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writes:Hello i have a really big problem with myself im so self councious i cant live in peace this started 4 months ago when i started going out with my girlfriend she is a really nice person i love her so much but i have an issue. not long ago we started getting ahead in our relationship and i have never though about anything in my body i have always though i was a normal person but some weeks ago i research about penis size in the internet and thats when my nightmare started. i realized that my penis was smaller than average. this destroyed my self confidence now is like i feel like i am so abnormal and nobody is never gonna like me. because of this my penis is anywhere from 4.8-5.1 inches long when erect i feel like i am smaller than everybody out there and now is like i dont even want to do nothing that has to do with sex i feel so inappropiate. i am so depressed i really need help i try to just forget about it but is hard. And the worst part is that i cant change anything i feel like the day we do something with my girl she is just goin to leave me and tell everybody about my issue i almost broke up with her because of this she doesnt know how i feel my life went from all happiness and joy to depression and darkness please i need help!!! I cant take this no more..
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reader, Beautynomore +, writes (20 February 2013):
Ok, listen up!! Size to a certain degree does matter. As 1 person said a women stretches out!! However you are still GROWING, so in the next 2 or 3 years you will most likely reach the average size that 80% of the men out there have. So no worries. Stop comparing yourself to the guys you see in the locker room or on porn websites. Talking to a doctor would be good, not so sure on the testersterone thing because you are still growing. But talking to a doctor who has seen it all and heard it all is a good idea. Let someone in the business talk to you and REASSURE you that you are perfectly normal. If sex is stressing you out, then your not ready. Listen to your little voice. My son, very popular, captain of the hockey team and most confident man in girls was not ready until 18 yrs. he listened to that voice, and didn't give a shit about what people said. Sex especially at your age is a serious thing. Don't break up with your girl, and don't push the sex thing until you have talked to someone or are done worrying about something that most men feel. You are not alone in this feeling, most guys want it bigger and are not happy with what god gave them. What they don't realize are the women they fell in love with, love every part of them and wouldn't be with them if the relationship was based on the size of their penis. Good Luck!!
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (19 February 2013):
Like everyone has said, you don't really have any problem. I would just add that in the presence of the right woman, and you are carressing her warm naked body you will pump an extra half pint of blood into your better half and you should be quite proud enough. More of a problem is making it last long enough!!! As all the women have said, there is far more than size that is important. Also I have noticed when playing with a woman and her vibrator that it really is just 3 to 4 inches that gives the most pleasure. More than than that gets uncomfortable and then hurts. You may have seen too much porn already where the poor woman is being pounded by a huge dick? This is nothing to do with her pleasure but really feeding male imaginiation and maybe your insecurity??
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reader, Silius Sodimus  +, writes (18 February 2013):
From a statistical point of view, your SLIGHTLY smaller than average. I'm not saying that to hurt you so hear me out.Statistically, I'm below average for male height, didn't stop me getting plenty of great women.Secondly it's not the size it's how you use it and if a girl was only worried about your size above everything else she's not worth your time. A woman's orgasm is not determined by your penis length. If anything how you treat her, your confidence and your response to her during sex matters most. If you really want to talk about size then thickness is more important than length, an adult woman's vagina at best dilates to about 6-7 inches during sex. AT BEST. Certain positions I do with my gf hurt her and I'm only a slightly above avge 6-7 inches.Lastly, dude your 16-17 Your body doesn't stop growing till about 18-20 years of age. Wait until your 20 then post about your penis. lol. Peace.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2013): its not the size of the equiment but the technique a big manhood is like this it for show you cant do much with it
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reader, CrystalPrincess +, writes (18 February 2013):
I am a grown woman and have had plenty of partners. I can honestly say that the most incredible sex I ever experienced was with a man who had a penis smaller than yours. That man rocked my world and had me fiending for him. I have found that many men who have a large penis imagine that being endowed with a big willie makes them a wonderful and skilled lover. Their entire identity is wrapped up in the size of their penis and they think it should be revered and worshiped. Each woman is different and may or may not have a size preference. It is no different than men who prefer certain breast or body sizes. The majority of women I know do not want a giant dick ramming their cervix. I dated a guy who had a penis so large he had to be circumcised in college because the foreskin was too small. He was mighty proud of his unit. He went on to say that he wasn't able to fully thrust into most women because it caused tearing and pain. I never chose to have sex with him. The thought of being impaled with a telephone pole frightened me. All of the perceived criticism is coming from you! I suggest learning to love yourself. All of you. Start watching people at school. You will notice that you believe about others what they are believing and projecting about themselves. Guys who think they're cool, good looking or tough are treated as such. Just like guys who think they are inept worthless nerds. The only opinion of you that matters is yours. You will become what you believe. A tiger doesn't worry about what the sheep are thinking or saying about him. Be the tiger! It starts with loving every inch of wonderful you. Learn how to gratify yourself AND your partner. When a woman feels loved and respected she will respond with passion and fire that will curl your toes! Lastly, it might help for you to check out reddit. Look in r/sex. There's a lot of info and among it you will find advice guys in their 20's wish they could have told their teenaged selves.
