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writes:Okay so my boyfriend and I have been together a year and a month. He is depressed a lot and isn't at all affectionate (sp?), but I love being all cuddly and kissy. Sometimes I will ask him to kiss me and he says "no" or he "feels like i'm forcing him to". Also, he hates his job so when he gets home everyday he just sits there for hours and watches T.V. if I try to talk to him he doesn't respond, he just ignores me or makes a rude comment back. I'm feed up with him and I think it is finally time to end it. Problem is his child is really really attached to me and i feel bad leaving him.Also, i went to a music festival over the weekend and i met someone who lives close by. We hit it off right away, he is very respectful and nice. Really well suited for me. I'm going to see him this weekend. Meeting this guy just reminded me of how good I could feel. I really miss feeling loved. Should i stick it out or move on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your comments and advice. I have decided once and for all to end things and move on. I don't want to be unhappy and unloved for the rest of my life. We are just not the right match and there is nothing I can do about it.He was on Paxil for a while and it didn't do that much for him, I think mainly because while taking it he drank a lot. Thanks again for the advice!I love you all!
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reader, wildman +, writes (19 June 2008):
 I would move on right away while you have an opportunity. His child is not enough reason to stay with him. good luck
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (19 June 2008):
 Move on. If he is disrespectful now, he will get worse. Negetive energy is contagious. If you dont want to just bail on his kid, ask his dad if it would be ok if you could watch him every once in a while, or hang out with him. It's hard when kids are involved, but your boyfriend is going to drag you down with him, and thats not fair, for you or his kid. Move on, enjoy being loved because you deserve it.
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (19 June 2008):
 You feel like you owe it to your boyfriend to try and make this work but you deserve happiness too. if it is not working then you have to decide to really make the effort to change things or leave. A lot of people may say stay as he is depressed but if you cant help him and cant change the way he feels about you or make him happy or be happy yourself then what are you getting out of this relationship??
You deserve a life too so do a bit of soul searching but finish with him first if you decide you are really into this other guy, dont just have an affair. x
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reader, lalybug2008 +, writes (19 June 2008):
 MOVE ON!! I can't stress it enough! I've been right where you are before and I was married to the man. It's a living HELL. Don't waste one more minute of your time with a person like that. Have you talked with him about your feelings of nothingness where he's concerned? Does he even care? I understand that depression can completely swallow a good person whole, but there's medication for that. If you've talked with him about this and he refuses to do anything to better himself, then there's your answer. He doesn't care enough about himself nor you or your relationship to do anything about it. RUN!!!!!
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reader, Jack White +, writes (19 June 2008):
Don't stick it out just for his kid. Maybe when you break up with him, you can work it out to where you are still friends so that you can try to be a part of the kid's life? I feel for you, that you are attached to his child, but you have to look out for your own happiness. YOu can't stay in a bad relationship until this kid turns 18!
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