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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Mother is creating drama over my wedding dress! Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 383 days ago

31 October 2023 (F)

age 26-29 - I’m getting married next year and a few months ago I went bride dress shopping with my mum. Now initially I wanted to bring with me (in addition to my mum) my best friend (who is my MOH), my aunt (my mums sister who was never able to have children) and we have a really ... (471 words)

Friend wants to rent our spare room but we don’t want to rent it out.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 383 days ago

31 October 2023 (F)

age 41-50 - I’ve found myself in a very awkward situation that I know I’m to blame but I need advice on how to let my friend down gently and not ruin our friendship…. Last year my husband got a new job which unfortunately meant he had to travel away every few months. Now I really str... (413 words)

Mistrust my 'friend' and have intuition that she's playing on my insecurities

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 386 days ago

31 October 2023 (F)

age 26-29 - It's been a long while since having to deal with this type of issue, but I feel that one of my 'friends' isn't too much of a good friend! Have noticed in more recent time that she somewhat seems to like playing on my insecurities! Through habit and subconscious con... (577 words)

This IUI procedure is stressing me out! What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 373 days ago

31 October 2023 (F) age 36-40 - My husband and I have been married for over four months and have known each other for over 3 years. Now that I’m 36 and he’s 43, we’re both eager to have children and had been trying prior to getting married but haven’t had any success. We took it upon ourselves to consult with ... (252 words)

I think he fancies me but I just want to be friends

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 376 days ago

29 October 2023 (F)

age 22-25 - I have a guy friend I care about and close to. Sometimes I feel he may be interested in me as more than a friend even though I stress our friendship so it may frustrate him I noticed sometimes in our conversations he will end it stop being as responsive if I mention other gu... (317 words)

Just figured out that my wife is bisexual

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 387 days ago

29 October 2023 (M)

age 30-35 - My wife is bisexual and I never knew until we got married. She got saved late in life and has a past (drugs) but has repented and we did church counseling before agreeing to court. She claimed she never prostituted but that she had been "raped" by drug dealers and live in ... (334 words)

Double standards Co worker reported me for speaking inappropriately

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 388 days ago

28 October 2023 (F)

age 36-40 - I have a hard time explaining to people that my primary reason for not wanting to date or have a relationship is because I don't want sex stuff - including kissing. I generally don't even like touching skin (even my own thighs or armpits touching is uncomfortable). I like deep ... (329 words)

Difficult parents to support

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 388 days ago

25 October 2023 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello, I am very tired dealing with my mum because she has been complaining about my dad and the marriages for years. They have been married for more than 50 years and she never been happy but have stayed with him, He is very controlling, she can’t go out or travel without h... (181 words)

Was she feet flirting with me on the plane?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 357 days ago

24 October 2023 (M)

age 41-50 - Was she feet flirting with me on the plane? This might be a stupid question to many of you but its been killing me. I was on the plane last week. I was sitting in aisle seat. I had a nice suit on. The middle seat was vacant and there was this beautiful slim woman wearing a ... (346 words)

Is he gay and why would he lead me on for three years?

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23 October 2023 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been talking online long distance to man for over 3 years now (was supposed to see him this past summer but my plans changed) and thought we had chemistry and all but......... I've just learned that while he was in Spain recently he was picked up by a woman who sugges... (270 words)

Ex still in the picture

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 392 days ago

22 October 2023 (F)

age - Hello, I've been seeing a guy for since his divorce, about 1 year. He's had several doctor visits recently in which he needed a ride home because of a sedative given. I've offered every time to take and pick him up as I was available the days of his testing. Instead, he told me ... (83 words)

I'm sick of being friend-zoned by girls I like

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 394 days ago

21 October 2023 (M)

age 41-50 - I'm sick of being friendzoned by girls I like. I know there's a difference between friendship and friendzone too. Friendzoned is when you go out of your way to show someone you'd make a great boyfriend/girlfriend, they soak it all up and then say, "Awww, thanks but I ju... (604 words)

I think my husband likes my friend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 393 days ago

21 October 2023 (F)

age 26-29 - I think my husband (common law for 11 years; don’t ask why we haven’t gotten married I don’t know either) likes my friend. I noticed when we went on vacation he would suggest her presence where we were gonna be. I don’t doubt her at all, she’s a pretty loyal friend I would s... (159 words)

My ex has finally been able to cut daughter out of my life

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 394 days ago

18 October 2023 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm at another crisis point in my mental health!!!!!!!!!! Have experienced parental alienation at another low blow point... my ex has officially decided to cut me out of our daughters life and has blocked contact... Don't know how I've survived all the abuse from it o... (311 words)

FWB not working out and I want more

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 395 days ago

17 October 2023 (F) age - I stopped sleeping with FWB recently because he insulted me. He said I wanted more and was into drama because I questioned him about a woman that was in his vehicle (ex wife) because they had to take care of a bank issue. Not questioning WHY she was in the car, I knew why. ... (152 words)

Whirlwind vacationship gone wrong

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 396 days ago

17 October 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - Thank you all for reading my story: I am 35 years old, and on a recent trip to the Pacific, I met a man 10 years older and we fell in love. After a brief week together, we parted ways, only to reunite in Thailand weeks later to see where things are going. In our first week t... (804 words)

Why do FWB get so possessive?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 399 days ago

