I'm confused about what "true love" is?
Q. I just have a question about the definition/s of "true love". I've dated many guys but I never felt as strongly as I did about my ex. We were together for a year. He was 2 years younger than me (16). I would have done anything for him and I always...
A. 1 July 2014: It happens to many of us. We fall madly in love with a person but it is not reciprocated. In your case, you were really into your ex, you stayed with him though you felt unloved at times, you accepted everything. You were his doormat. You have loved ... (read in full...)
This married woman thinks she is a beauty queen!
Q. I would like to have your opinions on this woman. She is married but because she is unhappy in her couple, she feels she can cheat her husband. Well, she thinks that she is a beauty queen even though she is not. She says that she can have any man ...
A. 29 June 2014: Well she did say bad comments when i was around. She said that many women are proud that they have big breasts but she finds hanging breasts ugly. I have rather big breasts. I am sure she wanted to pinpoint me. I just find it irrational that a woman ... (read in full...)
Serious relationship for 2 years. Yet he flirts. He says he doesn't want to be mean or hurt their feelings. But what about my feelings?
Q. As much as I love my boyfriend I seem to have a problem with something - the way he acts with other woman. My boyfriend is what most people would call a 'natural flirt' and honestly it bothers me a lot. We live in a small town and he knows a lot ...
A. 28 June 2014: Men like this will make you feel inadequate for your whole life. When you get0older, he will look at other younger women and you will feel miserable inside. There is a high chance that he will cheat because when a man flirts with a woman, he is ... (read in full...)
It's like I don't exist when his child is visiting
Q. Hi everyone. I would like to ask for advice on dealing with my boyfriends behaviour. We have been together 3 years, not living together. He is fun and good company, cooks meals and helps clean up, he is attractive and we seem to have had good ...
A. 28 June 2014: Why do you have to be so possesive? He is being a good father to his child. He spends time with you, quality time i mean. Now when he wants to be withghis child, you complain? Your world seems to revolve around him. His child is precious to him. He ... (read in full...)
This married woman thinks she is a beauty queen!
Q. I would like to have your opinions on this woman. She is married but because she is unhappy in her couple, she feels she can cheat her husband. Well, she thinks that she is a beauty queen even though she is not. She says that she can have any man ...
A. 28 June 2014: Thanks for your answers. I get a lot of male attention but it is true that the way she boasts about herself do make me feel insecure. I am very friendly with a male colleague. I am not interested in him but he is. This lady started to befriend him. ... (read in full...)
What's this woman's problem with me?
Q. Can i ask a question here for other women please, i usually dress with jeans and a low cut top, or if am wearing a skirt i make sure my chest is fully covered, so i don't think i dress trashy at all tbh, i look around at girls my own age and are all ...
A. 27 June 2014: Clearly, this woman is just jealous of. As a woman, i can recognise signs of jealousy. She feels insecure by your presence because you are younger than her and more attractive... (read in full...)
This married woman thinks she is a beauty queen!
Q. I would like to have your opinions on this woman. She is married but because she is unhappy in her couple, she feels she can cheat her husband. Well, she thinks that she is a beauty queen even though she is not. She says that she can have any man ...
A. 27 June 2014: I just wanted to understand her behaviour. She has annoyed me with her comments when i am around. And i really find that only a sick person can believe that she can make any man fall for her. We all have our preferences, our tastes and no one can ... (read in full...)
How do I act toward my crush? I'll be visiting his workplace soon!
Q. How do I act around a crush, given that I choose "accidently on purpose" to be where he works and stand the possibilty of being served by him. I don't live in that town, but I used to go there often...I really want to see if he'll chat me up...
A. 31 May 2014: I agree with tisha. Why do you think you will degrade yourself by asking hhim out? Take your chance. Don't let your fear of rejection make you miss an opportunity. If you don't want to be obvious, you can ask him to go to watch a movie or hang ... (read in full...)
I should cut the cord, because it is better to have good memories than bad!
Q. Hi, I had a very bad break up a year ago and then after six months. I met a man who is 20 years elder to me and he was interested in me and we soon shared a very understanding relationship. we were very clear that we did not want to make a seriou...
A. 31 May 2014: You got attached to a man you have never met? Your need of affection made you attached to him. He is older than you, more mature. Thats why you felt this way. He is married? Why are you with this man? Apparently, he cannot bmd trusted and he is ... (read in full...)
No strings attached sex with coworker - could this progress into more?
Q. Dear agony aunts, I need to understand how men's mind work... There's this guy at work I go out with sometimes. We both made it clear that we don't want to be in a relationship and that "it's just sex, no strings attached". I know mys...
A. 25 May 2014: Hello. When i saw your question, i thought that i'm in a similar situation. I have been asking myself the same question and the answers have really been of great help. If he really wanted to have a relationship with you, he would have treated you ... (read in full...)
