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writes:hello, im a 14 year old girl and i really like this boy called andy (16) i met at a swimming pool where he works and i think he likes me but i really like this other boy called jamie (17) but all he seems to talk about is how pretty i am and how he wants to have sex with me but i have told him im not ready for sex please help me choose!
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (19 August 2008):
 I know it will be triteful of me to tell you to not go with either. Don't go with Andie because you don't like him and don't go with Jamie because he might just use you.
But I want you to think of something:
Don't you think that you like Jamie because he compliments you and sees you attractive? It feels so good when someone tells you you're so pretty and even more when the person finds you sexually attractive (it gives you a sense of power). I think that if he hadn't told you that you're so pretty that you would have gotten a crush on him.
So yeah, follow the advice of the other aunties. They're good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2008): OH MY GOD!!
STAY THE FU** AWAY FORM JAMIE!!
You might think older people just talk a lot of rubbish & go on & not listen to there advice but the only reason we give advice like this is that we have been there & done that before with BAD CONSIQENCES!!
This Jamie guy sounds very dodgy for a 17 year old to just say that out right to a 14 year old is wrong!!
He is just looking to use you!!
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reader, les +, writes (18 August 2008):
Any guy who tells you straight out that he wants to have sex with you is someone to stay away from.
If the five posts below didn't convince you and he still makes you feel special, think about all the other girls that he's said the same thing to you and has had sex with. Do you want to be # whatever?
A guy who is that confident in making such an aggressive sexual approach IS sexually experienced. Not only will he expect sex out of you, but other things you might not be interested in like blow jobs, hand jobs, etc...
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2008): If you're not ready for sex,then go with Andy,cause Jamie
already told yyou what he wants.
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reader, SuperSammie +, writes (18 August 2008):
 do NOT get with jamie.
if all he goes on about is sex, then he is a user!
he would go out with you, make u feel special and make u sleep with him,.. then he would leave you.
he would jut use you for sex! trust me... iv had my fair share of boys using me.
but the other guy, if you think he's a decent guy go out with him, but don't let him force u into anything either okay :)
just be carful thought cause your young n older guys will have already had sex and will want it again.
hope this helps :) x
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reader, x..BabyGirl..x +, writes (18 August 2008):
 Andy. Jamie is trying to sweeten you up so that you'll have underage sex with him. If you care about him you'll let him go. He's over 16 and so if he has sex with someone underage he could be arrested because he's more than two years older than the minor. He'll be charged with statutory rape. End of.
Andy, however cares about YOU; not the sex you can provide him with. My bet would be with him. Jamie sounds like a sleaze. If you have sex with him you're going to look easy and then you'll have guys teasing you when you walk past them and you'll feel like shit. Don't do it.
Get to know Andy. But don't do anything with him either because he could still be arrested for sex with a minor. It's not worth it, if you go out with Andy, wait until you're 16 and it will seem so worth it and he'll admire and respect you more for waiting.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2008): Neither. If you don't like the guy whose 16, then there's no need to choose him. If this older guy is bluntly wanting you for sex, chances are he doesn't really like YOU but only finds you attractive and because you're a few years younger than him, you'd be more easily persuaded to sleep with him.
Trust me. When I was 14, I had TONS of 16,17,18 yr olds who wanted to get with me because they thought I'd sleep with them and who always told me I was "pretty" or "hot" Sadly though, none of them were blunt enough from the start and it took me my entire freshmen year to figure out why all of these upper classmen wanted to "date" me so badly.
Unfortunately, in high school, you're more likely to be better off staying within your age group, whether you want to hear that or not. At 14, never date a 17yr old (or anyone for that matter) who tells you they are very interested in having sex with you. Older guys may SEEM like the cooler choice, but they aren't that much more mature than the guys your age in high school. If you want to date older men, then wait until your out of high school and into college where there'll more likely be some more mature, honest, men who want you for you and not your body.
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