Did she lie to boost my ego?
Q. So I told my wife the other night that she's the best lover I have ever had. She smilied, waited a bit and then said, "me too baby." I don't know what the pause entailed though. Just taking in the moment or deciding whether or not to tell me a ...
A. 30 August 2010: I've never understood why guys want to be "the biggest we've ever had." I guess I don't have enough testosterone to get it.
To tell you the truth, I don't want one of those porn guys and neither do most of the women I know. That shit would hu... (read in full...)
I need help on planning a romantic night!
Q. I'm planning a romantic night in a hotel for me and my boyfriend this weekend, but the thing is, i am no good with these things, how can i make it romantic? should i buy lingerie, rose petals, things like that?..Please help me! ...
A. 30 August 2010: Lucky you (and him)!
When I've done something like this in the past, I've visited the hotel room in advance and gotten everything ready. Then, whether you stay there and he arrives later or you both arrive together later, everything is all set ... (read in full...)
Am I being too uptight about this?
Q. I need some advice. My husbands parents go to these bike rallies where all the women walk around completely naked and you can see ppl getting blow jobs and having sex and stuff. Anything you can think of goes on at this place. Well they keep asking ...
A. 21 August 2010: I'm going to guess that "all" the women walk around "completely" naked is probably an exaggeration on someone's part and that while some sex acts may be witnessed, that, too, is likely an exaggeration.
I think the comments here noting that the... (read in full...)
I simply cannot come to terms with my man watching porn
Q. I am one of those dreaded women that simply cannot come to terms with my man watching pron. I have struggled with this since the day I started dating guys. I have literally done everything I can think and everything people have suggested to make ...
A. 21 August 2010: There are many guys (and girls) that watch porn that aren't sex addicts. Porn can (and is) a healthy part of some sexual relationships. [Just pointing out that every person that watches it isn't an addict.]
That said, I agree with OlderSis... (read in full...)
Should I come out to my family? And how do I tell them?
Q. Dear Readers, I'm a closeted gay and I'm have a difficult situation. Let's start at the begining... Two weeks ago me and my best mate were just walking in the park and we were casually walking and I tripped but his foot was in front of mine and...
A. 21 August 2010: Actually, it's not confusing at all.
It seems to me that if the two of you want to make a go of it, you need first and foremost to communicate with each other. .
If he's just come out to his family, then surely he must understand that ... (read in full...)
I'm a kink. He's not. Will this eventually cause problems for us?
Q. Quite honestly, I'm still young (18) and am still learning what I like. Nevertheless, based on my friends' experiences and tales (for whatever those are worth lol) I'd consider myself to be fairly kinky, as I'm into bondage and domination. The ...
A. 11 August 2010: Personally, I think that sex and love are both important and one shouldn't have to deny their satisfaction of either for the other.
I've found that most of the men I've dated were willing to try new things that I've asked of them, simply because ... (read in full...)
Back with the ex but not ready for sex. Should I tell him?
Q. DearCupid, I got back with my ex (whom was my first time) few weeks ago. We live in different cities and we decided to give it a go again, seeing that by the middle of next year I will be moving to his city because of a work transfer. The on...
A. 11 August 2010: If you try to just avoid those moments, in my opinion, if he's even a little intuitive, he'll sense that something is amiss. And, unfortunately, some of us are quite capable of imagining things far worse than reality.
It sounds to me like it would... (read in full...)
Questions about the pullout method and pregnancy. All advice is welcome!
Q. I just wanted to hear your own experiences and opinions regarding the following questions, feel free to say anything, i would really like to hear your answers. 1. Have you ever used the pullout method? (esp, how often?) 2. Have you or your...
A. 9 August 2010: Listen to OhGetReal and TalkingHelps. They know what they're talking about.
Whether or not anyone on this board has or does use the pull-out method isn't relative to your life, frankly.
I have lovely 20-year-old daughter who was conceived wh... (read in full...)
If women can only orgasm from G-spot and clitoral, then what about women who orgasm from kissing?