No strings attached sex with coworker - could this progress into more?
Q. Dear agony aunts, I need to understand how men's mind work... There's this guy at work I go out with sometimes. We both made it clear that we don't want to be in a relationship and that "it's just sex, no strings attached". I know mys...
A. 25 May 2014: Hello. When i saw your question, i thought that i'm in a similar situation. I have been asking myself the same question and the answers have really been of great help. If he really wanted to have a relationship with you, he would have treated you ... (read in full...)
Does it seem like he's into me or not?
Q. I'm 18 and have been seeing a guy (21) for the past 3 months or so. He lives about 40 minutes away from me and he has 2 jobs. I really like him but I have my doubts that he is really interested in me. I just wanna say the positive and negative ...
A. 24 May 2014: You Said that he never had any girlfriend before. This may explain why he does not have confidence enough to be more intimate with you. I think he is interested in you as he has taken the time and made the effort to get to know you. Since you told ... (read in full...)
If he feels he can't be with me, then why did he tell me he likes me?
Q. Hello. Feelings just happen, and have for me been like this for quite some time. I have a crush for a man but he is married. I kept my feelings to myself. I guess he also feels the same. We have always been professional. Recently while he ...
A. 23 May 2014: Thanks for making me realise my mistake. I agree that as a female, i will get attached. As a woman, if anything happen between us, i will start to develop fefeelings for him. Nothing has happened yet. I pray that one fine day i stop feeling this way ... (read in full...)
Confused by this lady
Q. Hi all, I have met this woman she's 39 and I'm 38, things had been going really well over the last month or so but then she told me she has fallen in love with me and would love to spend her future with me, I'm not scared off or anything but she ...
A. 13 April 2014: Due to her past she has become very vulnerable. A person who is happy one minute and unhappy the next may be deppressed. She wants to be reassured that you love her as she needs reassurance. At three months its too early to talk on moving together. ... (read in full...)
Does it seem like he's into me or not?
Q. I'm 18 and have been seeing a guy (21) for the past 3 months or so. He lives about 40 minutes away from me and he has 2 jobs. I really like him but I have my doubts that he is really interested in me. I just wanna say the positive and negative ...
A. 13 April 2014: You Said that he never had any girlfriend before. This may explain why he does not have confidence enough to be more intimate with you. I think he is interested in you as he has taken the time and made the effort to get to know you. Since you told ... (read in full...)
Do I confront him or ignore him when he makes these snide comments?
Q. Dearcupid, ive just stopped seeing a guy that i never should have seen in the first place. I was very lonely and his company made me feel good. The relationship started off great but it ended. I kno i am better off witout him. He had a lot of ...
A. 12 April 2014: He is trying to provoke you. Make you see that he is happy without you and that your break ug did not affect him. In fact he is the one who is suffering more. He is just putting a show and wants to make you jealous. Ignore him, dont react to his ... (read in full...)
Are cheaters always cheaters?
Q. My ex constantly cheated when we were dating. I was even the one he cheated on his ex with. I forgave him everytime because I loved him and thought he loved me to death according to the commitment he gave and he would beg his parents and friends to ...
A. 9 April 2014: I think that men who cheat once will do it again whenever they get the opportunity. You continued to date a man who has cheated you so kany times. You should have more respect for yourself and love yourself more. To cheat is a choice
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I was flattered that he watched me, then I saw him looking at others too
Q. Hello. I would like to have your opinions as i really don't know how to take it. I guess he may be interested in me. When i talk to him during lunch time, i notice that when a woman will pass by he will fix her, follow her with his eyes. He does the ...
A. 17 February 2014: Thank u very much 4 your replies. Yea i too i believe that when a man is interested in a woman and she's in front of him, he won't be checking out another woman. This is truly disrespectful & inconsiderate. He does not deserve my appreciation at all... (read in full...)
I asked him a question and he can't give me an answer. What do I do?
Q. Hello cupid members, there is a guy friend of mine that I recently asked the questions of whether or not he sees us more than friends and if we could ever be more. His response was a plain 'i don't know' and we never finished the conversation to ...
A. 25 August 2013: I will try to interpret his behaviour for you. A guy instantly knows whether he wants to be more than friends with a girl. If he wanted to be more than friends, he would have shown signs that he likes you. You gathered your courage and accepted to ... (read in full...)
Should I write a letter to my crush expressing my feelings?
Q. Hello everyone, I have a big crush for someone. He's a Police Inspector and he helps me in my work. Well, I'm not in the police sector but my work consists of prosecuting environmental offences. I never intended it and never wanted it, it just hap...
A. 25 August 2013: Thank you very much for your great answers. Fatherly advice, you are right, I don't want to approach him as I'm afraid that he says no and this will hurt me. According to all of you, writing a letter sounds creepy and preteen. I agree with you. If I ... (read in full...)
