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36-40,
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writes:Hi,I had a very bad break up a year ago and then after six months. I met a man who is 20 years elder to me and he was interested in me and we soon shared a very understanding relationship. we were very clear that we did not want to make a serious commitment towards each other bcoz our circumstances are such. he is married and i dont want to break his family. but we decided to be a solid support system for each other. initially we used to talk everyday and share our problems but since two months he has been completely out of contact. the only mode of contact i have is his phone number and the saddest part of the story is that we have never met each other. I used to be behind him. I used to call and sms him . recently he decided to come and visit me but abruptly cancelled his plan and did not even inform me. then i got very wild and wrote rude smses which i shouldn't have and now he is very angry and does not want to talk to me. the last i spoke to him he talked very rudely.I want to apologize for being rude and end the relationship if he also wants the same thing. but deep down i dont knw why i have become very attached to him.how should i get over this double feeling? please advice coz i feel that before things get ugly. i should cut the cord of relationship here. its better to have good memories than bad ones.Thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, tibob  +, writes (31 May 2014):
 You got attached to a man you have never met? Your need of affection made you attached to him. He is older than you, more mature. Thats why you felt this way. He is married? Why are you with this man? Apparently, he cannot bmd trusted and he is afraid of meeting you. Maybe he told you that he is unhappy with his wife all this and you think you are his saviour. Now that you are no longer in contact, seize this opportunity to detach yourself from him
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (31 May 2014):
 His abruptly cancelling the plans tells me his wife found out what her lying, cheating, two timing husband was up to.
Of course he will be angry when you try to talk to him, he doesn't want his wife to toss him out on his ear.
All he wanted was sex, until his wife cooled his ardour.
You have had a lucky escape, getting tangled up in somebody else's marriage is never a good idea.
Next time you go man hunting pick one that isn't already attached.
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