Wrist injury. Anyone had one and can advise me?
Q. Grrrrrr not a relationship question, but i wonder if anyone can help. I punched someone in self defence about 5 or 6 weeks ago. Wish i hadn't now because its done me no good!Woke the next day with a painful wrist. Thought its probably a sprain s...
A. 21 June 2008: Oh hum.
Good luck.
I'm sure it will be all right... and I don't want to panic you when it's probably completely unnecessary... BUT watch out for inflammation, bruising spreading, pains in other parts of your hand/arm, numb fingers etc etc.... (read in full...)
If I look at another guy's penis out of curiosity, does it mean I am gay?
Q. iam 16 years old, sometimes i have some curiousity to look at other's guy's penis !but i am not gay i wondered if is it mean that i am gay or someting ?and if is it a normal thing ?plz helpe me guys and thanks ...
A. 21 June 2008: Being curious about another guy's penis means you're curious about another guy's penis.
What would you rather look at, a naked man or a naked woman?
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Do you think it's the right decision/necessary for me to know details of his affair?
Q. I've been very contemplative about this question. I have so many questions in my head all the time that all I do is just think about them. A part of me says that I do want to know EVERYTHING (times, places, who they were with, who knew, what i...
A. 20 June 2008: You probably don't want a man's view on this do you? Anyway, from what you say, you've already made up your mind.
Well, I think the details will make it worse. I think you need to know that it's not going to happen again, and you need to know ... (read in full...)
Do straight men enjoy watching other men masturbate? Is that right?
Q. My boyfriend just told me that he liked to watch other men masturbate, is that right? I've caught him watching porn on TV with just a man masturbating..do straight men enjoy this?...
A. 18 June 2008: Generally, no. Most straight men don't like that.
But the range of sexual desires, likes and dislikes is very broad.
It takes all sorts. If he finds it interesting, then that's just something he finds interesting. No problem.... (read in full...)
Wrist injury. Anyone had one and can advise me?
Q. Grrrrrr not a relationship question, but i wonder if anyone can help. I punched someone in self defence about 5 or 6 weeks ago. Wish i hadn't now because its done me no good!Woke the next day with a painful wrist. Thought its probably a sprain s...
A. 18 June 2008: Go to your GP first. The A&E will probably turn you away if the injury didn't happen in the last 24 hours unless it's life-threatening - that's what they do here, I know from experience! The GP should refer you to the hospital by a telephone call ... (read in full...)
What makes a perfect dad?
Q. Hi me and my wife are having a child in October. Can anyone tell me what a dads role is? What makes a perfect dad? ...
A. 18 June 2008: A good Dad is someone who, when the kids are little, they say "I want to be like him."
Then when they're in their teens they say "I'm NEVER going to be like him."
And then, some time in their twenties or early thirties, they realise with abs... (read in full...)
I'm disgusted that he showed me a pic of him wearing my knickers!
Q. I've started seeing this guy, and he's great. We get on really well, enjoy spending time together, and the sex is fantastic.... we're really open about our sexuality, and we're both very comfortable in the bedroom, despite only being with eacho...
A. 17 June 2008: If you're turned off by it, tell him you're turned off - and he probably won't do it again.
Don't get stressed by it - if you want to know more about what he's thinking then just ask him. It might be that he has a "thing" about wearing women's ... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't enjoy sex - how can I make it better for her?
Q. I am married for one year. My wife is very sexy and loving.But the problem is she feels lot of pain during intercourse.I haven't done yet full insertion because she screams in pain when I try to go into her full.So far I have to content with oral ...
A. 17 June 2008:
Try intercourse with her on her back and her legs together after you've done a minimum of fifteen to thirty minutes foreplay.
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She says the affair "just happened" what does it mean?
Q. My wife had an affair. We have tried to talk about it, and she said 'it just happened'. What does this mean. Is she putting it down to the hand of God. I've pressed her on the point but she maintains it just happened. Explain please....
A. 17 June 2008: When she says it "just happened", I would think she means she has no rational explanation for what she did. Quite probably it makes no more sense to her than it does to you.
That doesn't mean that she's saying she's not to blame or that some all... (read in full...)
