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writes:I am a mother of three, have just lost our middle child to a seeming suicide. He leaves behind a wife and young son. He was diagnosed as bipolar recently, but chose not to take the medication. He suffered extreme mood changes, highs and lows, and terribly difficult to reach out to. I am devastated, how do I come to terms with this sad loss of a life. I feel numb, feel perhaps I could have done more. Where to from here? How do I comfort his siblings? when I am hurting so much. Please help Reply to this Question
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reader, :)31215  +, writes (19 January 2011):
 i'm sorry i can't offer any advice.. but I'm so sorry for your loss..
All i can say is time will heal, and you won't feel numb forever.. but as the aunt Fabulosa said, it will take time.
Im so sorry
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2011): Oh my goodness, I am so sorry for your loss. Seek out a support group in your area and just go and listen. When you want to participate, you can do so when you are ready. The hardest part is being able to accept that the choice your son made, is NOT YOUR FAULT. If someone loses the will to live, there isn't anything anyone can do.
The loss and pain is not going to go away over night, but in time it will ease...everyone has to grieve in their own way, in their own time. Your family/friends needs to support each other now more than ever and you can all come to terms with what's happened. Maybe finding an avenue in his memory to do something good in your community often helps people who go through this. Again, I am so sorry for your loss (((((hugs))))
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2011): I think you need to contact a bereavement service. Of course its natural to have these feelings in any death of a relative especially your son, but when dealing with an apparent suicide there are a lot of unanswered questions you may need to discuss with someone that we on here can't answer for you and probably need professional help to come to trms with such a sudden loss.
I've recently helped someone by going to a bereavement services and they felt it was a very postive meeting about dealing with sudden deaths, so I hope you think about doing this, as you probably already know by asking on here, its sometimes easier to talk to strangers than family about these things.
Best Wishes to you and your family
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reader, Fabulosa  +, writes (19 January 2011):
 I also lost a son. He was just a baby though. I try to imagine different ways I could have saved him. Sometime ill be having a good day amdthen his death hits me like a punch in the stomach. Once I was at the store and the cashier had the same name as my son and I start crying in front of a bunch of strangers. Everyone must have thought I was crazy... anyways I don't think the pain will ever go away. I think there will ne times it hits you like a brick. No holiday will ever feel right.
I don't know if you are religious because most of the peace I find is in the belief that he is with GOD. That although I had plans for him GOD has bigger plans. My son is an angel and he's is with me, his father, and his sister all the time. I hunk you should spend time with his family. And tallk about him. Don't ever stop talking about him. He live through his loved ones and talking about him keeps him alive. Also don't be afraid to mourn. Lay in bed and scream and cry. Don't get out of bed for a couple days if you don't want to. He deserves to be mourned. I hope I've help.
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reader, Honeygirl +, writes (19 January 2011):
 I cannot offer you any constructive advice as I have never been in the position you now find yourself in.
I just wanted to say that I am sorry you are in such pain.
Have you considered contacting HOSPICE - they have bereavement groups, and they might be in a better position to guide you.
(((((hugs)))))
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