm worried about him contacting another woman!
Q. i met my partner 3 years ago , he lived with his daughter and i lived with my two teenagers. although we werent living together we both decided we wanted a baby . after trying for a while i feel pregnant but even though the pregnancy was planned he ...
A. 12 September 2013: You'll have to talk to him about it, even if you're a bit nervous. He may be worried himself to bring it up because as a new mum you're under a lot of stress yourself!
Have you initiated sex with him? Or does he normally initiate. Maybe you coul... (read in full...)
My friend doesn't use facebook or her phone. How does she do it?
Q. I find it very strange that my best friend doesn't have facebook and hardly uses her mobile!? She's 18 so it's werid enough she doesn't have facebook, but the other day i realized she isn't a fan of using her phone either!?? It just is VERY rare of ...
A. 5 June 2011: I hardly use my phone and only really use Facebook to message my family if I am at my boyfriends; or my boyfriend if I am home. I also don't smoke or drink and don't have a blackberry, just some crappy old phone... I'm 18.... (read in full...)
Should I stop seeing two brothers
Q. im 23y/o female and im having sex with both my bf and his brother..my bf doesnt know but his brother knows and told me not a say anything..im really having fun..should i stop seeing them both or continue having fun.....
A. 27 January 2011: I wouldn't really call your boyfriend a boyfriend... Or you a girlfriend.
Dump them both. Maybe choose another guy who hasn't got any siblings...
:)... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is constantly texting other girls and flirting with them!
Q. I hate having this feeling that my boyfriend is always.. 24/7 texting girls. i have been dating my boyfriend for 3 months now but me and him have known each other for over 4 years and have had an on and off relationship. he is much of a private ...
A. 27 January 2011: I'm sorry sweet :(
But he sounds like a loser anyway. Just look at this as a positive step.
It may seem a hard thing to do right now, but youve gotta remember.. You said yourself the conversations were dull... How were you gonna have a relationsh... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is constantly texting other girls and flirting with them!
Q. I hate having this feeling that my boyfriend is always.. 24/7 texting girls. i have been dating my boyfriend for 3 months now but me and him have known each other for over 4 years and have had an on and off relationship. he is much of a private ...
A. 25 January 2011: Break up with him and find someone who won't treat you like crap. I'm so sorry he's behaving like this towards you, especially as you've asked him to stop and he hasn't!
He probably calls them these nicknames so tht he doesn't have to remember... (read in full...)
Scared of marriage...?
Q. I'm kinda scared of actually getting married. All of these stories on here about one partner cheating on another, or leaving because of unhappy marriage, etc etc. Is there such thing as a happy marriage? I know I am only 18, and believe me, I...
A. 25 January 2011: Thankyou, what a great answer :)... (read in full...)
How do I deal with the death of my child?
Q. I am a mother of three, have just lost our middle child to a seeming suicide. He leaves behind a wife and young son. He was diagnosed as bipolar recently, but chose not to take the medication. He suffered extreme mood changes, highs and lows, and ...
A. 19 January 2011: i'm sorry i can't offer any advice.. but I'm so sorry for your loss..
All i can say is time will heal, and you won't feel numb forever.. but as the aunt Fabulosa said, it will take time.
Im so sorry
x... (read in full...)
Should I tell my wife I cheated on her with over 30 prostitutes?
Q. I'm 35, my wife 36, we have 2 kids, married for 7 years. Before our kids born we have really great relationship and have sex every day. Sine she got pregnant the first kid her interest for sex declined sharply. No matter what I tried the most we can ...
A. 19 January 2011: leave her to do what she wants.
If i were her i'd dump your sorry ass and find someone better.... (read in full...)
Why does everyone have to say "Keep your legs closed" since I'm a virgin?
Q. Okay, so im a virgin. When I first meet people, sadly, that's one of the first things they ask me. I usedto be honest and tell them I was a virgin, but its like once I tell them, their impression of me changes. Either they'll be like, "Your ...
A. 10 January 2011: Just saw I wrote 180 accidentally. She's 18 :)... (read in full...)
I'm pansexual and want to come out to my Christian boyfriend and best friend..
Q. :] I have just recently realized that I am pansexual (gender doesn't matter) and I don't know how to come out to my boyfriend and best friend. My boyfriend is a devout Christian and doesn't tolerate homosexuality what so ever and my best friend i...
A. 3 January 2011: Maybe you lose him, maybe you don't. If you keep this inside though, you're just going to begin to resent him because you can't feel you can tell him everything. He may even pick up that you're hiding something from him.
And as for your best fri... (read in full...)
Why does everyone have to say "Keep your legs closed" since I'm a virgin?
Q. Okay, so im a virgin. When I first meet people, sadly, that's one of the first things they ask me. I usedto be honest and tell them I was a virgin, but its like once I tell them, their impression of me changes. Either they'll be like, "Your ...
A. 3 January 2011: My friend (who is 180 has this problem too and it pisses her off loads. Fortunately, she can laugh about it, and she knows she doesnt want to lose her virginity to just someone, but to someone special, who loves her.
All i can say to you though i... (read in full...)
Hickey on my boyfriend's hip?
Q. Ok, i found a hickey looking mark on my boyfriend's hip. He said he hit it back i just dont know. what do i do?...
A. 3 January 2011: If he says he doesn't know where he got it from, he probably doesn't.
Sadly, you sound like you don't trust him which means that your relationship isn't going to go very far.
Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship, an... (read in full...)
Is a girlfriend really worth fighting for?
Q. A question for both girls and guys. Is a girlfriend really worth fighting for? i dont mean like you meet a girl and you try to make yourself better than the other guys shes with, but i mean if both you and the other guy have been with her and you ...
A. 3 January 2011: Sounds like she's stringing both of you along and switching between both of you when it suits her.
She broke up wth you for him, but now wants you back because he's not what she thought he would be like..
Get out of this thing you three have g... (read in full...)
What is my mom trying to tell me about lesbianism?
Q. Today my mom and I were driving home from a church activity. There was a girl there who is openly gay. I don't remember the full context of the conversation we were having in the car, but the part I remember is my mom saying something to the ...
A. 3 January 2011: She might be letting on to you that she knows tht youre bi, yes. However, she may also be talking about her female experiences so that you know tht it's ok to tlk to her about what you're going through by being bi.
Maybe she just wants to let you ... (read in full...)
I lied to my boyfriend about getting raped and being pregnant and he wants me to help raise the baby!!!!
Q. Okay, I'm 14. My boyfriend (who's 13) and I are really close, so we tell each other everything. One day, I saw him talking to his friend, who I SWEAR was hitting on him (she was touching him and everything)!! So I (obviously) got upset... I didn't ...
A. 24 December 2010: Obviously your relationship isnt as great asyoure saying if you cant even tell your boyfriend tht you were upset about the other girl flirting with him. If he was a decent guy he would've just apologised to you and not done it again (and he sounds ... (read in full...)
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