Do you think it's okay for a 19 year old to party till late or travel to a different city with friends?
Q. I would like to know your opininon for the following question 1) Do you think its okay for a 19 year old to party out with her friends until late in the night (say about 3 am) 2) Does she have the right to plan a trip with her friends to a dif...
A. 17 June 2008: So tell them.
You're an adult. You make your own decisions - but, being an adult, you also consider the consequences. You learn to deal with difficult people, in this case your parents.
Approach it from an adult point of view, because if... (read in full...)
How can I improve communication with my girlfriend? Right now it is all a physical relationship, but we need to learn to talk to eachother!
Q. I've been with my girlfriend about six weeks. Without doubt, what's best about our relationship is the physical aspect. When she is in my arms we seem to melt into one another and my mind floats away. When we wake up together naturally entwined ...
A. 17 June 2008: Enjoy it. Once a woman starts talking, you can NEVER shut her up (and, if you take my advice, you'll never try to shut her up!)
Of course you have to talk, have converstions, discuss your future, but there's absolutely no need to rush it. Loo... (read in full...)
Do you think it's okay for a 19 year old to party till late or travel to a different city with friends?
Q. I would like to know your opininon for the following question 1) Do you think its okay for a 19 year old to party out with her friends until late in the night (say about 3 am) 2) Does she have the right to plan a trip with her friends to a dif...
A. 17 June 2008: Yes.
But if you live in your parent's house they have every right to say you can't be coming in at 3am. Their house, their rules. When you have your own space you can do what you like.... (read in full...)
What about sex in a pool with a condom?
Q. Does chlorine actually kill sperm? And what's the deal with having sex in a pool with a condom? Is it possible and is it safe? And is sex in a pool even worth it? I really want to do it but I can't see it happening with a condom on.....
A. 17 June 2008: Sex in a pool is wonderful.
It's even better in the sea at midnight.
But yes, it's not worth the risk - it's just not going to be safe. You can't count on chlorine killing the sperm quickly enough, and a condom just doesn't work when you ar... (read in full...)
I want to tease my boyfriend down the phone. Any ideas?
Q. I want to really tease my boyfriend down the phone. I know it sounds silly but has anyone got ideas?? ...
A. 15 June 2008: Aw.
Um.
Hum.
DiovanLestat!!!
So which one of your two options have you done?
DON'T TELL ME.
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Can a guy and a girl really be just friends?
Q. Can a guy and a girl really be just friends? And by friends, I mean more then just talk and hang out in the same group. I mean have a proper friendship. Can they be best friends? So far in my life, at age of 19, I havent been able to have that. An...
A. 15 June 2008: Absolutely they can.
I think I would have found it far more difficult when I was younger. The lust would have overtaken the common sense. But now I have several really great, close friends who are women.
It does depend on your relationshi... (read in full...)
Am I bi or just confused and curious?
Q. hey, i think i might be bi. you see i really really like guys but in the past year i have started getting turned on by girls (i am also a girl) but only certian girls like ones i have known for a while. an example is me and my bff (she is bi) i ha...
A. 15 June 2008: There are dozens of similar questions here - and I've answered several of them, so I'll give you the abbreviated version:
Your sexuality is changing at your age. Wait a bit before you "label" it. No rush.
Experiment, a little. Not too... (read in full...)
Am I straight but curious or could I be gay? Please Help
Q. Well.....I wanna straight to the point. I am in college now. I had been labeling myself as straight, but recently I have a strong feeling to my bbf. Yeah, we such a really good friends. I do love to be around her. She always makes me happy. We both ...
A. 15 June 2008: Why are you "scared to death" about the possibility of being gay? Or bi?
You are what you are. Explore the feelings, the relationships, and enjoy the exploration. In the end it's the person that you settle with who matters, not which sex they... (read in full...)
Risks that come with often masturbating?
Q. hello i have heard that when you masturbate a lot and you do it more than once a day your penis could bleed and hurt when you urinate. Is this true? And is there anything close to that which could happen?...
A. 15 June 2008: No. It won't cause that sort of problem (or any sort of problem) unless you have something else wrong with you.
And Dr Vendetta is wrong on this one. Masturbating with sandpaper wrapped around it WON'T make it bleed when you urinate. It... (read in full...)
