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anonymous
writes:Today my mom and I were driving home from a church activity. There was a girl there who is openly gay. I don't remember the full context of the conversation we were having in the car, but the part I remember is my mom saying something to the effect, "I think all girls have some lesbian tendencies."She then told me about a crush she had on a female teacher in middle school, and that she had a crush on a popular female senior her freshman year of high school. She then told me that when she was at an all-girl boarding school in the 60s (elementary years) an older girl (teenager) was known for recruiting other girls to be her girlfriend, and sometimes molested other girls. She said that she and another girl "set up" this girl by allowing the girl to get in bed with them, and then turned the teenage girl in for trying to molest them.All of this is making me wonder about my mom. She's always been extra-friendly with all of my female friends, especially those who are attractive, and I've seen her be alone with some of them. I don't think my mom's a pedo, but it really makes me wonder about her, and myself, because, you see, I'm bi. I've never told her, but I'm wondering if my mom might be a closet bisexual. Is my mom trying to tell me that she knows I'm bi, and is accepting? Is she bi and trying to come out, of sorts to me? I'm really confused by this right now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): It sounds as if your mom is trying to reach out to you. She probably does suspect that you are bisexual and is trying to let you know that it's okay. At the time when she grew up, homosexuality in any form was considered a perversion and a mental illness. People like your mother were made to feel like there was something wrong with her for having those feelings. It seems like she is trying to tell you that if you were to let her know about your sexual orientation that she would not make you feel the way she was made to feel about her own sexuality. Or maybe she's trying to get the fact that she is bisexual out in the open. Either way, talk to her and tell her how you feel. It must have taken a lot for her to tell you those things.
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (3 January 2011):
 She may just have been trying to let you know that it is oki for other people to be gay or that if you ever felt that way then that would be oki too.
If you really want to know about sexuality then i guess that best thing would be to ask her out right in a none agressive manner and see what she has to say.
Hope this helps =]
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reader, :)31215 +, writes (3 January 2011):
 She might be letting on to you that she knows tht youre bi, yes. However, she may also be talking about her female experiences so that you know tht it's ok to tlk to her about what you're going through by being bi.
Maybe she just wants to let you know tht she's there for you without saying it out loud, just incase she's wrong?
Good luck
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