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writes:dear cupid well im seein this guy ive known for a long time now and he is understanding and he would never pressure me to have sex he told me he wud wait for me when im ready but thats the thing im 14 and he iz 18 and he iz realy nice but i dont think it shud matter of age if we arent goin to do nothin wrong but i dont kno if to say yes i mean i wud never have sex if im not ready and he knos that and he told me he didnt care bout that... so idk if i shud go out with him i rly wnt too though Reply to this Question
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reader, previasc96 +, writes (13 August 2008):
Don't date him! you will be setting yourself up for desaster! He will be going to college next year and waiting for a 15 year old will go right out the window! yeah, he's really gonna tell his frat bothers "my girl friend is a sophmore... in highschool". I with all the hot and horny freshman girls coming on to him, you to won't last a semester! Or even worse, he'll sleep with the college girls and hold hands in the park with you on weekends!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2008): I'm not trying to talk down to u coz ur younger am just calling it as I see it =)
Believe me @ ur age 4 years IS ALOT.
U may not think it but u've not been thro it yet,I was in a similar situation @ ur age & the age gap was noticeable.
For example my b/f would want to go to the pub but obviously I couldn’t.
So I then ended up feeling like I was holding him back.
We also had to hide our relationship from some people & my mum was far from happy about it & my mum is very laid-back about everything.
Its really not worth the stress at ur age to be honest.
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reader, lotsofgiggles123 +, writes (12 August 2008):
 ok i think you should date him if you wanna like keep it bf gf relation ship but unless you want him to go to jail you should
not have sex with him ......welll at least not until your 18
oh yea if your parents arnt ok with it you should probably wait
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reader, x-kitycatlok-x  +, writes (12 August 2008):
 Okay, age gaps are absolutely no problem at all, especially one as little as four years. As long as he doesn't pressure you into doing anything you don't want to do then there's no problem at all. Go for it and good luck!
Don't let anyone else tell you otherwise.
Wishing you the best.
xx
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reader, junebug +, writes (12 August 2008):
i totally agree wit sammie.but just be carefull! When i was 13 i dated a 20 yr old and he was understanding just like ur guy.but i still was young and had a lot of growning up to do and i relized that now days but then i didnt.even if u guys dont ever have sex u can still get ur heartbroken.but anyways u probaly dont wanna hear all that so anyways if he isnt gonna pressure u into anything and he is as great as what ur saying then go for it.....before some1 else does!j/k. Well just dont listen to every1 telling u its wrong and yelling at u.just be carefull of ur heart.best of luck
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (12 August 2008):
 if you want to, go for it. i wouldn't let my little sister do it, though, unless this guy went through some major interrogations first.
sex isn't the only problem here, although it is great he is going to wait for you to come around. while you are in 8th grade to freshman year, he is a senior in high school to first year in college. there is a huge gap between you two in terms of experience, intellect, maturity, things you can and cannot do...
i'm not saying it to be mean but to be completely frank with you. he is legally an adult and you are still a child. he can drive and you probably don't even have your license yet... things like that could create huge gaps between the two of you.
if he isn't in college yet, what will happen when he does go? the majority of my friends broke up with their boyfriends and girlfriends their first year of college... would you be able to handle it?
generally i don't start relationships just because i like someone. i only date someone if i think it will go somewhere, if i think it will be a lasting relationship... mostly because i hate break ups. i don't see reason to date someone if i am going to have to go through an awkward break up a couple weeks later...
so maybe ask yourself if things really will last longer than just a short amount of time. also ask yourself whether you see him staying with you when he goes to college, and how you will feel if things end. ask yourself if the age difference will play a part if, say, he wants to go out clubbing at an 18+ club with other girls since you aren't old enough to go. or if his friends and your friends will get along. what your parents will think.
it's really up to you, there are just more things to keep in mind because the age difference is so large.
i hope i helped and good luck!
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reader, straight to the truth +, writes (12 August 2008):
When i was 15 i started to date a 21 year old, he was my first boyfriend and I was crazy about him. The only problem was my father didn't approve and he made my life hell for at least 6 months before accepting it.
The thing about this is I was with him for 9 months before we slept together because i was young and didn't want to make any mistakes and he respected me for that.
Because it was me he wanted and not just sex. Because of this we stayed together for 5 years and went on to get engaged and a home together.
So this proves that although you are young and there is a quite an age gap at your age, as long as you are smart enough not to rush into an intimate relationship with this man and instead take it slow and get to love eachother for who you are, and he doesn't pressure you in anyway then these age gaps can work and you can be very happy.
Just make sure you are smart and keep your senses about you. Also be prepared for a very bumpy ride when it comes to telling your family.
Also remember if this man has any form of intimacy with you whilst uder age he can be done for statutory rape and considered a peadophile. Please be very careful.
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reader, SuperSammie +, writes (12 August 2008):
 if you want to then do it.
as long as he doesnt pressure you into anything you dont wanna do then, go for it =)
but the 4year age gap could be a problem for your parents and other people. as they will think he is just tryin to have sex with you or something.
but if u wer 18 and he was 22 they wouldnt care. but its cause you are still a very young teenager and he is now an adult. so if you do get tgether be prepared for people to talk you out of it
hope this helps x
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