Do I tell the truth to my friend's mother about the necklace my friend shoplifted?
Q. okay so my friend shoplifted an expensive necklace a week ago and i didnt say anything, but i think her mother is suspicious,and i am going to go to her house in two days when her mother is going to be there and i think that she might end up talking ...
A. 15 June 2008: If your friend makes a habit of shoplifting, then she needs to be stopped before she gets herself into real trouble - so yes, telling her mother is by far the best option.
If this really was a silly one-off, then I suggest you persuade her to p... (read in full...)
He said he's never doing it again!!
Q. my boyfiend went down on me last night...he said i was the first girl he ever did that to...but he said he would never do it again....he said he only did it to prove to me how much he loves me....i think its just somethin wrong wit me down there and ...
A. 15 June 2008: Some men just don't like doing that - just like some women just don't like giving blowjobs. Personally I love it. I'd spend hours down there if I had the chance!! I think also that often when men don't like it, it's not a physical thing at all - ... (read in full...)
Is this just a bad patch or should I consider ending it?
Q. I am starting to think that I have fallen out of love with my boyfriend. We have been together for over a year and lately it seems that everything he does irritates me, even his breathing. I am insecure about his ex as he still has a picture ...
A. 14 June 2008: It's difficult to give an opinion you from the limited information you've given, but it sounds to me like you've already made up your mind that it's not working.
If you aren't absolutely sure, then instead of trying to talk to him quietly (you've ... (read in full...)
What should I do about this man?
Q. Hi, I'm 14 years old - nearly 15. I would like to think of myself of being exceedingly mature for my sge (if slightly unbalanced!) I know that every single person on here is going to scream at me when I say this, but I will anyway - I tend to go for ...
A. 14 June 2008: Do you hear me screaming at you? Not at all. Many girls find older men attractive. I would only mention, as forcefully as I can without putting you off reading the rest of what I have to say, that emotions and understanding of people and ... (read in full...)
Can you have a mid-life crisis in your 30s?
Q. My question might be kinda silly. I am wondering if men have midlife crisis in their mid thirties and if they do, does it last forever? ...
A. 14 June 2008: Yes.
No.
In that order.
Next question?... (read in full...)
I've hit her and cheated on her but want to change and win her back. Please help.
Q. I had been with my girlfriend for 3 years, throughout the relationship I was never faithful. I know what you are thinking, here we go another cheat who wants forgiveness, but in my eyes Im not that person. I could never fully open up to my girlfr...
A. 14 June 2008: I think you should try to forget her and move on to someone else.
That may sound harsh and I can see from what you said that you are trying to change, but trying to consider what's likely to be best for you for the future it just has to be a rel... (read in full...)
Can men please tell me why they watch porn? Is it because of disatisfaction with you partner?
Q. i have a question and i wish that most of the man can answer this. is woman or girl friend or wife needs to be jealous or angry or be mad or upset to their man when they are watching porn. do we woman needs to worry about it? what is you man ...
A. 14 June 2008: No, women don't need to be jealous, or worried, or scared, or concerned.
Would you be concerned that because your man watches war movies he's going to rush off to become a soldier?
Would you be concerned that because your man watches crime mo... (read in full...)
Do 'R'-rates movies turn guys on?
Q. Hi! I'm a 17 yo girl and have just started going out with this amazingly sweet, cute, shy boy whose had no experience with girls whatsoever. this isn't a strictly "relationship" question---but... when guys are watching a very--err--rated R movie ...
A. 14 June 2008: How often do they get hard from that?
Every time.
When I was 17 the mere thought of a desirable female in a suggestive situation would have been more than enough. I'm fairly sure I'm not unique.
It takes a little more these days. Just a... (read in full...)
Whenever I drink I cannot get an erection-why?
Q. So I've noticed that whenver I drink I cannot get an erection. I'm just shy of 18 so I figure this shouldn't be happening to me yet, and I've already talked to my buddies and they don't have the same problem. But I cannot even drink a few ...
A. 13 June 2008: Yes it's normal. It affects different people to different degrees. Alcohol quite definitely decreases the ability to "perform"!
