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writes: My best friend in the whole world told me today that he likes me. I like him too but the thing is that I have a boyfriend. We've been dating for a year and a half. I don't know what to do. Any advise?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI've taken all the advise that I got and used it. I tried to image myself with my best friend and I realized that I really don't like him in that way. I did tell my boyfriend when my best friend told me that he likes me, just to let you know.
My boyfriend and I are still together :)
Thanks for all the advise from everyone!
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reader, odeer123  +, writes (20 October 2010):
 Really, its all about asking yourself the right questions, and answering honestly:"Why is he my best friend?""Why is he not my boyfriend?""Why have we not been in a relationship before?""What would change about our relationship if we took it further?""What would I feel?" (If the above)And then to the other side....:"Why is he my boyfriend?""Why are we still together?""Why did this relationship happen?""What would change about our relationship if we took it to a more casual level?""How would I feel?" (If the above)After answering these questions for yourself, you should have a pretty good idea about what YOU want to do. Then , its up to you to let your friend/boyfriend know exactly what you are willing/not willing to do.I hope that I've helped.If you want I can give advice a little less like a questionnaire, but please tell me if there's anything else you would still like to know.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (20 October 2010):
 If you really don't know what to do and are confused by this then to be fair on your boyfriend you should let him go until you have decided what it is you want. Otherwise you could be in danger of two timing your boyfriend and that could be a bigger mistake. You are young. You can look around and see what it is you really want, you have plenty of time in your life to do that. Good Luck!
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reader, turkishsabre  +, writes (20 October 2010):
 i think he is not your best friend..if he was a good friend he would not confuse your brain and at the sametime he does not respect to your relationship and for me he is really a sly guy..why dont you ask the question you ask here to your boyfriend? you dont because you also a fox not to tell about this thing to your boyfriend honestly and in a bold manner..you really destroy the trust..because trust is everything in a relationship and dont do anything to anybody which you dont want to happen your own..i think you must talk to your boyfriend..because he is not aware and understand the effects of the sly friend of you who try to hack your relation..in final, the sly friend..he knows your relation and still says those things to you how disqusting personality is this??? dont trust anyone..and if you give it, dont destroy anyone's trust..
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2010): hey believe me he is not your best friend..if he was your best friend he would respect your relationship and wouldnt mix your brain..i think he is very dishonest..
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (20 October 2010):
 That all depends on whether or not you still have any feelings left for your current boyfriend. If you do, I do not think you should let go. If not, just tell him that you do not feel anything anymore and see how things work out with your best friend.
I hope that helps.
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reader, curtiskd  +, writes (20 October 2010):
you know i think that you should really think about it and youll know what to do but i notice you said you like him to, but when you mention your boyfriend you dont say nothing about love just that you have one so it dont sound like your feelings are big with your boyfriend but i could be wrong. good luck on your decision
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reader, PiGzzz +, writes (20 October 2010):
See... this is a tough one..I mean.. well you can wait for you to like sort things out? you know like get your mind straight.. ask yourself; how do you feel about your boyfriend? i mean a year and a half is not a short time.. theres something special going on.ask yourself how you feel about your friend...i know "alls fair in love and war" but dont you think dumping him for your best friend is kind of harsh?and think about it..if you start dating your best friend, are you going to be comfortable? like "that way?"...cause i was thinking about thinking about my best friend that way.. but then i was like.. hmmm nah i really dont want to ruin my relationship..so i mean its all up to you.. do what you think is best...dont rush it. if both guys love you, then girl, take your time.. cause they should be willing to wait for you :)So.. think long and hard about it.. try to not talk to either one.. and just think for a couple of days you know?...so yeah =]
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reader, Ven +, writes (20 October 2010):
Stick it out with your boyfriend. You chose to be in the relationship you are in now, and you can't just decide to dump it when another guy tickles your fancy.
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