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writes:my boyfiend went down on me last night...he said i was the first girl he ever did that to...but he said he would never do it again....he said he only did it to prove to me how much he loves me....i think its just somethin wrong wit me down there and he just doesnt wanna tell me...and when he did it...it was only about 2 minutes and thats it....can u help me to figure out the problem??thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2008):
BINGO - - -a few of the answers I just read were RIGHT-ON. Why don't a woman or some women wise up and learn how to wash " down there" ? The one thing that turns me and any man off is to smell a "fish market" or worse yet to discover that area wasn't washed after getting up from the toilet ! ! ! WHAT A TURN OFF. Myself and most men I think would be ashamed if any Oder other than a very NICE smell permeated my entire body while with a woman. You know something like " Brut Splash-on". Perhaps it should be a 101 course in the upper grades as the parents don't seem able to teach such things at home - - - then when THEY are grown they are lost as to what's happened. I'm an old man and been married over ten years and can't tell my wife this because she takes it as an offence and becomes impossible to live with. This only brings problems into a relationship - - even a marriage. [ I wish what I just wrote could be shown in great big letters on every TV screen for all to see ]
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2008): He sounds like a silly young kid to be honest, if he puts it to you in such a blunt manner. Okay, okay, I know not all guys like it, but they could at least give you a reason?! If there was a problem with you down there, he could at least have the decency to say so. Do you wash down there every day, maybe moisturise? Are you shaved, or trimmed?
But in my honest opinion, I reckon he got half way down there and FINALLY cottoned on to the fact most vaginas aren't like those you see in porn movies, and wanted to turn back but stuck it out. Wait til you're a bit older, and find a more mature man with mature thoughts. Good luck.
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reader, Uncle Sneaker  +, writes (15 June 2008):
 Some men just don't like doing that - just like some women just don't like giving blowjobs. Personally I love it. I'd spend hours down there if I had the chance!! I think also that often when men don't like it, it's not a physical thing at all - not the smell, taste, feel. It's a mental objection that it's somehow "dirty", and that is probably something he can get over in time if you give him lots of encouragement.
Why don't you ask him what it was he didn't like about it? It might be something you can put right,like shaving, or washing more thoroughly just before he does it, or even something a little more "interesting" like covering it with whipped cream!!!!!
And, it's just occurred to me, getting the position right is important. It can be very uncomfortable on the back of the neck trying to get your head at the right angle to give the attention to the right bits, if you see what I mean. Think about that one too and ask him, because it could be as simple as that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2008): c3c3znumba1, don't make generalisations. I don't hate doing it at all! Quite like it , actually. It's a matter of personal opinion, some guys may not like it, some may.
Also, there is absolutely NO point going to a gynaecologist unless there is actually something noticeably wrong (ie discharge is a wierd colour/you smell really strong/whatever. If you go to one and say 'my bf doesn't like going down on me, what's wrong?' then you will be wasting their time. You have to ASK him why he won't do it again - if he then says that in fact, you have green discharge/you smell like a fishing boat, THEN go to the gyny.
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reader, c3c3znumba1 +, writes (15 June 2008):
he might not have liked the taste. Believe it or not guys hate going down on girls as much as girls hate goig down on guys and if you still feel that there may be something see a OB/GYN they can help.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (15 June 2008):
Well he's probably only seen them up close in porn before so he's expecting you to be free of hair and totally symmetrical and pink and smell free.
Unfortunately all girls have hair down there and they all have a smell and they all have a taste. Your age is quite young so he's probably just freaked out by the whole thing. My first boy did the same thing.
Remind him that sperm doesn't exactly come in mint choc chip flavour and say that it's fine if he doesn't want to go down on you as you just won't go down on him - it's only fair.
I'm still a bit nervous about it with my husband and will only really let him do it after I've come straight from the shower.
Don't worry about yourself, he's the one with the problem.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2008): Well, I'm not being funny, but do you properly wash down there? I mean inside and out.Also, do you trim your hair down there? Just, less hair can make it much nicer for the guy - hair in the mouth is never nice.
However, this is just conjecture. You need to ask him why - don't interrogate him, just say that you really want to know what it is that put him off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2008): Basically all guys have different preferences, my boyfriend of 2 years doesnt go down on me unless its a 'speical' occasion coz he wants to show how much he loves me. he just doesnt like the taste or smell...which is fair enough.
Theres nothing wrong with you and if u want him to go down on u more tell him how good it is and how it makes u feel..if he doesnt reconsider then either think about if u can live with that. If he refuses to go down on u then dont give him head...its that simple...just do it once and say u only did it to prove how much u love him...if he asks why u wont do it again just say u dont want to.
maybe he will understand more.
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (15 June 2008):
Some guys just are not comfortable doing that. Just like some girls aren't ok with giving head. You cant force him if he doesn't like it. Just do what you are both comfortable doing. There isn't anything wrong with you it is just what he perfers
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