I feel that he's an insecure person who wants to possess me as soon as possible and he is not ready to give me time.
Q. Hello, I am in a situation that I don't know what to do. I will consider your advice very carefully. Due to bad investments, I happened to lose a lot of money. I have always been close to a friend and I shared it with him without any bad intentio...
A. 5 June 2013: thank you for your answers which really helped me. It's no use pursuing this relationship as he's too afraid that i don't become his wife. My problem is not his concern. All he wants is to make sure he gets me. Yea, i will find help somewhere else. ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex calling me and hurting me when he doesn't want us to be together?
Q. Dear Cupid My bf broke up with me few days back, he called me today, i thought he is gonna give this relationship another chance took his call, stupid of me. He said as far as he is concerned i dont exist and cut the call. Why does he have t...
A. 18 February 2013: This shows that he's very disturbed with your break up. After break ups the first feeling that people feel is anger. You did not say the reason you broke up. Maybe he thinks that you are responsible for the break up. He's angry that's all and wants ... (read in full...)
I've liked this guy for a long time but don't think he feels the same. Do I tell him or walk away?
Q. I have been attracted to this guy for quite a long time now, i think he knows it but i dont think he feels the same way about me. I used to speak with him online just as friends and really liked his personality, he was very deep and i just really e...
A. 1 February 2013: Please go ahead and tell him. Don't be afraid to express your feelings. If you don't tell him, these untold things will always bother you. And if you don't tell him, you will always regret. Nothing comes to a person who does not take any risks. ... (read in full...)
I can't read him anymore
Q. Hello all, so I am going to apologize in advance for the length of my story/question. Anyway, so I recently started college last fall and I met this guy in December. We were at a party in the dorms and we were drinking and having a good time and we ...
A. 1 February 2013: This guy seems to be undecided and he himself does not know what he wants. Please, don't read into these signs too much as all he wants maybe only to keep you in his net and not let you go. He wants your attention, he wants to keep you in his life ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is hot and cold...any advice would be helpful!!
Q. my boyfriend and i were dating for a little over a year when he broke up with me saying he didnt want to be in a relationship anymore and that he was unhappy. i was so confused and hurt we never had any major issues between us. i was devastated. ...
A. 28 January 2013: Your Bf is only thinking of himself in this relationship. He behaves as he wants. He said that your relationship has not changed but did he tell you what are the problems with your relationship which makes him unhappy. Or he does not even know what ... (read in full...)
How can I move on without him?
Q. My bf and I broke up last year and I still can't get over him. Our relationship was very complicated and we both had issues. Still I go to bed every night wishing he would call/text or email me something. I have never felt this way. I feel alone ...
A. 28 January 2013: One year has passed and I think you know very well that your relationship is over but the problem is that your subconcious mind cannot accept it. When you say that you wait for his text etc, you are still keeping hope that by a miracle he comes back ... (read in full...)
What can you suggest? I'm faithful always, but I feel like she holding my sex life hostage.
Q. I'm 29 and my girlfriend is 27. We've been together for 5 years, lived together for 4. Our relationship is and has been going well in most respects. We rarely argue and suit each other nicely. Unfortunately we have fairly different sex drives...
A. 9 December 2012: I think that the best way is to talk to her and let her know how awful you feel about it. This is driving you away from her. But as you rightly pointed out, you don't want her to do something as an obligation. She has to want it and it has to come ... (read in full...)
My sad and depressed moods are affecting my relationship.
Q. Hi everyone, I have been feeling sad and depressed for the past year and i don't know how to deal with it, i am always moody even my period has stopped coming regularly. I have started a new job about 4 months ago however its a long distance wi...
A. 29 November 2012: I can understand u very well since i am in such a relationship. My boyfriend is also very depressed and sad. As a result, his mood is always off. I can tell u that it's really driving me away... (read in full...)
I made a stupid mistake. How can I make things right again?
Q. My problem started last week, i made a stupid mistake a really stupid mistake.something i thought i would never do.and i regret it with all my heart . the only problem is that what i did affected someone very very close to me and no matter how ma...
A. 16 November 2012: Why don't you let her know how you are feeling right now? I think that if she reads your post, she'll surely understand how you regret what you did. You did nnot give any details what you did to her, so it will be difficult for us to understand very ... (read in full...)
I've never been turned down for sex in the middle of the night, I feel hurt! Am I over reacting?
Q. I'm so hurt it's unbelievable. I live with my boyfriend but went away abroad with my mum and sister for a week and got back last night. everyday we called and texted a lot, he told me all the time how he missed me and couldn't wait to see me. I've ...
