We want to have a threesome. How do we make it happen?
Q. i have been married to my husband for 5 years now and we've been together for 10 years.Being together for so long we both are bonded and have a totally amazing secure relationship.Sex is great but i have not experienced other men and he had sex with ...
A. 9 November 2010: Talk about with your husband. Have a serious discussion about what you both want, and go from there. If you decide to have a 3-way, talk about it a week later. A month later. Let me give my story as an example:
My wife was way more open to the i... (read in full...)
She's lost interest in sex because of her religious beliefs?
Q. I've been going out with my girlfriend for about a year, and she's gradually lost interest in sex. She claims she feels guilty because of her religious beliefs, even though she was quite aggressive sexually early in the relationship, and actually ...
A. 9 November 2010: "What I don't understand is that she says she loved the sex with these guys, but she apparently can't let herself enjoy sex with me."
You admitted earlier that those guys end up using her until she tries to get serious. You don't want to be one o... (read in full...)
Can anyone help with some sites for me to share with my friend?
Q. hii i kind of put myself in trouble :S basically, my bessie freinds all know that i am bi, they are fine with it and i told them that im going out with a girl called robyn (what a daft name) thing is im not going out with a girl because i only re...
A. 8 November 2010: If your friends are your friends, they will be able to handle the truth. They should also be willing and able to help you adjust to your new found sexual orientation.... (read in full...)
Sneaking around dating the professor, but I hate secrets!
Q. I'm 33 and I just went on a date with my 38 year old professor. It's against school policy. Should I sneek around and risk him getting fired or back off? We text everyday constantly and we really like each other. I offered to drop out of that school ...
A. 8 November 2010: Graduate first, date later. If the two of you like each other, take it slow. Getting caught torches his career, and you dropping out torches yours.
If he is worth waiting for, then wait.... (read in full...)
His ADD is affecting our sex life. Help!!!
Q. So this guy and I have been together for almost two years. We are both virgins but take part in other sexual activity. Oral, handjobs, dry humping, etc etc. He has always had a really hard time getting me to orgasm but i've always just blamed it ...
A. 8 November 2010: Actually having sex?
More than likely that is out of the question for the two of you, but there are a host of other things that can be done in the bedroom.
Go to a bookstore (Barnes and Noble is good for this) and find the sex section. Get... (read in full...)
I need to take the best decision for my baby.
Q. My boyfriend has stuggled with addiction for 16 years. Drug, alcohol and porn. We have know eacjh other for 15 years. We got together 2 years ago after reconnecting....he and i were so excited to be together...and everyday we worked as a team to ...
A. 8 November 2010: That living in a household with a man who lies about drugs, sex, and love is good for a child to be raised in?
Absolutely not.
Drugs and porn are addictions, and they require intense professional rehab to get through. As good as your intentio... (read in full...)
She's lost interest in sex because of her religious beliefs?
Q. I've been going out with my girlfriend for about a year, and she's gradually lost interest in sex. She claims she feels guilty because of her religious beliefs, even though she was quite aggressive sexually early in the relationship, and actually ...
A. 8 November 2010: Yes and no. Being stubborn is not going to fix the problem. Letting her walk all over you is not going to fix the problem.
Her religion is the grouping of her highest values, and as such you are forced to respect that. More than likely she went... (read in full...)
I feel like my ex is playing games with my mail and my mind!
Q. It's really hard to ask for help because I am aware of how crazy this all sounds to someone hearing it and not involved but I ask that you keep an open mind and I will tell only the facts: -DEC'08 I broke up with my ex because although I still...
A. 8 November 2010: START LOGGING EVERY CONVERSATION YOU HAVE WITH HIM AND PEOPLE YOU MEET ONLINE.
He is stalking you. It isn't safe for you, and it definitely isn't healthy for him. Breaking off the friendshipwas a good idea. If you think e-mails are getting ... (read in full...)
TV in the bedroom... and virtually no sex. What do I do?
Q. My wife and I have always had a TV in the bedroom. And since I was about three, I've personally had one in my bedroom. So I'm totally addicted to it, and can toss and turn for hours if I don't fall asleep to it. Our nightly routine involves...
A. 8 November 2010: Change the routine. You don't need a TV to sleep, just like babies don't need pacifiers and children don't need night-lights. They are comforts that spoil us into thinking we need them (well kids probably do well to have to night-lights, so they may ... (read in full...)
Should I wait till he comes to me?
Q. Okay I just told the person that I have had a crush for an year 1/2 now. And it was really random I just kinda exploded and told him. He acted fine with it but it was akward talking to him after. I don't know what to do should I still talk to him or ...
