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anonymous
writes:Dear Readers,I'm a closeted gay and I'm have a difficult situation. Let's start at the begining...Two weeks ago me and my best mate were just walking in the park and we were casually walking and I tripped but his foot was in front of mine and he ended up on top of me and I felt him get an erection not like a boner but he went hard and his cheeks went red and he rushed to his feet and later on he told me he had to tell me something and he confessed he was gay and he had feelings for me I was gay too but he didn't know I always assumed he was straight but now he came out I saw him in a different light, later that day after I comforted him I phoned him and arranged him to come over when he did I closed the door and kissed him he looked confused I said I was gay too he gave me a kiss back and we then were boyfriends he said he's come out to his whole family! But I haven't and I really like him and I think that this is the perfect love story but I don't want people to know I'm gay so I reject any public display of affection he tries I explain later but he's upset and thinks I don't want to be with him the thing is I'm falling in love with him so should l come out to my family and how? ( sorry If it's confusing I tried to say what happened quickly ad possible!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): If you are just honest with him, and he is worth your time, then he will respect your feelings and be patient.
Just tell him how you feel, and then when you are fully comfortable telling your family and the world about your sexuality, you will not have regrets and will feel happier yourself because you have done it only when you are fully ready, not pressured into anything. You don't have to come out to the world to prove your feelings. But it will be best if he can understand your feelings, as I think he doesn't right now.
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reader, der_zyniker  +, writes (21 August 2010):
You shouldn't come out just because your boyfriend did. You need to wait until you feel that it's the right time. If he pressures you to come out just tell him that.
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reader, Western3589 +, writes (21 August 2010):
 Well coming out is your decision and always will be. Don't feel forced, but most the time telling your family your gay isn't that hard, there are those situations like you see on tv where the father is a manly ex marine and he doesn't want a gay son. But most the time it's not like that, and your family will support you. If they love you and don't care what choices you make about your lifestyle then tell them.
And if they are real un supportive and mean, then they are not even worth telling
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reader, StrayTogether.com +, writes (21 August 2010):
 Actually, it's not confusing at all.
It seems to me that if the two of you want to make a go of it, you need first and foremost to communicate with each other. .
If he's just come out to his family, then surely he must understand that you're not quite ready to do the same thing? Tell him how you feel, talk about your insecurities and why you're not ready to come out, and ask for him to be patient. Assure him that you want to be with him, but make sure he understands that you're just not quite ready to go public, as he has.
There are other ways you can assure him that you want to be in the relationship, such as leaving love notes, buying small gifts, etc. Try some of those things and during times that he's respectful of your desire to NOT go public or show PDAs, thank him for his understanding and let him know that his efforts didn't go unnoticed.
Fondly,
Jill
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): You're 13-15, [as am i], you're hormones are raging and its normal to have feelings for other boys. You could be into boys now but later realize that you like girls later. However, if you're sure that you are gay and you love you're boyfriend, thats perfectly fine. You shouldnt be ashamed of who you are, and neither should you're family.
I did some searching for websites that might help you and I found this:
http://www.ehow.com/how_17146_come-parents.html
I hope this will help you and I wish you the best of luck!:]
P.S I dont know if the website highlighted and you can click on it to go straight to the website so you might have to type it in. [sorry]
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