A. 12 August 2012: Have you thought that he made love to you for one hour even if he was not in the mood? You are being too greedy and demanding. It can happen that a man is not in the mood as a man is not a machine that should always switch on when a woman wants him ... (read in full...)
To wish impossible things, What do you think of this situation?
Q. Love is a fickle thing sometimes. I love my friend, have for the past 7 years, but he doesn't love me. Recently, I introduced him to my best friend since childhood; they get along well together. Too well, as I found out about a week ago. A...
A. 12 August 2012: You have given seven long years of your life to this man and you seem to be getting very little in return. It's obvious that he considers you as only a close friend nothing more. I think that you should accept this and move on. Maybe, when you put a ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend's behavior normal or did he just use me?
Q. Dear cupid I am in LDR with my bf for past few months. I stay in a different country cause of work. I traveled 2 weeks before to my place to visit my parents and my bf. We had a very good time. He asked me to buy him few stuff from here, whi...
A. 12 August 2012: I think that asking you to buy stuff for him is far from being a gentleman. He has not used you, the problem is that he has not been courteous with you. Also, the fact that he did not call you before your departure and did not take your call, might ... (read in full...)
Do guys generally find the excitement wears off? Does it lead to needing to watch more and more kinky stuff?
Q. Hey, so I'm in a very happy relationship of 2 years with a girl I'd love to marry some day. Our sex life is amazing...great chemistry between us. But we only see each other maybe twice a week, and in between times, I have my moments of feeling ...
A. 14 July 2012: I think that you are just fed up watching all these porn movies. They no longer have any effect on you and it's good. Porn movies distort everything. Sex in real life is very different from what you see in porn movies and I'm sure you know it very ... (read in full...)
Can you tell the difference between love and lust?
Q. Dear all, Is it possible to be affectionate and miss someone a lot but not love them? I'm 5 months in a relationship and have developed strong feelings but I'm not sure if its love? What's the difference and how do you know? We currently on...
A. 13 July 2012: When you are in love, you know it. You think of the other person constantly. You meet the person but already start missing him or her as soon as you say good bye. The person becomes one of your priorities and you always find time for the person. ... (read in full...)
When can we become physically intimate?
Q. So I'm just curious as of what guys/girls think. At what point in a relationship should a guy and a girl start doing physical things / sexual things? I've been In a relationship for about two months is it too early for making out. Handjobs... ect? ...
A. 12 July 2012: well if both of you are ready to become intimate, then u shld go ahead. Maybe fooling around for a start and gradually move to more intimate things. There is no magic formula. It all depends on what you want. Discuss it with your gf... (read in full...)
What was he trying to tell me?
Q. Hi, So my boyfriend and I were laying on the couch watching a movie and he got a boner. Before I said anything he put my hand on his shorts to "tell me" he had one. Why did he do that? Just curious as of why, what was he trying to tell me? How B...
A. 11 July 2012: he was trying to incite you to caress him. He wanted you to caress him, i mean. Next time he does this caress him gently... (read in full...)
I have no sexual feelings for my partner
Q. Hi, me and my partner have been together 6 years with two children. The poblem is I just have no sexual feelings towards him atall. I dont want him near me,or to have sex ( maybe once every 2 months) and i hate kissing him. I feel terrible as he is ...
A. 10 July 2012: i can relate to you. I too i have a friend for whom i feel no sexual attraction but is a great person who treats me so well. Sexual attraction just has to be. If it was not there, it will never come. These are unfortunately emotions we cannot ... (read in full...)
Is this the behaviour of someone who is mentally disturbed?
Q. what do you think of this behaviour? Is this person mentally dirturbed? I just met a guy to whom i gave my mobile number. He immediately started to text me. He said he was really smitten by me. I barely know him but he started to tell me that he ...
A. 9 July 2012: Thanks a lot for your enlightening answers. I needed to understand so that i can move on. I have also came to the same conclusion. I just wanted to have the opinions of other people on this matter. He played with my feelings even if he said that he ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend acts like my mum!
Q. anyones gf act like your mum? LOL strange question i know, but at times my gf does this, just wana know if anyone else out there experience same thing, and what is the meaning behind it etc, is it a bad or good thing? is it psychological for women ...
A. 9 July 2012: it's not a bad thing. Your gf wants only to care for u and she's just being attentive to your needs... (read in full...)
The married man who I am seeing, accuses me of cheating on him!!
Q. I am absolutly livid and hope somebody can either 1) Persuade me I'm wrong or, 2) Prove me right! I have been seeing a man who is married for a while now and I have stayed faithfull since day one. He also tells me he doesn't sleep with his w...
A. 27 August 2011: What do you want, stay the other woman for the whole of your life by being loyal to a man who does not even have the courage to leave his wife. If this man really loved you, he would have wished better for you. He won't have a relationship with you ... (read in full...)
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