A. 8 November 2010: You got it off your chest, so there is nothing left that you need to say. So until he responds don't be awkward or nervous, just enjoy getting to be around him.... (read in full...)
Is he using his depression as a cop out?
Q. My ex boyfriend broke up with me 6 weeks ago because he was depressed and didn't know what he wanted he said he needed time to figure things out. He said we may get back together in the future but we may not. Anyways i tried to do things like send ...
A. 8 November 2010: You kind of sound like a couple of things are going on in your head at the same time.
- If you are letting him know that you care, why are you unwilling to tolerate his silence? If he needs time apart from you, he is going to get it (either t... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting if I don't like it when my boyfriend looks up naked women online?
Q. It was in July this year that I first found out that my boyfriend has been watching pictures of naked women on the internet. I was looking for a web page I couldn't find but had visited before so I tried to look for it in his browsing history. When ...
A. 8 November 2010: Confront may be a strong word for it, but in a healthy relationship he should want to know if he is doing things that hurt you or cause you to be insecure of doubtful of him.
So tell him it bothers you. More than likely trying to compromi... (read in full...)
Now that he's single he doesn't want to be with me
Q. I am a female who had been dating a married male of this same age group for approximately 18 months. my dilemna is, now that he is single he seems not to want to be with me and build a relationship. he was being very evasive about it all at first, ...
A. 8 November 2010: "since his mariage was so great, why was he creeping with me and God knows who else?"
That right there. Guys who don't respect their current relationship won't respect the ones that follow it either.
It is common for weak people in relati... (read in full...)
What are some tips on making sure the bf is completely sexually satisfied?
Q. What are some tips on making sure the bf is completely sexually satisfied? Anything that may contribute to them not going eleswhere......
A. 21 October 2010: Ask him. Tell him you'd be willing to try new things for him. Or you can go find a book (the internet is inconsistent when it comes to sex information) on sex. I recall my local Barnes and Noble having a fairly impressive selection of sex ... (read in full...)
Need to talk to my b/f about problems in our relationship without sounding bitchy
Q. I'm having a talk with my boyfriend about how he has been treating me and acting and how I don't like it and etc. What are ways to do this without sounding naggy, mean, bitchy, insensitive, annoying, etc. I just want something that wont sound ac...
A. 21 October 2010: Plan the discussion. Sit down with paper and write out exactly what your problems are, what your problems with him are, and how they affect you. Work out what you wish he would do for you, and also write out what you will not accept from him. I ... (read in full...)
Depression and its Effects on Relationships
Q. I am just wondering how many relationship that have broken up due to one partner's depression. Who broke up with whom, and when when the others depression was better did you end up getting back together? Can a relationship be fixed if one partner ...
A. 21 October 2010: I have never been in a relationship where one of us was depressed, but my best friend is and I've been close by as he has gone through several relationships.
It is my opinion that depression is a strain on a relationship, but is only a serious ... (read in full...)
B/f's friend is always texting him when hot girls are around!
Q. my boyfriend's friend is always texting him to come out because there are hot girls. is his friend just being a guy or does he try and pick up girls when hes out with him? ...
A. 21 October 2010: There is no way to know your boyfriend's thoughts and habits based on text messages someone else is sending to him.
If it bothers you, talk to your boyfriend about it. You need to be able to trust him, and if it is something that can hurt your tru... (read in full...)
Girlfriend says she gets grossed out thinking about sex
Q. I posted a question on here earlier about me and my girlfriend's intimacy issues and we have made a little progress, but the problem still remains. We have been dating for 2 and a half years and are both freshman in college and doing the whole long ...
A. 20 October 2010: The best advice would be to stop treating your girlfriend's feelings like a problem. You can push a girl into sex, but you can't push a woman into intimacy. You need to let her know that she gets to pick the time and place to let go and do that with ... (read in full...)
Should I tell the teacher I'm sorry that I like him?
Q. Teacher at my school knows i like him now but dosen't really care and i knew he would find out sooner or later , but i feel very humilated and incredibly stupid , i hope he understands that i don't mean to fall for him it was just a faint little ...
A. 20 October 2010: Hey cut yourself some slack, it happens from time to time.
You can tell him you are sorry if you feel like you need to, it won't be hurting him to do so.... (read in full...)
I don't know what to think about how she feels from her actions
Q. I met her a year ago and we met at her school cafeteria and talked a lot and I walked her to her dorm and left. We exchanged emails about plans but she left the country for a while. About a month ago I received a random text from her and all of a ...
A. 20 October 2010: You need to slow down with her. If you have hung out twice in one year, you have no clue what she is thinking.
