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writes:Hi everyone, I would like some advice. I am 31 years old and a virgin and I would like some advice on how to handle my sexual urges or lessen them to a degree. So far, my methods have been to engage in several hobbies and focusing on my work to keep myself distracted. I also don’t self pleasure as it makes me crave sex more and I want to avoid that feeling as it begins to affect my mood. I’ve asked my friends for advice, and they haven’t giving me anything besides “get a hobby and keeping waiting.” I don’t know if this information helps, but I am not asexual, aromantic or demisexual. Reply to this Question
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reader, chlle +, writes (15 October 2023):
chlle is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi! Thank you for your response. I’m not sure if you knew when reading my question, but I am not a man. I’m a woman. I haven’t self pleasured in 6 years, and I still struggle with the urges. I do appreciate your advice.
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reader, Keen Fox +, writes (15 October 2023):
I was a virgin until 32. I also found that reducing and eventually eliminating masturbation was good for my mental and physical health. When I masturbated regularly, it could easily become an addiction to the point where I couldn’t sleep without it. I didn’t want to be dependent on it in that way. I also found that I was mentally sharper, and socially more confident when I wasn’t masturbating. Don’t give up. It’s really hard at first, but something changes physiologically once you deprive yourself of masturbation for a long time. At first it’s really hard, but then it suddenly becomes easy. Your desire for it will eventually wane. Once you get in that mode, you can go a really long time without it. I’m not a doctor, but that has been my experience and the experience of a lot of other men. I highly recommend that you look up “NoFap” online. It’s a nonreligious community of guys who have chosen to abstain from masturbation for practical health reasons. You’ll find a lot of support there and a lot of practical tips on how to manage your sexual desires.
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