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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now, but there is this thing thats been annoying me for some time now… Whenever my boyfriend cums in me after sex, it never like stays in me? whenever I stand up I can feel it leak out, especially down my leg, its an embarrassing and awkward moment for both of us, is there a way to prevent this always happening? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2013): I thinks it happens with everybody OP, just wear a condon if you don't wanna deal with your bf's fluids...
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (12 September 2013):
 What goes up must come down.
If you want to get it out in one go rather than dribbles, go to the loo (clenching your muscles down there on the way) then sit on the loo - or squat in the shower - and do the valsalva manoeuvre (push down like you would for a poo) and it should come out in one go rather than dribble.
It's normal, OP. If you can't do the above, put a panty liner on until it's all out.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (12 September 2013):
 Place a towel down Before you get going. The messy part is the best part. The afterglow from great sex is to be reveled in and enjoyed to the max.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2013): If you meant both of you get embarrased when you go somewhere and the fluids continue coming out of you later, like you go to dinner, etc. then consider a pantyliner which will keep you dry and fresh.
I also used to have it happen ;) in fact, I'll share a naughty moment: picture it... You've been with your boyfriend, you get home, you're watching tv with your folks and you feel your boyfriend's fluid dripping out ;) it was a cool moment but obviously being home you can clean up. If you're going out, pantyliner? One option. Maybe one day an invention will come out, (aside for condoms)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 September 2013):
 You haven't had sex much without a condom, have you?
Yes, it leaks out. That's what it does. Your body doesn't suck it up. Take some tissues and keep them by the bed, then as he pulls out make sure you cover yourself up with the tissue or else you get wet bed sheets. Then go to the bathroom and pee. It's good to pee after sex to avoid urinary tract infection (especially when you have sex without a condom) and then as you relax your muscles the juices will also, for most part, run out and you can put your panties on without further worry. Sometimes, depending on the load, it can dribble out even after you've been to the bathroom. I just put some tissues in my panties if I worry about this happening. Then go back to bed and snuggle on.
Or, the less sexy variant, but it also works: keep the tissue between your legs after sex and snuggle with tissue there to keep you dry.
I'm surprised your boyfriend doesn't know how this works. He's probably inexperienced.
If you find yourself without tissues you can also just use your hand to cover up, and then hit the bathroom. Or clench your muscles down there, that can work as well, depending on the volume of the load...
This isn't anything to be embarrassed about, it's his own juices, and like already said, he put it there. If you are comfortable and close enough to have sex, then you shouldn't be embarrassed about this happening. But I take it you're both new at this, hence the confusion. But relax. It's normal. It's gravity: liquid floods downwards.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (12 September 2013):
 yeah women have been pondering this "problem" for over 200,000 years.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (12 September 2013):
 after we have sex my hubby gets up to wash (he has OCD and I don't take it personally) and he tosses me a towel for wiping up BEFORE i get out of bed.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (12 September 2013):
 Have him wear a condom, problem solved. Right, I know, not a popular solution.
This happens to every woman, you have to clean up after sex. You should urinate right after sex anyway, so let it drain from you then and rinse with clean water and wipe it off. I believe that is one of the good things about having a bidet.
Why would this be awkward and embarrassing, he put it there, after all? What did you think happened to, that it was miraculously absorbed by the vagina?
If the problem is that it leaks out before you can reach the loo, keep some towels or tissues by the bed and wipe before you get up.
Sex is messy. That's just what happens.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (12 September 2013):
 Where DO you expect it to go?
I mean unless you can fix gravity there isn't ANYTHING you can do, except... ask your BF to USE a condom, that way his fluids stay IN the condom.
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reader, :)31215 +, writes (12 September 2013):
 I'm pretty sure it's just normal! Gravity!!
But if you both want to prevent then use a condom to stop any leaks.
sorry I can't provide you with any more than that! Xx
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