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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hoping for some insights into my guys head!! I have been with my man for a year, and although we live a fair distance apart we talk everyday and spend weekends together unless he's working. He is very affectionate and pays me lots of compliments and we have great fun together. Were both late thirties, I have kids , he doesnt, but he gets on well with mine and were al going on holiday together soon.My worry is he may still not be over his ex girlfriend as he has never said he loves me and when I asked him about this he said he had been very badly hurt and it would take a bit of time- but that he was really happy with me and very relaxed with me and the kids. We got togther 6 months after he broke up from their 3 yr relationship. The thing is he never says her name which I find odd, although he does talk about their relationship if it comes up say for instance when talking about my kids ( she had kids too and it wasnt as easy a situation). He doesnt seem to have this problem with his ex wife who he'll talk much more comfortably about- although he doesnt go on about either ex's.How can I help him move on? We have such good times that I do find it hurtful that he's holding back despite apparenty seeing us a long term and talking of next years hols etc and introducing my kids to his parents. At the end of the day I dont want my heart broken and I have told him that I love him ( a few months back), but it wasnt said back, just got a compliment in return- how awful!! im trying to give him time but how long should i give it before I need to think will he ever love me if he doesnt now?
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reader, wildman  +, writes (17 June 2008):
 I would cool it for a few weeks and test him a little. Find something else to do and just pretend to be loosing interest in him. Let him make all the moves.
Something probably needs to happen to wake him up to what he has with you. He might be sort of in a limbo state. If it doesn't work maybe he really isn't that interested which you probably can't change. good luck
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