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writes: I find it very strange that my best friend doesn't have facebook and hardly uses her mobile!? She's 18 so it's werid enough she doesn't have facebook, but the other day i realized she isn't a fan of using her phone either!?? It just is VERY rare of someone our age to do!?!She used to depend on her phone so much! But hardly does now. She said that it's refreshing and she doesn't like building relationships behind a phone or social site. I know she hates facebook which is why she deleted it and yeah she does text people, just not back an forth like most teenagers do!? I like how she thinks and i do agree with her on the building relationship thing. I just don't understand how she does it!? She manages to have a pretty good outgoing social life, regardless of the fact of having no facebook or much use of her phone???
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reader, :)31215  +, writes (5 June 2011):
 I hardly use my phone and only really use Facebook to message my family if I am at my boyfriends; or my boyfriend if I am home. I also don't smoke or drink and don't have a blackberry, just some crappy old phone... I'm 18.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (5 June 2011):
 Believe it or not, there are other communications beside FB and your cell.
I remember life before Facebook and texting. If you wanted to hang out with your friends then you would use AIM/MSN/Yahoo messenger, call them on the house phone, or ride your bike/drive your car to their house to see if they're home. No one had a cell phone, if they did it was that prepaid Nokia and before texting gained popularity.
Facebook in my opinion can be a useful tool to keep in touch with friends from other parts of the country/world..or to momentarily reconnect from old friends from hs. If abused it can start drama, end friendships..even marriages. People who are on FB all day thru their mobile, lead a boring life or haven't one at all.
As far as the cell goes, I don't think it's necessary to have your phone next to you at all times. Unless you're a high powered executive who's job requires it.
I also think it's incredibly rude to be texting during dinner conversation or any conversation you're supposed to be holding in general.
Your friend just isn't succumbing to addicting FB or feel the need to be on her phone 14-7. Why don't you ask your friend exactly how she does it then take notes?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2011): Jesus! When I was a teenager there wasn't such things as mobiles and facebook!!! pmsl!!
I still had a great time and social life! I guess I used to RING people and talk on the telephone to go out.
If you met a guy, you would swap numbers n if he called, great, if he didn't you moved on! God I forgot how easy those days were!! Texting n fb makes it all the more hard to actually interpret what someone meant by what they texted/walled/emailed you! At least you knew where you were with the bloody phone!! lol
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reader, AnalyticalMentalityOx  +, writes (5 June 2011):
No of course i agree with you all that facebook isn't that important and many people have social lives without it. I understand that!
What i was saying is how does she manage to have a great social life and always be out, when she doesn't use her phone much and doesn't have facebook where most events are shown on or nights out are talked about and arranged...
THAT'S what i was confused at!?
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (5 June 2011):
Well, it's pretty easy actually. You were able to do it before the social networks came along and we didn't have the super fancy mobiles (which isn't that long ago.)
I've dropped the social networks as well and my mobile is 5 years old. I only use it to call and text a bit. It would surprise you how easily you can let go of these things. Time spent for the upkeep of facebook, twitter etc. can now be spent on fun things like actually hanging out with the people you talk to online. Life needs to be lived, not be wasted.
Classmates of mine spend so much time on their mobile and online. The other day, one of them told me "I'm going to make a Twitter account for you!"
Me: "Why?"
Her: "Then we can keep up with eachother."
Me: "I'm sitting in front of you now. Why not talk to me now instead of typing behind your laptop?"
That kind of stopped her in her tracks.
You don't really need all these services to keep up with eachother and meet people. But that's just my opinion.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 June 2011):
 Well believe it or not it is actually quite common not to like facebook, i personally know a handful of teenagers who actually hate facebook and just dont want to have an account, same with there phone. Dont worry that there is anything wrong with her I guess it just doesnt mean as much to her as it does to others. She obviously does other things to fill her time instead of texting and just uses it as a ways of communication when she needs to. I say go her she has a good way of thinking.
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reader, zedd +, writes (4 June 2011):
I mean... people had pretty good social lives even before there was Internet, or telephone, let alone FB. You won't have to wait five years and someone will come out with something new and make you believe that without that, you can't exist. Just watch.
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reader, lonelygirl11 +, writes (4 June 2011):
im 25 and dont have facebook or any social network accounts and rarely use my phone. i ave no friends at all and no social life at all. if ur worried about her talk to herbut if she has good social life and is outgong she should be ok. as long as she has her friends!!
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (4 June 2011):
 Its a simple answer:
Facebook is not the end of the world, and a phone is for contacting people if you need them when it comes down to it those things really are pointless and you dont need them to function, im 21 and i deleted facebook and msn because they are pointless, but at 18 i loved them, so maybe your friend is just moving forward quicker than most poeple your age.
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (4 June 2011):
 You find it strange that your friend has an outgoing life....without major use of technology.
I find it strange that you are asking us instead of asking your friend.
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