Q. If its true that women get orgasms from clitoral and g-spot stimulation only,then how can you explain those who get orgasms just by kissing their breasts,or massaging them,or whatever?...
A. 8 August 2010: Exactly what Miamine said. Different women experience orgasm differently and through differing means. This can include everything from kissing to light petting to bondage to submission and even experiencing pain.
Fondly,
Jill... (read in full...)
His touching doesn't feel as good as when I touch myself
Q. hey! i would appreciate your help very much. i am a girl, 21 years old. i'm with my boyfriend since one year. i love him very much and i find him VERY sexy. since i'm 12 years old i often masturbate and i always have great orgasms. most times wh...
A. 5 August 2010: Since you've 'practiced' pleasing yourself for so many years, it makes sense that you know what to do better than anyone else. Remember that he's had less than one year to get to know your body, and you've had 9 years experience masterbating! It ... (read in full...)
From freaky to enjoying it?
Q. Has your partner ever asked you to do something nasty or freaky, and the first time he asked you were shocked or found it weird, but eventually came to really enjoy it? What was it he asked for. I have been in a committed relationship for...
A. 5 August 2010: I've always been very open to the fact that different people like different things, so no one's ever asked me for something I found shocking or even weird. I sort of just thought, "Hmmm ... never thought of that one," and went right along with it.
... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has double standards about oral sex!
Q. Dear all my girlfriends says that me tasting her cum is ok and should be a pleasure but her tasting my is disgusting and degrading to women Help please...
A. 5 August 2010: Yes, your girlfriend clearly has a double-standard going on there. But I think you realize that already and don't really need us to point it out.
What you need is to get to the bottom of WHY she has this double-standard. What's making her feel... (read in full...)
Is tossing the salad a reglular part of lovemaking?
Q. Mod Note...OP's own title: Hey everyone. Is it normal for a man to be turned off by the idea of having anal sex with a woman and by the idea of tossing a woman's salad (pleasing her anus orally). I'm in love with my girlfriend and I find h...
A. 5 August 2010: It's quite typical for both men and women to enjoy a bit of anal stimulation during sex. It's also normal for both sexes to hesitate about doing the licking. Many people are uncomfortable because they fear the area is dirty. If this is the case for ... (read in full...)
What is important love or sex?
Q. [OP's own title] I love my bf so much and we have a blast together but when it comes down to sex he has a hard time satisfying me. He always ends up finishing before i do.What should i do?i dont want to leave him but like every woman i want to ...
A. 4 August 2010: Love and sex are both important to most people and one shouldn't have to choose between the two. If you're in a committed relationship and want it to last, communication is the key. The two of you need to be able to discuss the matter and find ... (read in full...)
My wife has a new sexual fetish. Is this normal?
Q. My wife likes me to lick her bum. This seems weird to me, and i am not sure i like it. I do it. This is hard to explain, but she seems to get off on dominating me. She says stuff like, "You like it when i F your face, don't you" or "lick that ...
A. 4 August 2010: It's quite normal for both men and women to enjoy a bit of anal stimulation during sex. It's also normal for both sexes to hesitate about doing the licking.
We can infer from your statement about having your arms pinned that this is what makes yo... (read in full...)
Sex and pregnancy
Q. Hey I was wondering when your pregnant how far along are most people when they stop having sex? Can it hurt the baby if you do it when your 8 or 9 months?Also sence your already pregnant is it safe to have sex with out a condom and have him cum ...
A. 4 August 2010: Without knowing your medical history, it would be unwise for anyone to tell you how long it's safe for you to have sex during pregnancy. For most women, it's safe to have sex right up until it's time to give birth, and no harm is done to the baby. ... (read in full...)
Slowly going crazy with guilt!!!
Q. *OP Title* This is a bit of a mess. I recently married my boyfriend (now husband) of 8 years. We are so happy and I love him so much and I know he loves me too. Ever since we got engaged I have been thinking about a mistake I made in the first 3 w...
A. 3 August 2010: Let me get this right: It was the first 3 weeks of your relationship, happened 8 years ago while you were living apart and with a man you had been seeing? Not only do I think you shouldn't tell him, but I don't think you have anything to feel guilty ... (read in full...)
