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writes:I had a crush on this guy since March 2008, and it wasn't just the puppy-love kind. I felt really attracted to him. He was younger than me, but I felt it didn't matter, because he was still my classmate. Anyway, I gave up on him a week after I fell in love with him, thinking that I'll never see him again. Turns out that he was, again, my classmate for this school year. A week ago, I found out that he has a crush on me. Hate to say it, but I was enthralled. I still have a crush on him, you see. I really like this guy, and, well, I kinda felt something towards him: i was really in love. I never stared at something for so long, with only one thing on my mind: HIM. Love is indeed complicated. Anyway, i guess i just wanna know something: should i give up on this guy? He's one of my closest friends, and i guess it's kinda odd when you and your friend happen to like eachother, especially when it's gonna be a topic amongst other friends. I like him, really, but i think he's kinda taking over my life. Please help!
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reader, SuperSammie  +, writes (8 August 2008):
 hi there.
it says you'r 13-15, so you are still very young,and love and crushes could seem very much teh same thing.
the only thing i can say do is to still be mates but spend a bit of time alone, just talking about how you feel towards eachother.
if you feel you do really like him then it could be the perfect relationship for you both, especially as you are so close as friends - this could mean you would be even closer as girlfriend and boyfriend.
but the only thing you can do is spend time with him, and in the future if you do start a relationship, good luck :)
but if it doesn't work - at least you tried, and you'll still be great mates.
and there's plenty other guys out there for you, especially at your age.
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reader, 19yearoldguru  +, writes (8 August 2008):
dont pursue it, your 13-15, im not going to say too young for a realationship, but ill just tell you most things that kick off like this usually end in break up if not in 1 month definately in 2, so unless you want to get hurt walk away and just be friends, if he tells you how he feels like "i like you" after finding out you like him, go for it, but if things start to happen such as arguements over something small, or badmouthing, spreading rumors, automatically go for the dump button until he decides to grow up a little
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reader, consciousmess +, writes (8 August 2008):
I know what you mean when you say you have strong feelings for him as I can relate to this. I suggest you spend time with him and find similar interests.
I think true love grows when you find out more about each other and have overlapping interests, along with physical attraction. What would happen if you asked hime out on a date?
I always have the matra never have regrets and the worst regret is not doing anything. At the end of the day what is the worst that could happen?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2008): I'm not sure what kind of help you're looking for!
All I can suggest is that the two of you hang out together for a while and see how you get on together. Lusting after him and being more than just friends will put a whole new perspective on things between you.
Offer to cook him a meal or something and show him your culinary skills.
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