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writes:Hello,so I will start by saying this isn't a sordid affair.I am 21 and have been at university for two years. (I started at 19, as I had a gap year) Anyway, I have been dating this guy (who is much older than me) since June 6th 2015, so nearly a year.Turned out quite quickly after we started dating that he is a lecturer at the university I attend. He hadn't taught me up to this point and he wouldn't have much to do with my 2nd year (besides being a member of staff on one trip) He has never had any part in grades etc.We decided as soon as we knew it was serious that we needed to let his boss's know about our relationship. (It isn't just sex)Apparently our university doesn't have an issue with student/ prof dating/hook up etc as long as they have no impact on there grades.So our relationship is known by the people who need to know. But on this trip we went on and he was present (It was a residential trip)I ended up having an accident where I fell over and ended up needing to go to the hospital and needed stitches. My boyfriend was one of the member of staff that needed to come with me in the ambulance as he spoke the native language.(My personal tutor also came)Anyway at some point of the whole getting stitched up and being in a lot of pain, I must have grabbed my boyfriends arm/hand. He obviously didn't have an issue with this.My personal tutor saw this and didn't to us say anything. He did however go back to the hotel and speak to the leader of the trip (who was aware of our relationship, the only member of staff on the trip who was)Now there is gossip going around that we are sleeping together, amongst the lecturers. I'm sure it won't take long to reach students ears.TO BE CLEAR: UNIVERSITY ARE AWARE OF OUR RELATIONSHIP AND IT HAS ALL BEEN CLEAREDQuestion: Is there anything I/we can do to a stop these rumours?Why do they care?Any help/advice?
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reader, Pureflame  +, writes (20 March 2016):
If everyone knows, you shouldn't care about the gossip. As to why people care, some people just have a tendency to talk about other's people's life, it's sort of in their nature.
But if you act guilty, you only supply them more reasons to gossip.
As Tisha-1 said, keep your head held high and laugh it off if someone comes up with any comments. Just think, they have nothing better to do with their lives. As it is, you don't have a reason to be guilty. From what you say, you haven't done anything wrong.
Good Luck ;)
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (20 March 2016):
 I guess I have to ask, if it’s all hunky dory and okie dokie by the university powers-that-be, why does it have to be a secret?
There’s that old saying, “three can keep a secret if two of them are dead” which may apply here.
Eventually, this would have come out. I guess it happened now.
If it’s all okay and fine by the university, then hold your head up, carry on and make sure you follow the rules and regulations of the university.
I’m sure your friends will support you.
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reader, suzzzque269 +, writes (20 March 2016):
 juust simply say you were scared and in pain
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