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writes:My partner of 5 years has a split personality. He is a paranoid, possessive boozer.I love him to bits when he is Hyde. He is the most kind, loveable, generous, entertaining, knowledgeable man. Whan he is Jeckel I hate him with a vengence. If he doesnt see eye to eye on something he becomes foul mouthed agressive and his face contorts to pure evilness, he sulks, hides in a room for up to 3 days. When he comes out, as Hyde, he draws a complete veil over the situation or promises to try harder cos he loves me so much and cannot live without me.He has alienated me from friends who he has been abusive to.Will he never change. What can I do. Reply to this Question
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reader, mystifiedme +, writes (23 June 2008):
I am with a Gemini so I can understand the comment made about split personality. Its really hard...my partner is kind of similar..he drinks a fair bit, but majority of the time he is brilliant, but if i do my own thing...something he doesn't want to do then I really get the other side of his character. He would huff for ages and its always me to try to fix the problem! I don't knwo what you should do...it's really difficult.All I can say is your not alone in your predicament and I wish you luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): You might not like what I am going to say, but I believe you need to hear it:
DO you love yourself? Then GET OUT; you deserve better in life then to live in a situation like this;
I am afraid that your love for him is not enough;
Your love for him, is destroying your life!
WAKE UP! What are you waiting for? To end up in hospital or something worse?
THis guy has an alchol problem; signs of mood swings and probably even drugs; personality disorder(daignosed by a doctor or not) that could be the result of various things;emotionaly and verbally abusive; What about pysicall abuse?you don't mention).
HOWEVER,he needs help, but that is not your problem; for 5 years you have been living in this "hel" now get on with your life.
Please talk to him when he is in a "CALM" frame of mind; tell him that you want out; suggest he gets help and that you separate for a while; this way he might not get totally "crazy". Be ready to make a run; as people like this can get violent.
I URGE you, do not delay dealing with this matter; you are not just wasting your life away; you are risking your life.
Do not live with th emotional blackmail of cannot live without you;
Be strong; you can find somebody out there who will love you and treat you with love and respect all the time;
Best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): You are getting Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde mixed up.
Jekyll was the caring, if somewhat distant one. Hyde was the balls out crazy murderer.
Flynn 24
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reader, evas  +, writes (21 June 2008):
I agree with the rest, he ether has some mental illness or a drug problem. He needs to get help and so do you. IF he is abusive then you need to decide about how bad it is and is it worth ending up in a coffin. Drugs and mental illnes is something you just don't grow out of. The drugs become god to them and they'll do anything for them. The mental illness just gets to a point ,if untreated, that you'll end up on an episode of cops if your lucky. YOU REALLY NEED TO GET SOME GOOD HELP AND/OR COUNCILING. DON'T END UP ANTOHTER NUMBER.
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reader, lexilou +, writes (21 June 2008):
 Been there and that is exactly how I describe my ex husband, jekyl and hyde. Dont think he will ever change, mine didnt, except to get worse. Sorry if that not what you wanted to hear. Id love to know when his birthday is x
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reader, Boatinggirl +, writes (20 June 2008):
well the fact is has he gone to the doctor if so was he dignosed with a split personality
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (20 June 2008):
 Is he a gemini? Does he do drugs? Those are the top, non-medical reasons one would have split personalities. He probably wont change, unless he is a drug user, in which case, an intervention would be a good idea. Othewise, because he wont change, it's up to you to decide what to do. Your choices are obvious: stick with it, and allow him to treat you like crap (some of the time); Try to discuss with him your concerns and try to focus on his good side (they do that with children, when they misbehave, pay little attention to it, and when they do something great, make it a big, happy deal). Or leave. There will be someone out there that will be nice for a bigger percentage of the time. You will become more miserable if this problem isnt solved soon, and I really hope it is, for your sake! Good luck!
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reader, wildman +, writes (20 June 2008):
 I feel for you. I kind of doubt if he will change much so you might need to get out of the mess unless he can get a hold on his boozing. good luck
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