In fact, this is something that's been written about by someone very knowledgable about such matters, many, many yea... (read in full...)
Is "spoke and wheel" a sex position, and if so, can you enlighten me?
Q. I have recently heard the term "Spoke and Wheel". It is clearly a reference to a sex position but one I have never heard of previously. Can you enlighten me?...
A. 13 June 2008: Perhaps it was mentioning the spoke-and-wheel position that did it. It took weeks to recover last time.
Or perhaps it was eyeswideopen's butt plug. It wasn't a vibrating butt plug was it, eyeswideopen? Or one that you attach to a TENS unit?
... (read in full...)
Is "spoke and wheel" a sex position, and if so, can you enlighten me?
Q. I have recently heard the term "Spoke and Wheel". It is clearly a reference to a sex position but one I have never heard of previously. Can you enlighten me?...
A. 12 June 2008: Perhaps we could write another one? I know a publisher who would take it...... (read in full...)
Am I shallow? What do I do?
Q. i have started getting to know this guy. he is reeeeally nice and really really sweet and says just the right things that make me flutter... buuut i have doubts. they appear fairly shallow, though, and this concerns me. he is rather careful in what ...
A. 12 June 2008: No, you're not shallow, just over-sensitive. And he's nervous of pushing too hard because, like many young men, he's probably scared of being rejected.
Dress sense? Well, I know that youngsters are probably a thousand times more dress-co... (read in full...)
Is "spoke and wheel" a sex position, and if so, can you enlighten me?
Q. I have recently heard the term "Spoke and Wheel". It is clearly a reference to a sex position but one I have never heard of previously. Can you enlighten me?...
A. 12 June 2008: Actually, Tisha, there have been many occasions when I would have liked to tell someone or other here that they could "stick it up their a***", so unfortunately when eyes gave me the opportunity to say it with impunity, it was too good to resist!
... (read in full...)
What are anti-depressants?
Q. what are anti-depressants? My dad told me that they make you happier. I would like to go on them if thats the case but I'm too scared to ask for help. I've been depressed for a long time now. I really need help!...
A. 12 June 2008: Anti-depressants are potentially very dangerous drugs and only (in the UK at least) prescribed by a doctor when he is absolutely sure they are necessary. They are NOT something to be taken just to "make you happier". Most of them work by altering ... (read in full...)
Is "spoke and wheel" a sex position, and if so, can you enlighten me?
Q. I have recently heard the term "Spoke and Wheel". It is clearly a reference to a sex position but one I have never heard of previously. Can you enlighten me?...
A. 12 June 2008: Well, eyeswideopen, I suppose the answer to you would be up your a*** (or a** for those in the USA). I didn't think a butt plug was included for that particular manoeuvre, but I'm always happy to be corrected.
As I said, it never worked for me. ... (read in full...)
Is "spoke and wheel" a sex position, and if so, can you enlighten me?
Q. I have recently heard the term "Spoke and Wheel". It is clearly a reference to a sex position but one I have never heard of previously. Can you enlighten me?...
A. 12 June 2008: Um... yes.
Do you want details?
A quick summary... think of the point of insertion as the hub of the wheel, your arms and legs as the spokes of the wheel, and then... well, just do as a wheel does.
It never worked for me
:(... (read in full...)
Do you think I should speak to my boyfriend about my lesbian fantasy? He has suggested a FMF before...
Q. I really want to have a lesbian experience just to see if I am bi or not At the moment I'm with a wonderful guy but feel myself fantasising about women more and more. I've always felt this way really, when I was about 12 or 13 I used to play a g...
A. 12 June 2008: Well, if you don't ask him then you'll never know (and that goes for the tying him to the bed too!!).
It sounds to me like you're as level-headed about this as anyone is likely to ever be, so I wish you the very best of luck in being able to do wh... (read in full...)
My family disapproves of my husband because of his race, now they want to come see our new baby!
Q. My family does not approve of my husband because he is another race. I married him anyways because I love him and he loves me. I just had a baby in April and now my family decides they want to talk to me and see the baby. I have said no because I am ...
A. 12 June 2008: Just spotted this one - so my answer may be too late.
Anyway, I thought I ought to add to the other replies that yes, you should let your parents come to see your baby. It may well be the first step in rebuilding the important relation... (read in full...)