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reader, nor1306 +, writes (17 February 2013):
 1st of all, you are NOT alone.Penis size is has a direct affect on your self confidence and mindset. Despite what women say, they like bigger (most of the time). Having a penis that is small or on the "lower end of average" is a horrible nightmare that doesn't go away, unless u find a virgin. Unless your a male with this problem u have no idea the depression it brings, NONE. Young man, i want u to breath and hold your head up, relax if u can, i know its hard...i dealing with the same problem, only i'm late 30's.I see that your only 17 or 18, that means your STILL GROWING....the 1st thing i would do TOMORROW is call a doctor, and i mean TOMORROW. Doctors have the ability to admister testosterone to growing boys who have this problem. After your done growing, YOU ARE SCREWED!And if your doctor brushes u off, go to another one and keep going till u find a doctor that understands your plight. Call your doctor NOW and set up an appointment
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2013): Its not always about the size of your penis that matters if you can move well and have some intimacy in your sex life your partner will still enjoy having sex with you
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (16 February 2013):
Dear OP,
First of all, you have an average sized penis.
Second, girls are not that obsessed about penis size. Especially since penis size is not related to sexual pleasure. Most women don't orgasm through in-out stimulation of the penis, but of the stimulation of the clitoris, which lies outside of the vagina. And you don't need a big penis to stimulate it, just your tongue or your hands :)
So please, please don't break up with her. Your insecurities are perfectly normal, I understand that at your age, you can't know what really matters during sex and what doesn't.
But I can tell you, I am a 100% sure the girl that you are dating also has her doubts and insecurities. Maybe she's afraid you won't like her breasts, or her belly, or her thighs etc.
So if you ever are going to have sex, it will be a risk for her too, she will be naked as well and hoping that she pleases you. She will probably feel vulnerable, too, in a way.
A really good lover is a man who can make a woman feel good about herself, you know. Sex is not showing off what you have and all the cool tricks you can do. Sex is not a sport, sex is a very, very delicate form of art, the art of pleasure, I would say. It's, at it's best, an emotional and physical bonding at the same time. That's way more beautiful and complex than just having a big penis and putting it in the right hole.
Forgive yourself that you are not perfect, no one is. And be prepared to forgive her if she's not perfect. Be confident that the two of you can have a good time. You've been seeing each other for 4 months now. I am sure she's interested in more than just your penis.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2013): You are definitely normal size, so try not to worry about it and instead focus on your relationship. It can't be changed anyway, and I think everyone understands that. At your age it might still grow some more too. So I think the key is to relax and try to be confident in who you are, and I think she will respect that much more.
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reader, xAx  +, writes (16 February 2013):
 Personally, I prefer your size. any bigger and rough sex for me would hurt. it really does depend on the girl! I suggest you research techniques on the internet better for the smaller penis, for example doggie style.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2013): If your gf is as nice as you say then your size shouldn't be a problem with her. Anyway you are not small. You are within the lower range of average. You are still young so go and see your doctor. There might be a medical treatment to increase size at early age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2013): It can be difficult to deal with insecurities while in relationship, guy or girl. About your size, like the other reader said, majority of women don't like massive penises (I don't). I'd personally much much rather go with the average or even smaller size, and you are absolutely fine. There is seriously nothing to worry about. But I understand that personal insecurities are caused by the way you view yourself - and you should try to change that. First of all, stop comparing yourself to others. We are all different and unique genetically. Confidence is sexy (confidence is not arrogance though). Being comfortable with yourself is very attractive. I'm sure your girl will not have a problem with your size. And *if* she did have a problem with it, I honestly think she has some kind of issues.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (16 February 2013):
 HI
firstly that is an average size for most guys, secondly your still growing and will continue to grow up untill your 21. and lastly contrary to what many people think women don't like massive manhoods, it's how you treat her and how you use what you have to your advantage. If she loves you she will be very happy with your size. Never go by what you read online seriously, so many guys brag they are massive when they are not, and the guys that are complain that their women don't like it because its too big, you are just the right size for a healthy happy sex life. so stop stressing and just go with the flow.
Mandy x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2013): Dude. Chill. You haven't even finished growing yet. And so long as you know how to properly use what you got, you'll be fine.
Trust me, when a girl is writhing in orgasmic nirvana under your guidance, she isn't gonna measuring it, man.
Flynn 24
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