I'm clueless on the ethics of sex
Q. Assume that I am an alien from another planet that know nothing at all about sex. In fact I don't know anything about sex. I have not had sexual intercourse and I am 29 years old. For religious reasons I have abstained from seeing prostitutes and ...
A. 3 August 2010: Do I think porn is as good and safer than a prostitute?
Definitely safer. As good as? I think being with another person - even if it is a prostitute - is likely better, but based on the quality of the encounter about which we're speaking and the ... (read in full...)
I'm clueless on the ethics of sex
Q. Assume that I am an alien from another planet that know nothing at all about sex. In fact I don't know anything about sex. I have not had sexual intercourse and I am 29 years old. For religious reasons I have abstained from seeing prostitutes and ...
A. 3 August 2010: Your questions are quite though-provoking, and I thought about them long after I wrote my response. I had some afterthoughts to share.
"... are their any reasons why men would find so little sexual fulfillment from seeing prostitutes so that the... (read in full...)
Why won't a nice guy fall for me? I feel ugly and depressed.
Q. I am 24 and have never been in love (not one that was reciprocated anyway). I believe this could be because I am not nice to look at (bordering on downright repulsive), slightly overweight and very very shy and also sarcastic. I do have a very ...
A. 3 August 2010: I agree wholeheartedly with those stating that you need to love your self first and gain self-confidence. Loving and accepting yourself are the first steps toward fulfillment in a relationship. After all, if you can't love yourself, why would anyone ... (read in full...)
I'm clueless on the ethics of sex
Q. Assume that I am an alien from another planet that know nothing at all about sex. In fact I don't know anything about sex. I have not had sexual intercourse and I am 29 years old. For religious reasons I have abstained from seeing prostitutes and ...
A. 3 August 2010: @John: Paying for sex with an escort is no more legal than paying for it with a prostitute and the fear of exposure should exist equally.
@Gabrielle: I've often joked that the women I know don't take money in exchange for sex in the traditio... (read in full...)
Why do men have to think about other girls when they masturbate?
Q. Hi there, I need some other thoughts on this matter. It is causing both myself and my boyfriend a lot of stress and arguments. I would be so grateful for your help: I have an issue with my boyfriend masturbating. This is because of...
A. 3 August 2010: TimmD and The Realist are offering good stuff here. As a female, I hope I can offer the viewpoint of having been where you are tempered with understanding more about myself than I did back then and a bit of where the men are on this topic.
Let m... (read in full...)
Straight BF seeks M2M
Q. My bf of 3 yrs who is 6 years younger than me recently posted an ad on Craigs List seeking for a m2m encounter. He claims he was curious to see what the difference if any was between receiving head from a man than a women. I believe this is the ...
A. 3 August 2010: If you want to attempt to save the relationship, I think that counseling for him and couples counseling would be a great idea. For him, to help him figure out what he wants; for both, because typically people stray when something is lacking the ... (read in full...)
I want to masturbate but need help getting started!
Q. Please give me sm tips on female masturbation whch I can perform during bath or at the nite time only as ours is a joint family n always crowded with people, I am nt married...
A. 3 August 2010: Contrary to popular believe, water doesn't make a good lubricant for ladies, so IN the bath may not be all that easy. Obviously you're thinking of this time because it offers privacy.
If the bath offers the best opportunity for you, try this: Ge... (read in full...)
I like them both! Do I risk a threesome?
Q. Hi everyone. I am bi and I love this girl I am with. But this guy who is younger keeps flirting with me. I was wondering if I should invite him to a threesome or just live to seperate lives. Please help!!...
A. 3 August 2010: I think it depends on what you want the future to hold. Are you looking for sexual playmates or a long-term relationship with one or the other?
If the former, are you or they into swinging? Is a threesome something in which THEY would readily ... (read in full...)
I'm clueless on the ethics of sex
Q. Assume that I am an alien from another planet that know nothing at all about sex. In fact I don't know anything about sex. I have not had sexual intercourse and I am 29 years old. For religious reasons I have abstained from seeing prostitutes and ...