15 October 2023 (F)

age 22-25 - Why do fwb get so possessive? I really never had a good experience, that's why I want to give up on it. Even pleasant conversation and flirting and cuddling goes away as soon as the sex starts. I've had several year long friendships go away as soon as the sex started. What I ... (154 words)

How to Deal with Sexual Urges

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 402 days ago

15 October 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, I would like some advice. I am 31 years old and a virgin and I would like some advice on how to handle my sexual urges or lessen them to a degree. So far, my methods have been to engage in several hobbies and focusing on my work to keep myself distracted. I al... (121 words)

I don't want to be pushed into sex. How do I express I want it to come naturally?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 401 days ago

12 October 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, I was chatting with someone online for about 5 years. He finally moved to my country. I have seen him several times since he moved here. We get along well, he seems very serious. He reminds me he moved here for me. We haven't had sex yet because I'm not ... (122 words)

How do I resolve the resentment I feel for my partner over 'mum guilt'? Title (e.g. My husband is

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 402 days ago

12 October 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - My fiancee and I have been together 8.5 years and have a 1 year old son. We are also getting married next week. There have been a couple of instances recently where my partner has been wrapped up in whatever he was doing and done something that has put our son in danger. ... (394 words)

Pregnant again! How do I tell my parets?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 357 days ago

10 October 2023 (F)

age 18-21 - When I was 16 my high school boyfriend and I had a baby. Our parents were very supportive from day 1 and really helped us out a ton. Five months ago my boyfriend and I broke up and I didn’t take my birth control because I wasn’t planning on dating anyone. But one day when he ... (138 words)

Our neighbors sold their house and never told us

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 407 days ago

10 October 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - We lived next to our neighbors for 15 years and always had a good rapport so it came as a bit of a shock when my husband and I came back from 2 weeks away and found they had sold their house and we had new neighbors. They never mentioned anything about moving - w... (242 words)

Boyfriend told me that he doesn’t feel love, and I’m having a hard time with this.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 405 days ago

9 October 2023 (M) age 30-35 - Hi Dear Cupid users, I’m glad I remembered what this site was as it’s been at least 15 years since I’ve browsed it. I’ve come back to ask for some advice. I’ve recently (about 6 months ago) found myself in a relationship with the man of my dreams. I genuinely could ... (393 words)

Why weird angst face while sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 388 days ago

9 October 2023 (M) age 16-17 - I... I have this question In my mind.... why some people have this angst face during sex as if they were hurt or something? I mean... I don't... Is it normal? Am I wrong for smiling and.. You know... Laughing a bit even, during sexual intercourse? If it's wrong, please tel... (58 words)

Is it too late to learn basic social skills?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 408 days ago

8 October 2023 (F)

age 22-25 - I'm 24 and I feel like I've never learned social skills. Ironically, I was raises in a family where they were very strict, religious, big on manners and respect. For example, even if we were eating at a picnic with plastic silverware and paper plates, we had to sit up ... (530 words)

Just friends or more than friends?

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8 October 2023 (F)

age 22-25 - I don't know if my best friend likes me or if that's just his personality. We've only known each other for a year and a bit, but already we're so much closer than any guy friends I have ever had. He is very protective/defensive of me, especially when it comes to creeps trying ... (326 words)

How to live with a toxic parent?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 408 days ago

8 October 2023 (F)

age 36-40 - How to live with a toxic parent ? I am 38years old,…I am the first born of my fathers children 6(from my mother and (5 children are from different women).Our mother who was officially married to my dad unfortunately passed away 20 years ago when we were little …My fathe... (520 words)

How do we tell family we don't wish to celebrate with them during holidays

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 408 days ago

8 October 2023 (M)

age 26-29 - My wife and I are unable to have kids. My wife, is a childhood cancer survivor and the treatment she went through made it impossible for her to have children. It's a sensitive subject that she doesn't like to talk about (she did tell me before we got married). My sister-in-l... (293 words)

Boyfriend cheated and didn't use condoms. Why?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 414 days ago

2 October 2023 (F) age 36-40 - Can somebody please tell me why my boyfriend cheated on me with someone and didn’t use a condom? I’ve been with my boyfriend for a few years. Our families know each other and we were at the stage of getting engaged. I was busy with work last Christmas and “neglected” him ... (191 words)

How to deal with a jealous friend when our husbands work together?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 415 days ago

1 October 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - A couple of years ago I met the wife of one of my husbands colleagues and we hit it off and started hanging around with each other- drinks, cinema, dinner etc…. Unfortunately she seems a little jealous of the fact that I hang out with other friends and seems to only re... (369 words)

We are in love but worried what our families will think of our relationship

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 410 days ago

1 October 2023 (F)

age 41-50 - I’m 40 and for just over a year I’ve been seeing a man who is 66. We are both divorced. I have no children (and not planning or wanting any). He has 2 grown up children and a 14 month old grandchild. We have kept our relationship quiet as we know that it will cause ... (278 words)

Do things for people but then I resent them. How can I learn to say no without feelin

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 410 days ago

1 October 2023 (M)

age 41-50 - I realized that I have a habit of doing things for people because I feel pressured or it is "the right thing to do" but then I resent doing it and take it out on people. I realize that is an unhealthy thing to do because people know I resent them but I feel like if I say... (166 words)