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writes:Hello. I would like to have your opinions as i really don't know how to take it. I guess he may be interested in me. When i talk to him during lunch time, i notice that when a woman will pass by he will fix her, follow her with his eyes. He does the same thing with me. He works on the ground floor. From there you can see people entering and going out of the building. So in the morning, he will be there although his office is upstairs, during lunch time, he'll be there. He always happens to be there just at the time he knows i'll pass there. So when he started to look at me, i got the impression that he likes me. But now that im seeing that he also look at this woman in front of me, i don't even want to approach him Reply to this Question
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reader, tibob +, writes (17 February 2014):
tibob is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank u very much 4 your replies. Yea i too i believe that when a man is interested in a woman and she's in front of him, he won't be checking out another woman. This is truly disrespectful & inconsiderate. He does not deserve my appreciation at all
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2014): I believe that if you were interested in someone, you would not be checking out others, while this person of interest is there talking to you. He is downright disrespectful. Unless, you don't care being with someone that in the future you are with and he's checking out the other women, then that's different. But, what woman would want a man checking out other women? not many of us would. So, stay clear of this perv. You might be setting yourself up for a heartbreak.Goodluck and take care Bella :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2014): He sounds like a girl-watcher, people-watcher at most. If he's interested; I think he'll approach you. If he doesn't, assume that he isn't.
Often we aunts and uncles encourage people to make the first move. How often anyone takes that advice, I guess we'll never know. You can expect children to crush in silence. We adults should have outgrown this shyness out of high school. We are thrust into society, and have little choice, but to sink or swim.
I myself am very hesitant about romantic ventures at work.
If things don't workout between people; there is a professional awkwardness, that employers rightfully cannot and will not tolerate. Off-premises is your time. Do whatever you please. At work, there is a fine line from sexual harassment. So flirting can be risky.
Why waste time wondering? Why so much ado about nothing?
Dummies who confuse aren't worth the trouble. There are plenty of single and available men in the public sector; where you can approach and make the first move. If you're so old-fashioned you can't. You are missing out on a lot. You have to stand around, waiting for a man to fall out of the sky.
I'm gay. "It's raining men" is only a song. You have to make yourself available, and have the nuggets to speak up. It's the twenty-first century, my dear.
If you have something to say, say it. If you don't, stand around watching him watch other women. Sounds kinda creepy to me.
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (16 February 2014):
 Attention from the opposite sex is wonderful and makes us feel really good but it loses that "feel good" factor when that attention is not exclusively for you.
This guy might be nice but his actions are juvenile and a little creepy. I mean, he's talking to you and is obviously eyeing up other women as he's doing so! Is this guy for real?
The word desperate springs to mind when I think of this guy.
I'm not suggesting men shouldn't appreciate a pretty women or vice versa but it's rude and immature to be quite so obvious about it.
Is he interested in you? Well he might be but, if he is, I can't believe it's in a good way as he's not spending time getting to know you and is unable to keep his eyes from the other women around him.
If I were you, I'd be waiting for a man who could at least maintain eye contact with me during a lunchtime conversation and was more interested who I was and getting to know me better.
I hope this helps AB x
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