A. 3 August 2010: If pleasure and pain are the two human motivators and if pain (and avoidance thereof) has more influence than pleasure, I would say that a prostitutes offerings of pleasure don't outweigh the potential pain. What pain, you ask? STDs, as you ... (read in full...)
How can I make my ex regret dumping me?
Q. I cut all the contacts with my ex when he told me about his new gf and said he was very happy together . But he wanted to stay with me as a friend.I denied saying that it may spoil his present relationship.But He insisted me to keep in touch with ...
A. 3 August 2010: You can't. Plain and simply, you cannot make him regret not being with you.
Success is the best revenge. Move on. You may move on and do so thinking that it's your best bet to getting him back, but once you've done it, you'll realize it's the... (read in full...)
Feel sick day after giving BJ?
Q. I met up with one of my old guy friends who i havent seen inn aa longg whilee andd ii endedd upp giving him head.... And the next day i felt like i had to throw up... Is it normal.... Butt iff ii memberr rightt... The head of his penis hit the thing ...
A. 2 August 2010: Hate it when I see a typo on the re-read that I didn't catch before posting.
The back of the throat thing SHOULDN'T be worry! =)... (read in full...)
Need a little clarification & help with giving my girl an orgasm??
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for 9 months and I still haven't made her orgasm. Fortunately it's not an indictment on me as she has never orgasmed before, although prior to the relationship I had not given a girl and orgasm so I'm not really sure ...
A. 2 August 2010: Rule number one: All women are different. So if you think you've never understood us before, consider that fate sealed. We all like different things and different things will make us orgasm.
That said, there are ways to work with us. :)
I ... (read in full...)
Addicted to masturbation and exhibitionist. Am I normal? What can I do?
Q. Ok, I'm a 18 year old guy and I've been wanking about 3x daily since I was 14. It used to be just when I was bored or in my room, but lately I have been feeling horney all the time. I've tried wanking more often (in school even) but that did not...
A. 2 August 2010: Addiction, according to dictionary.com is, "the state of being enslaved to a habit or practice or to something that is psychologically or physically habit-forming, as narcotics, to such an extent that its cessation causes severe trauma."
If it... (read in full...)
Feel sick day after giving BJ?
Q. I met up with one of my old guy friends who i havent seen inn aa longg whilee andd ii endedd upp giving him head.... And the next day i felt like i had to throw up... Is it normal.... Butt iff ii memberr rightt... The head of his penis hit the thing ...
A. 2 August 2010: Honestly, it may have been something you ate or even an emotional response and it may have been his semen, if you swallowed.
Oddly enough, however, I'm allergic to a particular food and, if my man eats it with 24 hours of my swallowing, I become... (read in full...)
How do you kick an mastibation habit?
Q. I m 19 yrs guy..i started masturbating since 15 yrs of age..at tht time it was jst a fun for me,but now it had become my habit..now i masturbate once in 2 days..i have become lean and skinny..i cant control this habit..i want to get rid of this ...
A. 2 August 2010: I agree that once every two days is NOT excessive! I'm a female and, if my man is unavailable, have been known to masterbate several times a week. Otherwise, he and I tend to have sex 5 or 6 times per week.
If you feel that you're obsessed... (read in full...)
Is my fetish normal?
Q. I'm an 18 year old boy and I have a fetish. I love dressing up in girls underwear and making my partner (female) dress up in mine. We then switch roles in the bedroom. My gf thinks ita hot but she is bi and wants to invite another bi girl ...
A. 2 August 2010: There really are two issues here: One regarding normalcy and the other regarding acceptance.
For the former, I agree with the others - there is no "normal" and as long as all parties enjoy it, it's not illegal, and no one is getting hurt (excludi... (read in full...)
I get TOO wet during sex, what do you advise?
Q. I get TOO wet during sex which really reduces the amount of pleasure for me. Is there anything I can do? ...
A. 2 August 2010: I'm curious as why being too wet reduces the pleasure for you. Is it physically uncomfortable or is it embarrassing to you which makes it emotionally uncomfortable?
Fondly,
Jill
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