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*biiBabes
writes:Im quite a shy girl, and tonight i'm going on top for the 1st time. I lost my virginity to my boyfriend im with now. That was about two weeks ago. And he has asked me to go on top several times. And i say next time alot. Or i dont want to. He asked me why, because you dont know what to do? i said its not just that, im self-conscious. And he replied, But dont be. its not like you're with someone who just wants sex. You're with someone that loves you alot. I do want to go on top but im just too shyy ): And im afraid i'll look dodge while im tryng to figure out what to do :SAny Advice for me? (:xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2008): do it when you are ready. i was scared to do it at first too especially because my boyfriend is rather..em..large..and i was afraid it was going to hurt (but it hurts everytime we have sex--nothing is wrong, he's just big) but i did get on top a few days ago and seeing the complete pleasure on his face as i was doing it took my shyness away, knowing i was making him feel good just made me happy. i hope you have a good experience!
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reader, AbiiBabes +, writes (8 August 2008):
AbiiBabes is verified as being by the original poster of the question soz da answer from below is from me lols x
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reader, Tii3RN3Ybbs. +, writes (8 August 2008):
 THANK YOU EVERYONE.
These woman on here are jokers lols x
I aint got the best of bodies flabby bits here and there lol !!
but yeh he loves me, i'll give it a go. i just want to please him .
will let you know how it went, tomorrow
x
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (8 August 2008):
 I had a few boyfriends before the guy I met when I was 21 (who is now my husband). Before I met him, it never occured me to go on top, and the situation/opportunity never arose, cos nobody suggested it to me, and I was used to meeting forward guys. I therefore viewed it as an advanced thing somehow.
When we first met, he just guided me in place and there it was so to speak. There was no discussion in advance or anything. Which meant no time to get worried or nervous or anything.
It is kind of like having your first time again in some ways. But I have never looked back, and he seems to prefer it, or always liked it by nature.
It's a different experience just go for it.
Fiona.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (8 August 2008):
 I really dont know why you are worried, you are only young and you probably look great. Wait till you get older and do it and your face falls forward, and boobs end up on his, even though you are sitting up... LOL. Now thats something to be scared of.
XXX
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reader, Tii3RN3Ybbs. +, writes (8 August 2008):
Hey Babes,
Don't Be Shy, I Mean yeah fair enough i don't like my body ethier,
but if he didn't like your body then he wouldnt wana have sex with you, if u get my point.
you too should just work with eatchother,
Help eatchother out, just laugh about it, don't be Shy.
I'm sure nathan will like it (:
Lolol.
tell me how it goes.
Tiierney x
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reader, SuperSammie +, writes (8 August 2008):
 hi there.
i had this problem - a lot!
i was with my ex for nearly 2 years, and it took nearly like 6months before i would be on top.
i think a lot of young woman have problems about the way they look and don't want to embarres themselves infront of a boy they really like, especially if the boy has had sexual partners before you.
but basicly you do just do what he does when he's on top. but you can either lay on top of him, or sit up so he can play with your boobs.
also with you being on top you get to control the speed and how much pleasure you recieve.
btu if you are to concious try it for the first time in the dark, this way he won't be able to see you then when you get more confident turn the lights on. also if its in the dark it could be a better atmosphere for you both so you could both enjoy it more.
hope this helps.
comment me for anything else x
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reader, AbiiBabes +, writes (8 August 2008):
AbiiBabes is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlol, thanks babes x
will see how it goes tonight (YN)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2008): You do much the same thing as he does when he's on top. A bit of up and down, in and out sort of thing. The good thing about being on top is that you can position your body so that you get maximum pleasure from it, only you can tell when you're hitting the spot and you can take control of whatever is going on.
From his point of view, a pair of boobs swinging around his face will please him no end. He can play with them and he can hold onto your backside which is also nice. It's no time to be self-conscious when you're having a spot of nookie!
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