Assume for now that she just wants a friend.... (read in full...)
I don't love my spouse anymore
Q. I'm falling out of love with my husband. We've known each other for 4 years now. for the last 1 and half years he has been having issues with his sex drive if left up to him we could have sex once in two weeks or more. We've had many problems ...
A. 20 October 2010: People definitely hit a point where they lose the initial magic of being married. Statistically it happens between the second and third year.
Get into couples counseling, it will at least give him an opportunity to improve himself. Somethin... (read in full...)
I didn't tell my online guy that I had a daughter till after we met, now he won't talk to me!
Q. I met a guy online he was in iraq at the time.I never belived in dating sites before,it was my first time chatting with someone oline we start chatting and he was so sweet the more we chat the more I liked him,on one of our chats he asked me if I ...
A. 20 October 2010: I think you have to give him time to come around. If he isn't talking to you, there really isn't much you can do anyway.
You may have good reasons, but you did lie to him. Depending on his life priorities a child can change things. Dependin... (read in full...)
Husband is acting like a child. I need help with the 4 kids!
Q. ok. let me start by saying im 27 and my husband is 49. he works as mngmnt in meat dept and i am stay at home mom of 3 kids all under 4. my husband and i havnt made love in 9 months. he either sleeps or works outside for hours after he gets home and ...
A. 20 October 2010: When you say he works outside for hours and hours, what exactly is he doing?
I recommend the two of you sit down and have a serious talk about responsibilities. Not an argument as he walks in the door or is heading to bed, but a planned conversa... (read in full...)
How often should I swallow cum?
Q. Me and my boyfriend like to do sex everynight.I really enjoy to give him a blowjob.He tells me to swallow his semen.I don't like swallowing.Is it harmful for body?Is it helpful?How many times in a week should i swallow cum?...
A. 20 October 2010: It really doesn't matter. Semen is going to hit your stomach and be little more than 1-2 grams of protein in your diet.
But if you don't like to swallow then you shouldn't be doing it. You treat him well, and he treats you well. It's great th... (read in full...)
Its been 2 weeks with no contact from him should I just move on?
Q. so i was seeing this very nice guy since march of this year. it started out good. we would call eachother every day.i tried not to see him every day for the first couple of weeks. he seemed ery interested in me so i went with it. i didnt sleep with ...
A. 20 October 2010: Move on and find a man who can be as committed as you need him to be.... (read in full...)
My best friend likes me but I have a boyfriend
Q. My best friend in the whole world told me today that he likes me. I like him too but the thing is that I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for a year and a half. I don't know what to do. Any advise?...
A. 20 October 2010: Stick it out with your boyfriend. You chose to be in the relationship you are in now, and you can't just decide to dump it when another guy tickles your fancy.
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I think I've ruined everything in my relationship
Q. Ok. so here is my situation. My girlfriend and I have beend dating for a little over a year now, and everything was perfect. We did everything together. She went out of her way to do really good things for me and told me things like I'm the mos...
A. 20 October 2010: You need to stop blaming yourself for things. It is not your fault for bringing him up, it is not your fault for being controlling about this guy.
When she started talking to another guy like she did, it emotionally hurt you. When she lied and... (read in full...)
In love with two men at same time.... for 15 years
Q. i need help trying to decide if i shold tell husband whom i love that i am also in love with another man. i've been married over 15 years and we have had our ups and downs but i love him. the other man i have also known for same legnth of time and ...
A. 20 October 2010: Ignore the other man for a moment. Your relationship with your husband is good, you have 4 kids, and you are worried when your husband complains about the relationship?
Work on your marriage. Whether or not it fails should have nothing to do with ... (read in full...)
Husband having phone sex with men
Q. i have been married for 25 years and about 6 months ago i found out my husband has been having phone sex with men and seeking other men and when i confronted him he said he thinks he is bi but now that the shit has hit the fan he wants everything to ...
A. 20 October 2010: He is cheating, admitting it, and making excuses for it. On top of that, he continues to do it.
Your relationship is not salvageable because he is entirely unwilling to change for you. ... (read in full...)
LDR--no more I love you? Is he cheating?
Q. Hey, I'm really starting to think my boyfriend is cheating on me. We've been together for over a year but it's a long distance relationship. For a while we saw each other alot I stayed with him for 4 days every week and for over a month in the ...
A. 20 October 2010: A good bit of advice about how seriously you are worried about infidelity is this:
If you think the evidence seriously points to him cheating, hire a private investigator to find out for sure. If you don't think the evidence is that strong, ... (read in full...)
How do I get him away from his ex?!