Do you think I should speak to my boyfriend about my lesbian fantasy? He has suggested a FMF before...
Q. I really want to have a lesbian experience just to see if I am bi or not At the moment I'm with a wonderful guy but feel myself fantasising about women more and more. I've always felt this way really, when I was about 12 or 13 I used to play a g...
A. 12 June 2008: Oh all right then! She reckons you should tie your boyfriend to the bed while you and your friend have your fun so he can't interfere - and then sort him out when you've finished! Too much for most people, I fear, but it does have a sort of kinky ... (read in full...)
Do you think I should speak to my boyfriend about my lesbian fantasy? He has suggested a FMF before...
Q. I really want to have a lesbian experience just to see if I am bi or not At the moment I'm with a wonderful guy but feel myself fantasising about women more and more. I've always felt this way really, when I was about 12 or 13 I used to play a g...
A. 12 June 2008: I think one of you will probably end up really jealous one way or another whether he joins in or whether you do it and he doesn't.
It might work, but do be very, very careful that he really feels comfortable with it before you actually do anything... (read in full...)
Am I going in the right direction if I want to lose weight?
Q. i have a health problem as told from other people and i know this myself. i am quite over weight lets say around 45 pounds overweight and it's been 4 years since i was in great shape. now i am not in great shape. i've been thinking about my weight ...
A. 12 June 2008: Just a couple of things to add -
The exercise you are taking, particularly the weight lifting, will build muscle. That's good, but you need to remember that muscle weighs more than fat (lots more!) so don't be put off by the result when you stan... (read in full...)
Does this mean I'm a lesbian or Bi?
Q. I'm 15 and i go to a all girls school, there is this one girl who has a really short hair cut and i thought was guy, and since she looks like a guy i can't help but get all nervous when i see her, i think i have a crush on her. Does that mean I'm ...
A. 12 June 2008: No, no and no.
It doesn't mean you are lesbian or bi. It doesn't mean you are not lesbian or bi. It simply means that at this particular time you find that particular person particularly desirable.
At 15 your sexuality may not be fully dev... (read in full...)
Is it weird that I fancy transvestites?
Q. Is it weird that I fancy transvestites? I am a 19yo female in a loving realtionship but I keep fantasising about trannies and have started masterbating watching this porn.. Is this normal or just weird?...
A. 12 June 2008: Not particularly "weird". Just one of those things that some people like.
You say you are in a loving relationship? Presumably with a man? (Yeah, I know that's a big presumption, but you don't say otherwise). If men dressing in women's clothes ... (read in full...)
My sister gets me into trouble all the time. what do I do?
Q. I really need help on this.... Family problem really. Well im 13 and my sister is 9 and we have to share a room. I hate her. Soon as i tidy our room she trashes it or Soon as i tidy the room my mum looks at it then tells me its still a mes...
A. 11 June 2008: Yes. I know. Little sisters are really, really annoying and ALWAYS get you into trouble.
Do you want the BAD news? It doesn't get any better. My little sister is three years younger than me. I'm now 51 and she's STILL really, really annoying... (read in full...)
Do you think I should speak to my boyfriend about my lesbian fantasy? He has suggested a FMF before...
Q. I really want to have a lesbian experience just to see if I am bi or not At the moment I'm with a wonderful guy but feel myself fantasising about women more and more. I've always felt this way really, when I was about 12 or 13 I used to play a g...
A. 11 June 2008: It has to be your decision, and it has to be a decision that you have thought long and hard about.
Don't rush it.
Try to decide what is really important to you and to your long term aims in life. Sex and sexuality is important, certa... (read in full...)
Do you think I should speak to my boyfriend about my lesbian fantasy? He has suggested a FMF before...
Q. I really want to have a lesbian experience just to see if I am bi or not At the moment I'm with a wonderful guy but feel myself fantasising about women more and more. I've always felt this way really, when I was about 12 or 13 I used to play a g...
A. 11 June 2008: I think you should be very careful with this, and be absolutely sure of your feelings before you do any of it. Work through all the possible scenarios of what might happen in your head first.
Threesomes do work for some people. For many others t... (read in full...)
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