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writes:Hello, I've been seeing a guy for since his divorce, about 1 year. He's had several doctor visits recently in which he needed a ride home because of a sedative given. I've offered every time to take and pick him up as I was available the days of his testing. Instead, he told me the ex would take and pick him up and thanked me. Why does he continue to have her in his life? They have no children together and live separately.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 October 2023):
 "I did ask. He said "If you don't know why you must be stupid""
Wow! I would say, nice to have known you, we are done, then cut all contact and block him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2023): Um...
Since he essentially called you stupid I'd dump him and cut him out of your life. He's still getting something out of being connected to her, whatever it is does not matter. You can be friends with an ex, but he's got some connection to her that he doesn't have with you and that's not fair to you
Consider it a loss and please dump him
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2023): I did ask. He said "If you don't know why you must be stupid"
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 October 2023):
Ask him, we can't know - we can only guess.
Maybe she was available and didn't have to take off work (whereas you might have to take off work to do this? and he didn't want you to be inconvenienced?)
Some people stay friends after an amicable divorce, others don't.
You have to decide if this works for you or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2023): Even though it's not always the case, some ex partners are in fact very good friends.
Sometimes poeple separate for whatever reasons with no drama and continue being there for one another.
She's been his friend for god knows how long, you're in his life for less than a year, most likely rebound.
By doing this he's also keeping some boundaries with you. he didn't ask for your help - you offered and he politely refused.
I bet he likes whtever it is that it is going on between you two, and at least for now, doesn't want anything more complicated than that.
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