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reader, xAx  +, writes (18 November 2012):
 Yeah, I think a bday present is a good idea! I think you should get something that suits her personality/hobbies, e.g. if she loves simpsons, get her a Simpsons plush toy
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHer birthday coming up soon would it be weird if I give her a gift. Would that be strange. I relised I can't go out with her but like to show that I'm there for her if she need to talk to someone
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reader, xAx +, writes (17 November 2012):
I agree that it's wrong! I dated someone in y11 when I was in y9 and I thought I was mature enough blah blah. we only lasted 5 months after he dumped me for someone his age. but when I turned 16 I thought he was a total creep because in y11 hormones are raging for most people and y9's are still very innocent who think they are mature enough. if you like her enough, please wait! you'll drag her down with commitments she shouldnt be making at her age and will include her in your age group of friends who are talking about stuff she isn't and she'll think she understands eg losing virginity, going to sixthform....
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reader, person12345  +, writes (17 November 2012):
 3 is nothing when you're an adult, like over 20. 13 is still a child, 16 is not. That is WAY too young. If you still like her when she's 16 then go for it.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 November 2012):
 At 13 she is still a kid - at 16 YOU are still a kid but with more hormones.. So like SVC said, at 13/16 the 3 years is a HUGE gap at 20/23 it is not.
If you two stick to being friends it's ok though, but BF/GF? Yea not an even match in my book.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (17 November 2012):
 The gap between 13 and 16 is HUGE.
The gap between 20 and 23 is NOTHING.
you can be "friends" but do not spend alone time with her.
EVEN if she likes you the same way you like her, she's too young to be involved with a 16 yr old boy
and you did the very mature thing by asking for advice.
wait a few years... when she's 16 and you are 19 if you still feel the same way you can start to gently become closer... BUT you cannot be sexual at all with her till she's 18. This includes necking and petting.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2012): Hey hun 3 years is nothing there are far bigger age gaps... but the problem here is her actual age. 13 is very young to be having a boyfriend , too young really. You may be better off waiting a bit before acting on your feelings.
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reader, human_male  +, writes (17 November 2012):
 The three years difference isn't the problem, it's that she's under the age of consent and you're over it, so you're essentially an adult and she's a child.
So yes she's too young.
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reader, Romanilove +, writes (17 November 2012):
No. Go for it!
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (17 November 2012):
 I don't think it's weird, as long as you two don't have sex.
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