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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:so this guy and i hung out a few times and its obvious we are attracted and like eachother its been said by both of us multiple times. we text all the time but i notice that its dwindling.. and i think hes talking to his ex. when i first met him he was with her but she goes to a different college than we do. the second time he said they broke up that was like a week earlier and i believe him bc on his facebook he said i cant believe i lost her. so i hung with him and it was going great once he even texted me at like 7 as soon as he got up before class. real sweet. then i looked at his facebook recently and it said i cant wait to see her (by name) and a lot of conversation between the two. but he wanted to hang even after that. i have so much fun with him but i dont know what to think. how do i get him away from his ex? bc i know i got the advantage being on the same campus and i really like him do i be a little more pushy and text him more and not wait for him to text me? encourage hanging out? idk i need help!
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reader, Ven +, writes (20 October 2010):
You need to be careful: if a guy can't decide between two women (or worse doesn't want to choose just one), the odds are good that he is infatuated and not seriously attracted to you.
Respect his choice to be with his ex. You have to respect that relationship, or you are teaching him not to respect the relationship you want with him. If you actively push to be his rebound, he will be worse off emotionally than he would be in a normal rebound. It sets him up to not deal with his feelings, and it sets you up to get hurt because he isn't in a place where he can commit to you like you want.
Give him some time and space, and hope that he comes around.
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