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writes: Well.....I wanna straight to the point. I am in college now. I had been labeling myself as straight, but recently I have a strong feeling to my bbf. Yeah, we such a really good friends. I do love to be around her. She always makes me happy. We both are really close to each other, last night she slept over to my house because her parents were going out down town. We shared bed together. Because it was so damn cold she asked me to hug her. And I did it, then she kissed my lips. I don`t like to admit it, yeah she is so great. I enjoyed the kiss, I can`t forget the taste of her lips until now. It makes me feel so weird....why me?. I had kissed my boyfriend, but this girl don`t give the same effect on me. I think.....I love girls more than guys. does it mean I am a gay.....?. I know I do love her. I can`t get this girl out of my mind. I always think about her all the time, and I kind of forget my boyfriend. She`s the great person that i`ve ever met my whole life. It happens she`s a bi, and I would go for her but I am scare to death for being a gay. Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2008): first distinguish if it is sexual love, or amical love. That takes priority. If it is sexual love then you probably are bi , as you seem to have straight tendencies (as you have a boyfriend). As she is your bestfriend naturally you are going to be that close, and it is not unusual for bestfriends to share the same bed and hug, mabye this is new for you though, and your confusing it as feelings.
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reader, Peterk5699 +, writes (15 June 2008):
Are you attracted to any other girls you know or just her? If so then you could be bi. It doesn't matter what your orientation is though.
If you love your boyfriend and want to stay with him then it must mean you are either straight, bi or just curious. I'd think its the latter. You're close to your best friend and thats fine, nothing wrong with it.
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reader, Uncle Sneaker +, writes (15 June 2008):
Why are you "scared to death" about the possibility of being gay? Or bi?
You are what you are. Explore the feelings, the relationships, and enjoy the exploration. In the end it's the person that you settle with who matters, not which sex they happen to be. If you are lucky enough to be bisexual then you simply have twice as many potential partners to choose from as the rest of us. The only real downside is that if you settle for a girl rather than a boy then the business of having children later (if you want to) becomes somewhat more complicated.
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