Q. so this guy and i hung out a few times and its obvious we are attracted and like eachother its been said by both of us multiple times. we text all the time but i notice that its dwindling.. and i think hes talking to his ex. when i first met him he ...
A. 20 October 2010: You need to be careful: if a guy can't decide between two women (or worse doesn't want to choose just one), the odds are good that he is infatuated and not seriously attracted to you.
Respect his choice to be with his ex. You have to respect ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend losing interest, how do I get him back?
Q. Okay so my boyfriend has recently gone back to university which is 3 hours from where i live, i rarely get to see him anymore and i am finding it really difficult. Hes in his last year but i got so used to him being around over the summer holidays ...
A. 20 October 2010: Talking to him and trusting him is all you can do. Being away at university is a hard thing, that can make a great deal of time slip away from you.
You need to get busy with your own life so you aren't so preoccupied with his. Now is a great ti... (read in full...)
Ex started texting me last night and it hurts because I miss her so much
Q. My former girlfriend of five years broke up with me several months ago. I was devastated for a long time as I'd always thought we would spend our lives together and it was completely out of the blue. We have seen each other at various social ...
A. 20 October 2010: You have to realize that the odds of her coming completely to her senses and deciding to fall in love with you again is very low. More than likely she is trying to work herself through the breakup, albeit in a different way than you are.
She b... (read in full...)
My ex wants me after I moved on!
Q. 3 years ago now i fell totally head over heels for a guy i met. We instantly clicked and had a lot of positive energy to the poitn where at times we we're inseperable. We had the same hobbies, interests and goals in life and i was smitten. After ...
A. 20 October 2010: I've been there. What I saw in myself and others who have shared similar stories is that, when you aren't over someone, trying to date someone else only ends up hurting them.
Separate and be single for now. Don't run after your ex either. Move you... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity and now I'm weak and afraid I won't be able to stop having sex
Q. I am seventeen years old and Muslim. I met my 19 year old boyfriend 5 months ago and have been dating since in secret. Coming from a strict family and myself valuing the teachings of Allah, i have continually felt ashamed and scared about being ...
A. 20 October 2010: It is hard to control yourself. If you are both serious about your relationship, and serious about abstinence, consider the following:
- Take a break from each other. I've seen it recommended that you break contact for 4-6 months, but I am doubt... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend's sister and don't want to lose her
Q. I am 25. I live with my girlfriend and her younger sister. We just moved in together, all three of us moving to a new city. I have been dating my girlfriend for 5 years and her sister has been my best friend for almost as long. They are both the ...
A. 20 October 2010: "I love my girlfriend and want to spend my life with her, I want to grow old with her. The trouble is, I feel the same way for her sister."
I strongly doubt your feelings can be trusted.
It is in your best interests to let the sister out of yo... (read in full...)
Why do guys like angry sex?
Q. Hey guys =D I got a question, why do guys like 'angry sex'?? I've heard about this in shows and stuff as a joke but my boyfriend told me he gets turned on when we argue. Specifically if we've argued and he tries to cuddle up and play I tell him not ...
A. 20 October 2010: Angry sex is a lighter version of the darker rape fantasies that many people have. To fight and then to have sex allows people to feel in a place of power over their mate.
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We want to have fun but should I tell him I'm a virgin?
Q. heya, I've been chatting to an old friend recently and found out that we've had sexual feelings about each other for quite a while now. We've agreed that when he comes to visit me we'll have some fun. The only thing is I havn't told him I'm a virgin...
A. 20 October 2010: Yes Witch-Fire, you need to tell him. First-time sex for a female can be moderately painful, and it will be a much better experience for you if he is aware and can adjust what he is doing to your needs.
And don't worry: I don't think I've ever com... (read in full...)
How do I tell him I'm pregnant? I'm not ready to have a baby!
Q. I'm pregnant but I don't know how to tell HIM! I've just emigrated to Australia to be with him and we both know we want to be together forever but I feel its too early to have a baby. He's always talked about wanting one with me, but with my career ...
A. 20 October 2010: Be blunt. The faster you get it off your chest, the less room you leave yourself to not tell him.
"Hey honey, I'm pregnant."
He knows about your career, and he knows you just moved around the world. In the initial discussion, you can let him ... (read in full...)
We aren't getting along and its driving me crazy!
Q. i feel like me and my boyfriend arent getting along and hes driving crazy...what should i do?...
A. 20 October 2010: We can help you more if you can give us more information:
How long have the two of you been dating?
When did the fighting start?
What are you fighting about?
What kinds of arguments have you had in the past?
... (read in full...)
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